Forum posts made by 1zratedgal

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 21 Aug 2012 21:01

Has an intriguing profile!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic This one is bold, see how many reply!! What is your.....
Posted 21 Aug 2012 20:26

I'd Love to reply but there are so many that I love and the really good ones I used to enjoy, I can't find anymore!

But I do love all sorts of porn and have a variety of favorites from classics to current!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 21 Aug 2012 20:20

I love RC's Profile pic!
That time of the day is so enticing!

And I Love his priority of his family first!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic spontaneous arousal?
Posted 21 Aug 2012 20:15

It happens a lot for many women.
But unlike men, you can't always tell!

Some of us get really flushed and turn rosey or red.
Some get goosebumps all over,
Some of us quiver,
Some of us make funny sounds,
Some of us get super hard erect nipples,
Some of us need to sit down and breathe,
Some of us get dizzy,
Some of us get super affectionate,

Whatever happens, happens!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic What if your significant other found out about you being on Lush?
Posted 16 Aug 2012 23:55

Hell! they encouraged me to be here!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Ever used a Sybian?
Posted 14 Aug 2012 18:47

The Sybian is one of the ultimate pleasure toys!

It is something that every woman needs to at least try once!

It can be fun to experience in a party situation with other women but it is also something that couples can share in the pleasure!

I've had many fun times with others and by myself!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic How old do I look?
Posted 12 Aug 2012 22:40

By the avatar photo, I have to agree with the general concensus.
you do look like you are in your late teens.

Kisses!

Steph

Topic In The Shower
Posted 12 Aug 2012 22:30

I love it!

It is always a great place of foreplay and sometimes wicked fun as well!
Anything and anywhere there is water, gets me going!

When I travel, I look for certain hotels with special facilities so that I can enjoy the showers / baths for myself or with others!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic question for the older women (over 30)
Posted 12 Aug 2012 01:45

I agree with Nikki and Sweet Penny.

Be nice, respectful and just talk to her.
Don't try to be a big shot or overly impress her.
Just be yourself and express your interest in her.

Best of luck to you and please let us know how it goes!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Is girls masturbating still considered taboo?
Posted 12 Aug 2012 00:53



I bought a GF a double ended dildo for her divorce party, she absolutely insisted we try it there at the party. We got applause from the other women there.

I have found that when using a double ended with anyone new, it always gets that reaction!

Love it!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Open Relationships
Posted 11 Aug 2012 19:16

To add an update: I would just like to let everyone know that we have decided not to open the relationship. We found that we both felt a little "weird" about the idea of being with someone else. I'm sure that even if the opportunity arose that I could actually sleep with someone else. Its just one of those things where we are comfortable and happy with what we have that we aren't willing to risk the consequences of our actions.

I am glad to hear that you two had discussions about this and have been open and honest with each other!
Coming from a marriage in which my Hubby and I have been in the lifestyle for decades, I can tell you that if you did not do this completely and honestly with each other from the beginning and continue on, IT WON'T WORK!!!

It's not for everyone! But if it can help enhance your sex play and add to the fantasies or pursuits of pleasures, then it's a good thing!

I like how others made suggestions of seeing others or trying some out of town open swingers events. There are often meet and greets with well organized clubs and it helps people get an understanding of the culture and social environments.

Personally, I would suggest you two continue being open and honest with each other and freely discuss the desires or fantasies you get and then use them as roleplay / foreplay for your personal enjoyment. If this becomes a continual desire for you both, you could also look into finding sex clubs or people who would do non-contact, same room sex or maybe allow you two to be voyeurs and have your own pleasures without the risks of swapping or trading.

Kisses!

Steph

Topic always having a backup guy
Posted 11 Aug 2012 19:07

Is it really a back-up guy? Or just a guy that gives you the thrill of knowing he desires you? You know? The chase?

Like others have said, it seems like you enjoy the attention but more so, the true factor here I believe is that knowing you are able to flirt with this back-up guy and string him along so that you are the object of his desires, even though you claim to never have sex with them.

I believe you are using these guys as your ego boost and need to evaluate how you would feel if you were treated that way.
Otherwise, you are not giving all of yourself to the relationship with your BF and are not being honest with yourself!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Sister In Law
Posted 11 Aug 2012 19:03

I'm a contradiction here!

While I agree with what most people say about not going for it, I did the opposite and actually set it up so my Hubby and my older sister could get it on with each other.

But! Based on the way the O.P. started this thread, I don't think it is a good idea for him to pursue it without an open and honest discussion with his wife. If they are not in an open marriage, it is already a closed subject, in my mind!

However, if they are in an open marriage, then it really depends on the boundries set by the wife and husband, as well as the sister-in-law!

In almost any case, it is a DANGEROUS Situation that could cause problems later or even many years from now!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic How many of you ladies actually get off when you're cybering?
Posted 05 Aug 2012 19:21

I usually get very "inspired" and try to make sure the other person enjoys our fun time online!

I will often get off somehow, either online or afterwards, recalling the chat.

No matter what, I enjoy the fun with someone new or the first time, the best!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Strapless strap-ons
Posted 05 Aug 2012 15:17

What Nikki stated about Kegels is true and still necessary for the strapless dildos.

I've had a lot of fun with the Feeldoe toys and if used with an woman of equal or superior vaginal and pelvic muscle control, it can be a wicked and amazingly enjoyable experience!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic middle age woman 40-55
Posted 05 Aug 2012 15:14

I found that as I aged, I did enjoy sex more, but I believe part of that was because I had a partner who got to know my needs and wants as did his. Since he passed away, I have not had sex with anyone. And during this time, I have also discovered an interest in women, though I have yet to act on these feelings. However, I do seem to crave sex more than I did before, often finding myself quite horny. And, in cybering with women, I found I have had some of the longest and most intense orgasms of my life. So I guess the answer is yes.

That was almost as beautiful as you are Cas!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Roleplaying scenarios
Posted 05 Aug 2012 15:12

I agree that with many women, we don't get fantasies as much as men do. I've heard this in many conversations with other women and groups and it may seem strange or far fetched to guys, but we don't fantasize in the same manner as guys do!

Some of us do! But instead, we get aroused by "triggers" that are more like "instant inspirations" if you will.
It usually is something subtle and not always a direct or deliberate action or circumstance that arises and causes arousal. It can be a simple gesture or we witness a certain action of a person we are attracted to that gets our juices flowing! A great example of a similar situation is when we watch some tv shows, movies or even commercials, and for no reason, we cry! Not always bad crying but many times tears of joy, happiness and rememberance of something special.

So if you get what I just stated, I suggest you carefully pay attention to your wife and see what simple things or gestures interest her our makes her smile, then build upon it and create a scenario with what you've identified as something that pleases or interests her. A word of advice, don't just focus on the one item, you may need to have a couple things that you could interweave together and make into a more interesting scenario!

Good Luck!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic middle age woman 40-55
Posted 05 Aug 2012 14:55

Oh GOD YES!!!!

If you looked at my profile or spent any time on the forums or chat rooms, you would know that I have more fun now than when I was younger!

Part of the reason is that we are better set in our lives, focus more time on ourselves and are more in tuned with our bodies, desires and are willing to go after what we want! Basically the same reasons we are more accepting of being MILF's and having more fun sexually without fear of social stigmas!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Black and Whites
Posted 02 Aug 2012 03:04

God! That last one is so HOT!!!

I'd love to be in that position!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Spit or Swallow
Posted 02 Aug 2012 02:54

Oh definitely swallow....And Lisa is correct..It's not polite to spit

Unless you're sharing it with me! LOL!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic When did you realize you liked cum?
Posted 28 Jul 2012 16:25

When I first read this, I thought it asked "When did you realize you liked TO cum?" In which case it would have been the dumbest question ever asked!! My Bad!

So? Answer the question Nikki!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Buying a sex toy for my girlfriend
Posted 28 Jul 2012 14:56


And if you decide to get one, I would recommend something from the Lelo line. Granted, they are more pricey but as in all things you get what you pay for!!

I would advise the same thing!

Nikki KNOWS what She's Talking ABOUT!!!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 25 Jul 2012 22:36

Danielle has a nice variety of stories she's written and posted!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic why do young guys like older chicks?
Posted 24 Jul 2012 13:27

First off, I'm not a "chick"
I don't think that term could be applied to me or any other woman over the age of 25, maybe as late as 30!
I am much more comfortable being a MILF and possibly a cougar...

To answer the question, I believe it is a couple of attractions.

Most guys will always have an attraction to an older woman based on a nurturing image of a mother figure in their minds.
With the way the world has changed over the last 20 years, women from their late 30's on have taken better care of themselves and allowed themselves to dress and behave in a manner that blurred the lines of ages between their 30's, 40's, 50's and beyond!

There is always the boys mental image of losing their virginity to an older and experienced "madam" like many older guys told stories about.
This fantasy also carries over since us women are now more experienced, older, wiser and willing to go after what we want in sexual pleasures! This sometimes makes other see us a "wanton", "Sexually Aggressive" and more carefree about sex!

Add the fact that we dress more casually and often have ourselves in better physical shape to show off our bodies, it makes it more interesting for guys and gals who are younger or less experienced.

Kisses!

Steph

Topic making pussy tighter
Posted 23 Jul 2012 18:40

For what it's worth, here is my serious answer to the original posters question.

Believe it or not, it is possible to tighten your vagina.
But! like all physical changes, it takes a lot of time, dedication and conscientious thought.
What I am about to describe has worked for several women I know, including myself, and we are all over 40 and some even many years past 50!

I can't guarantee this works for every woman, but for those who are willing to work at it, it can make at least a slight, if not significant difference.

First, you have to get your mindset that with anything that you are trying to physically change about yoursef, it takes time and does not happen overnight! It's just like loosing a large amount of weight, or gain a major amount of muscle. It takes time!

The muscles in the vagina are like any other in your body. They can be built up from proper exercise and care, but can also be torn down from overuse and not taking proper care of them. There are many groups of muscles and they all can be exercised and strengthened, which will also make them naturally tighter and also stronger during contraction.

Everyone has heard of Kegels and without a doubt, this is the first step to learning how to get yourself familiarized with your physiology and understanding how to control and work the groups to get more strength while doing the contraction exercises.

Now here is a key lesson to add to the kegels. It is something people who play wind musical instruments would understand as you would have to build facial muscles so that their lips can maintain a tight and controlled opening that has the ability to open and close as needed but in a smooth and controlled fashion. The lesson is that while doing the kegel exercises that involve the clenching of the vaginal muscles, you need to take a full and deep breath, and breathe normally while clenching and relaxing. Most people will tend to hold their breath as they bear down or tighten the vaginal muscles and this will only give limited strength. By doing the clenching and relaxing while breathing normally, you are encouraging muscle control at all times and eventually, you can do it at will without having to concentrate on doing them.

Something else I should have mentioned in the beginning. You should have a variety of toys or objects that are decreasing in sizes. Essentially, you will start with a dildo or object similar to your normal lover's size and length if possible, then decreasing in size until you get down to something near the size of the pencil or pen. Yes! That small! The items can be ribbed but ideally, there should be a variety of diameters, textures and even tapered if possible. The reason for the variety is to be able to hold any thing and develop a clamp onto any shape or texture. The smooth objects will be the hardest to hold but a tight grip can be achieved to maintain a grip, even with a juicy kitty or lots of lubrication!

The next thing to consider is to do a series of exercises immediately after sex! Seriously! This is the method to overcoming the looseness from being over used! Like an athlete or musician, there is a warm down or cool down period and without it, muscles can loose memory. The way to start out is to use a dildo or object that is smaller than the lover who last fucked you. You start with inserting the object only part way, (like the head is just inserted), and breathe normally while attempting to clamp down and hold the object. Normally, your muscles at the opening with tighten down and push out the object so you will have to keep trying to hold it in position. If you are successful in holding the item, try pulling it out a bit and repeat the clenching until you barely have the item inside you. After you have done this for about 5-minutes, get a cold damp towel and pack your vaginal area to cool it down and help the muscles contract. You could also take this further by using a smaller dildo that can be chilled or frozen and inserted inside you. YES! It is COLD! But it helps to tighten down the muscle walls and contract the capillaries around the muscles.

As you become more proficient, move your position from lying on your back to being on all fours like in doggy style. Having your legs apart, creates more focus on your part to isolate the vaginal muscles and use them to control the contractions. Not relying upon using the inner thigh muscles! After you get more control in the prone position, try it standing up with you feet at a shoulders width apart!

The exercises goes further over time as you place the objects further inside and repeat the processes while also reducing the size and diameters of the objects used. As you develop the muscle contractions, you will also need to step up your cool downs and do those more often and not just after sex! Eventually, you can also develop control for small items like bullets or Ben-Wah balls. These are more advanced but you can exercise with them during the day while sitting, standing and walking to increase the control as well as tighten the muscles.

I have seen some women, (older than me! I might add!), who can keep a tight grip on a pencil! If you tried to grab it from them, it breaks apart!

It takes time and dedication but it has worked for me and a few friends to the point where I developed what guys call a "Snapping Pussy". And I'm happy that guys like it!

One other thing, if you have taken large, tree-trunk cocks for a long time, this may help only a little bit as you have probably torn muscle ligaments over time. You may be able to tighten up but it will take longer and more concentrated efforts to get results. There are women who can take on the largest dicks believable but can also be tight for the smaller and average sized guys. It just is a matter of working at it with the right methods, attitude and patience!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic How many partners have you juggled at one time?
Posted 20 Jul 2012 19:50

Oh Hell!

The answer makes me a SLUT!!! LOL!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Ladies: Pubic Hair
Posted 15 Jul 2012 17:52

Depends on the occassion and people I'll be with!
Mostly shaved and smooth but will let it grow at times and have fun being shaved!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic nude photos
Posted 13 Jul 2012 13:04

Yes. I enjoy having my pics takesn and love showing off myself. But we have had problems in the past with people who found out and caused us much grief.
What we have posted since is very carefully chosen to not show faces or locations to give too much away, so that we don't have any more problems.

Kisses!

Steph

Topic Describe your orgasm
Posted 09 Jul 2012 23:30

I wish I could!
There are so many different sensations and emotions and no two climaxes are the same!
I believe that is why I'm so constantly horney!
I might be trying to duplicate the last great experience again!

Kisses!

Steph

Topic How many of you ladies actually get off when you're cybering?
Posted 09 Jul 2012 23:22

The few times I have cybered I did get off but I am really not into cybering. To be honest, I find cyber sex to be very awkward. I do however sometimes enjoy masturbating while chatting with someone about sex or fantasies, most times without the persons knowledge but sometimes I will tell them afterward.

I would cyber again with the right person, a few in particular I can think of, but so far they havent offered, LOL!!

Bet I can get you goin! LOL!

Kisses!

Steph