I was pretty late to the party when it came to losing my virginity.
I had crushes in high school, but I was never able to go beyond that. I was at ease around my close peers and had wonderful friends, but I avoided interacting with other people.
I was notoriously shy and I stumbled over words and was totally insecure. I read books where I could escape into the world of the author. I listened to music, so I could hide in my room and escape from my own world.
I loved to write stories, and it was here on paper that my words never stuttered. I could manicure these words into beautiful paragraphs of expression. Refine them in my own time, and be as confident as I wanted and as sassy as I felt like. I was a poet. I was communicating in a way that made me comfortable.
I remember when I was sixteen, I stole a little book from my older sister. It was a book of erotica short stories. It was like finding a hidden treasure and that book hid under my mattress for years. It was probably the equivalent to a porn magazine that belonged to a teenage boy.
Those pages were well worn, ear-tagged with favourites, and fully covered in my pussy juices from reading them over and over again. As I masturbated to its words, over and over again.
In my hands I had a book of naughty sex stories, and it was my holy grail. For me, reading is an adventure and get to take trips to places all around the world. I met people of all different natures as they explored each other's bodies.
My obsession with erotica had begun. A fascination with cocks, pussies, clits, BDSM, head jobs, nipples, tits, breasts, and did I mention boobs? I read about fetishes and kinks and got excited about asses and their holes. I was addicted.
Our family didn’t have a computer at this stage, and it was well before we had the internet at the tips of our fingers. I think my current smart phone has enabled more porn videos than phone calls.
I have access to so much erotica. Stories by the thousands, with topics and categories to my heart's desire. I still take the time to appreciate that little book, though. I wish I had kept it for sentimental reasons, because I remember it often.
I’d quickly developed a fetish for breast play and masturbation, and I also knew how to be really quiet. This started my art of quiet orgasms. Quietly spoken and silently orgasming.
When I got to my senior year, I eventually let people read some of my poems and stories. They appreciated them, which was a relief because it was a big deal to let people into my mind. I also started to love the feeling of stepping over the imaginary line that was my comfort zone. I was slowly starting to feel more confident.
I’d had a few chances to have relationships after I turned eighteen and the first one was with a mate. He was funny, handsome, kind, and probably too good for me. He was so nice that I kept thinking that I’d struggle to break up with him if it didn’t work out.
I didn’t want to ever hurt his feelings. I didn’t allow him to be my first kiss, as much as I wanted to. I probably regret this a little because my sexual journey could be completely different if I’d settled for my friend, but would I be who I am today? I don’t think so.
There were a couple of others that aren’t even worth mentioning. A bit of putting myself out there but not getting anything in return. Rejection at its finest. Loneliness was starting to set in and friends were starting to couple up, and I was left walking home alone and masturbating to my little book of erotica.
So, then it finally happened. I was nearly nineteen, and a guy I’d liked in high school showed an interest. I think I was at the stage where I said,
"Fuck it! Let’s get this shit over and done with."
This was my moment. I could use this previous crush that I liked, but wasn’t attached to, to advance my sexual game to the next level. I could use him to teach me and further my reach outside my comfortability zone.
He was four years older than me and still had the same long, curly hair that he’d had in high school. He lived around the corner from my parents' house, and on this particular night we got a taxi home together, you know, for convenience. He asked if I wanted to come over for a drink, and I said, "Hells yes!"