Extroverted (E) 57.14% Introverted (I) 42.86%
Intuitive (N) 70.59% Sensing (S) 29.41%
Feeling (F) 69.7% Thinking (T) 30.3%
Perceiving (P) 62.96% Judging (J) 37.04%

ENFP - "Journalist". Uncanny sense of the motivations of others. Life is an exciting drama. 8.1% of total population.

Well then.

I just think her head and heart were in the wrong place. She has a misconstrued idea of what is "normal" and what the behaviour is that follows. Someone should have brought her up with a more open mind is all.

I just think her head and heart were in the wrong place. She has a misconstrued idea of what is "normal" and what the behaviour is that follows. Someone should have brought her up with a more open mind is all.

Apple juice (:

Responded.

Might hurt him, to be honest.

It sounds to me like bondage is probably the most apropos way for you to express your dominance.

I'm a dominant heterosexual male, so this is a bit of a mental stretch for me, but I suggest you try to tie him up and try to control his orgasm. Stimulate him, but order him not to come and keep him on the edge of an orgasm without letting him actually get there for as long as you can. Or get him close, then make him please you before you let him come.

You don't have to play pain games with him to dominate him. And if you can immobilize him, then his physical superiority will be a moot point. And as for confidence, if you are his mistress, then he should (MUST!) do as he's told.

One caution... you mentioned handcuffs. The kind the cops use are actually really bad for BDSM. They are narrow, unyielding (in the sense that they do not conform well to the shape of the limb to which they are attached), and they can spontaneously tighten. You would do much better to get cuffs intended for BDSM. They tend to be leather, wide, and their inner circumference remains fixed when they're locked.

The only exception is when doing police related role playing. Then, authenticity is key, but other than that, they're not good toys.


Wow, I didn't even think about that. The kind of cuffs we used are BDSM cuffs. Not to worry. I should get some restraints. It's just too band he doesn't have a bedframe. Thank you for the suggestion. You as well JohnC. Much appreciated.

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have recently expanded our sex lifestyle into that of BDSM, I suppose. He loves when I'm in control, but the problem is that I'm tiny, not very strong and he doesn't have as big a pain tolerance as he thinks he does. I'm just unsure what to do when he asks me to punish him? We have handcuffs and a blindfold. I generally slap him up, and bite him, make him eat me out (which he loves), but I don't know what else to do, especially if I can't throw him around? I need suggestions... or a better imagination. I think I'm just not very confident in my abilities, in which case, how do I become more confident?

Generally I just want to please my man. It's not disgusting, it's just ... not very hot until he starts groaning and calling my name. It is bitter sweet sometimes.

I'm sad to say it but I ended up in a Wendy's and regretted it right after eating. I stay away from fast food for a reason.