Topic How Many Famous Stories?
11 Apr 2013 08:25
I suggest a new Badge called Legendary Stories for 100,000 views.
Buz is the trailblazer for the new badge. I just noticed it on my profile! It's interesting to click on it - there are quite a few Lushies that qualified!
Topic I recommend this member's profile.
11 Apr 2013 07:03
I recommend Lisa's profile. She keeps a low profile on Lush, but don't let that dissuade you from checking out her incredible collection of erotica. She is easily one of THE BEST writers on the site. Her characters are sexy, sensual and believable, and she is a master of natural dialogue and real intimacy.
Aside from her stories, she has an album of some of the hottest drool-worthy collection of men on her profile and plenty of other delicious pics.
Check her out!
Topic Is there a difference in sensation with various types of condoms ?
11 Apr 2013 06:41
Usually it's up to the guy, so I don't care that much. I do prefer ultra-thins to hyper-designed stuff like ridges and studs. The less I notice that a condom is actually on, the better.
In my experience, the Japanese actually do the ultra-thins best (eg. Kimono brand).
Japanese Condom Technology
In contrast to the U.S., Japan’s condom industry has continued to explore product development and improved quality levels. During the 1950s, because of the risks associated with oral contraception, the Japanese government prohibited the use of birth control pills and offered government support for research and development of condoms. As a result, condoms became the most common form of birth control, used by 80 percent of sexually active Japanese couples. Such government and consumer demand have catalyzed technological advances in condom production, unparalleled in the rest of the world. To this day, Japanese condoms are thinner and considered superior by many condom users.
Topic New Study: Penis size and male attractiveness
10 Apr 2013 05:40
In general, I agree with everything stated in the article... although if it's a flaccid study and the lengths are between 2-5 inches, it's difficult to really know since some guys 'grow' more than others when erect.
Anyway - penis size does matter to a certain degree. But it's not a number one criteria. A really unattractive guy with a huge dick isn't going to somehow lure the ladies by virtue of his penis size alone. I think body type and height are definitely more important measures in overall attractiveness as long as you hit the *average* threshold for penis size. That's really all that most women are concerned about. From there - penis size doesn't matter as much.
Having said that - if you go for a pure theoretical example and put two identical men side by side and one has a 5-incher and the other has a 7-incher - I suspect more women are going to pick the 7-incher as being more 'desirable'. Actually that would have been a better study - in this day of photoshop - they should have given the women 10 variations of the same model with penis size being the only variable modified and then see which length is preferred.
Topic Happy Birthday, tazznjazz!
08 Apr 2013 20:41
Happy Belated Birthday! :)
Topic The "Bad Boy" Thing
08 Apr 2013 07:17
I think you're confusing the 'Bad Boy' with the 'Abusive Guy'.
When women say they're attracted to the bad boys - it usually just means an alpha guy with edge, confidence, sexuality that isn't afraid to break certain rules now and then (as opposed to a 'doormat nice guy' or a follower/sheep type cookie-cutter guy).
Being attracted to a bad boy doesn't mean the girl wants to be abused, mistreated and disrespected. I can't imagine any woman getting slapped around by a guy or being demeaned and treated like shit and thinking "Damn, I do love those bad boys..." That's just an abusive guy - the far right of the spectrum. Same as the milk-toast 'nice guys' are at the far other end of the spectrum. Most women will prefer a guy falling somewhere in between but perhaps leaning a little more to the right but WAY before you get into abusive/asshole territory.
Here's how I look at it as a 1-10 scale.
1 --------------------------------------------------------- 5 -----------------------------------------------------10
(Extreme Doormat/Nice Guy) ------------- (Average Guy)--------------------------------------- (Abusive Guy)
The guys that women tend to think of when they say they love 'bad boys' are guys that fall around the levels 6-8. You just want a bit of edge and excitement - not a full-blown abuser or sociopath.
Topic Where do you look for porn...with some plot
07 Apr 2013 21:17
So the real question: When is Dancing Doll going to open a production company?
lol... I'm actually doing a bit of light networking in this area. You never know when the right opportunity might come up.
Liz is going to manage all the PR and Her Royal Spriteness better be prepared for that job offer. :p
Re the plot-driven hardcore porn - I agree, it seems to be lacking. I've heard good things about 'The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience' directed by Manuel Ferrara (Evil Angel). If you click on the title link and then go to 'Reviews' it gives you a detailed plot breakdown. Not sure if it's your thing but it was recommended to me by someone whose opinion I put good stock into. I just haven't gotten around to watching it, but I think the plot/premise is one that would make a fun erotica story too.
Manuel Ferrara is also a porn star and he seems to be doing well as a director. And this vid has been recognized by a few AVN awards/noms too.
2009 AVN Award nominee – Best Anal Sex Scene – The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience (with Manuel Ferrara)
2009 AVN Award nominee – Best Double Penetration Sex Scene – The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience (with Steve Holmes & Ian Scott)
2009 AVN Award nominee – Best Tease Performance – The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience
2009 AVN Award winner – Best Threeway Sex Scene – The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience (with Delilah Strong & Michael Stefano)
Manuel Ferrara's recent releases have been praised for a little appreciated aspect of porn -- a story. In Evilution, for example, Naomi plays a stuck up housewife transformed into a slut competing for her husband's cock against Annette Schwarz whom she catches him fucking. In The Jenny Hendrix Anal Experience, Director and Performer Ferrara takes the tension in a new porn girl's unfucked asshole and makes it the center of the dramatic tension. Some titles will feature a "first anal" and this has even been a theme in Story of O by an anonymous French author in which a girlfriend proves her love by submitting to -- among other things -- a first anal fucking. Ferrara updates the theme in a title which also makes allusion to the experience of a certain, super-talented guitar player from the era of psychadelic Rock N' Roll in the 1960s. Reason #1 to buy this DVD: Psychology Lesson 1 and 2. Reason #2 to buy this DVD: Replacement for Couples Therapy. Call it a couples tape. Reason #3 to buy this DVD: How to "make it yourself" DVD of you fucking your girlfriend in the ass.
Other than this - if your wife enjoys hardcore - I would recommend checking out a director that goes under the name of "Mason" or "Sam No". She is a female director that does rough/hardcore vids that appeal to women on an 'empowering female sexuality' level. She fleshes out the darker more sordid side of female fantasies with high production values and an appreciation for her performers. Here's a cool blog that explains her background and vision when it comes to porn.
Mason is highly regarded in the industry, especially by female starlets. A nice example is this quote from Tori Black:
Thus begins my long winded post about the lovely Mason...
I'm Tori Black, as many of you know, but I'm also another girl whom you are unfamiliar with. I grew up in a very small town where there weren't many people as open with their sexuality as I have always been. When developing, it's important to find someone whom you can relate to, open up to, and pursue freedom with. However, I was never so fortunate to find someone with a true heart to help me down my own path. Even my best of friends turned away from me as they learned more and more about who I am and the way my mind works.
Time lapsed and I remained lonely in my quest for true sexuality.
Down the line, in pornoland, several people held forums for me to express myself in any way I so desired. However, none of them opened their hearts to me quite like Mason.
Now for the rest of you, this might seem trivial, but for me it was quite a momentous experience for me. I'd met Mason before, and had an inkling, but never expected what followed on the set of Tori Black is Pretty Filthy.
I was given freedom and two hands to help me up. Someone who'd felt trapped like me before and someone who wanted to help me, simply to help me. No strings attached.
Mason helped me free myself of my own fears from my past and seemed to feel the rapture just as I did when my barriers were broken down. What she has done for me personally far exceeds anything I ever expected. What we produced together was just that, a combination of both of our hearts and aspirations and I will never forget the wonderful experiences I had on set with her those very few days. The impact will never cease.
Mason, you are a true friend. You mean the world to me, and somehow it all happened so quickly.
This director kind of exemplifies what I think is the new niche in porn (and even in erotica) where the hardcore can work to empower and explore female sexuality in a much stronger way than the 'softcore' variety that the industry thinks is all that women want. A lot of my writing is based around this principle.
Topic I LOVE THE NEW FEATURE!!!!!
07 Apr 2013 07:37
One thing I really like about the new function is that it lists who recently voted on your stories. Prior to this, I've been pretty clueless about who votes on my stuff unless they leave a comment. It's nice to see who the wider scope of readership audience is.
It's also great to get the complete set of updates - it's a time-saver to be able to see it all in one condensed summary list that pertains only to you.
Thanks, Gav! :)
Topic 50 Shades of Grey, Review plus Pictures
05 Apr 2013 04:58
LOL... I still haven't read this yet, but that was about all the synopsis I needed. Hilarious.
Pretty much anytime someone mentions this book to me they say it's dumb and they stopped reading it, and my hairdresser said she threw it into the ocean while reading it on vacation because it was so awful.
I have yet to hear anyone say they loved it... so it boggles my mind that it's become such a phenomenon with a movie deal.
Having said that - I don't think anyone would have bothered with this book if it wasn't Twilight fan-fiction originally. Anytime you write a book based on a formula with a built-in audience you're going to do well.
Topic How Many Famous Stories?
03 Apr 2013 19:17
As Principessa said, I wouldn't get too hung up on number of views as being the major determinant of success. There are so many factors that can increase or stall clickers/readers. I've posted stories that have crept along really slowly and others that blew out of the gate with big view numbers right away. Sometimes it's impossible to predict. I also agree that it takes some time to build a name and most of the famous stories out there have been around for at least a year as well.
I actually like to look at the number of times a story hits someone's favorites list. I'll look at my own tallies for my writing portfolio and see what stories have resonated more than others to get a better idea of where I've done well and where I've fallen flat. And - as someone else said - the comments can be pure gold in terms of getting that boost and feeling good about what we've put out there.
Topic Moisturizer in a bar...
03 Apr 2013 15:55
I totally loved this. Such great deadpan expressions too. haha
Topic How Many Famous Stories?
03 Apr 2013 15:52
Congrats to Dancing_Doll for hitting 100,000. That's really great!
Thanks, Buz! That one story has currently been favorited by 143 Lushies too. Funny thing, of all the stories I've written I didn't really expect that one to be so popular. Guess you never can tell...
Congrats on your rapidly growing list of famous stories too! That's outstanding! :)
Topic Would you take a nude yoga class??
03 Apr 2013 13:44
No, it's not for me. I'm not a nudist though.
Plus that kind of distraction would probably work against the fundamentals of yoga. :p
Topic Relationships Deal Breaker
03 Apr 2013 13:41
But would you stray, with or without his permission, to satisfy your sexual needs?
Maybe with his permission, but he'd be the one to have to suggest it and I would have to feel like he was genuinely ok with it. I don't make commitments often in life, but when I do - I'm all in. I'm not going to fuck around on a guy that I'm in love with if I know it's going to crush him. It's not worth being in a relationship when your only option is ongoing deception. Sexual needs can be satisfied with toys or more limited 'intimate contact' if there was a legit medical reason involved. If the love is strong and the quality of the relationship is there and some unexpected calamity happens, then I can work around it. If not, then a breakup is in order.
Topic How Often do you go shopping?
03 Apr 2013 13:08
Uhmm... less than I used to. That's the important thing.
Due to a few unexpected $$ emergencies over the past year, I'm kind of broke at the moment so I'm keeping splurges to a minimum.
Topic Relationships Deal Breaker
03 Apr 2013 13:05
I probably wouldn't commit to a relationship in the first place if the sex wasn't satisfying - you've got to take your partner for a sexual test drive before sealing the deal.
If the sex was lagging in a long-term relationship, I'd try to find a way to revive it or work it out. It would be a deal breaker if my partner stopped caring about fixing it or seemed dismissive. It's not so much about the sex in that case as in what it speaks to how invested the guy is in our relationship and in making it work for both of us.
If I was in a relationship and the sex trainwrecked because of an illness or injury and everything else was great, I would stay. If his head and heart are still in the relationship and the sexual performance is beyond his control, then it's not as important and I think it can be worked around. It's that whole 'for better or for worse' thing and illness/injury can happen to anyone. The important thing is the relationship - and if there's quality there - then I would stay.
Topic What do you think of my avatar?
03 Apr 2013 12:57
I like the new av! Good choice.
And I'll just take this extremely rare moment to bask in the fact that I helped solve a technical problem. lol. Trust me, that doesn't happen very often.
Topic How Many Famous Stories?
03 Apr 2013 12:52
Wow, that's a lot Buddy. I don't know if anyone will be able to top that! Congrats!
I have nine so far.
Hardcore - 1
Reluctance - 3
Taboo - 2
Group Sex - 1
Anal - 1
Incest - 1
I have one that recently hit over 100,000 clicks (in the Taboo category). That's a damn hard number to hit! lol
I agree, the stats Shylass mentioned would be interesting to see as well.
Topic When is primping become to much for you
02 Apr 2013 20:01
Personally - I would be wary of anything that affects the natural movement of the face (namely the cheeks, lips and heavy botox). I think women can easily get carried away with this or things can easily get messed up depending on the skill of the doctor. Facial movement is part of communication and if it looks really 'off' it ain't a good thing.
Some subtle tune-ups are totally fine, but people have to accept a certain level of ageing is normal and it's far more attractive to have a face that still moves and looks natural versus that totally wrinkle-free, plumped up mask-face that so many have ended up with. Unfortunately I see a lot of this - everyone starts morphing into the same face/look at a certain age when they get overly ambitious with cosmetic procedures.
Same as with other things - tucks, breast implants, rhinoplasty - keep it subtle and natural and don't go for the drastic changes or have unrealistic expectations and it's fine. All cosmetic enhancements and surgeries are meant to improve upon what's already there - not to completely redesign your features as though you're an endlessly pliable ball of clay.
For me when it comes to primping or enhancements - moderation is key. I'm not into 'vanity-shaming' because some level of maintenance is a good thing - as long as regular life isn't completely ruled by the mirror. If a girl can't handle a quick ponytail/lipgloss/yogapants-and-tank weekend morning 'wake-up-and-dash' look then I would call it a problem. We can't aways look perfect and it's important to feel comfortable enough to be able to mix it up.
Topic The Walking Dead
02 Apr 2013 09:43
To your last post about the governor, from what I've rea about the book it ends a bit different but I don't think he'll be back. I assume he left dodge, he's not that stupid to go after a more skilled group with two men. I thought something else was gonna happen in the last episode but I was wrong.
As for Carl, Hershel said drop your gun, I'd listen to the old guy and drop it. instead he leaned out handing it. It looked like he was trying to get closer, I dont like it but Carl didn't do anything wrong, just playing it really safe. If you said drop the gun to the governor and he put it out in his hand and said take it with that look and smile of his; would you? No, I'd put him down. Carls losing the idea theres good in people. He dropped ricks badge at the end because he doesn't believe in giving everyone a fair chance. He's going down the do what you gotta do road, whether it's right or wrong. He was just looking out for the group in the way he thought was right, it doesn't make it right but it doesn't make him evil. There's not much room for interpretation in "drop you gun". I'd do the same thing as Carl, but I would have given that kid another warning though. I didn't notice him getting cynical until they found carols daughter in the barn.
If Carl goes down the only thing standing between Judith and a shotgun is the crippled old guy. I don't like those odds lol.
I do think they left it purposely ambiguous with the young boy sort of trying to hand over the gun rather than just dropping it. Killing the boy wasn't that big a deal, considering he would have been gunned down by the governor anyway. And really - it's not that different than the scene where Rick left that poor backpacker begging for help on the side of the road who ended up becoming zombie road-kill a few hours later. I thought that was pretty cold too, on a similar level. But based on Carl's age and everything he's gone through, they need to keep an eye on him. I mean he's arguably suffered way more calamities than Rick based on having to put down both his mom and shane. Carl always seems to get lost in the shuffle somehow because he's trying to be all stoic about his emotions and losses.
I just feel like he acts a bit reckless sometimes (although this likely is also attributed to him being a kid in a hyper-grown-up environment). He was always disappearing at the farm (Lori always seemed to lose track of him). He played around with that prisoner teenager tied up in the barn, he took a gun and went off in the woods and taunted the walker that later broke out of the mud and killed Dale (he should have told someone about that) and that latest bit where he rushed off from Michonne to retrieve that photo from the tavern. Luckily she caught up to him and decided to help him out on what would have ended in disaster for him otherwise. He's a complicated kid and I can understand why, but I think he needs more guidance and attention because he could easily become more like Shane or the Governor in outlook.
Having said that - the Governor is a great 'evil character' so I can't see them abandoning him. He adds a certain enjoyable tension to the show. I haven't read the comics so I don't know his ultimate fate as a character, but I don't think they're following the blueprint with it that much anyway.
I'm still sad they killed off Andrea. She was such an interesting character. I don't know if they plan to develop Carol's character more next season, but she's always felt like dead weight to me. I would have much rather seen that character go than Andrea's.
Topic What do you think of my avatar?
02 Apr 2013 08:40
It's not a bad av choice (creative!). I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that your headless pics will probably get more viewers though. It gives a better idea of what you look like, but I can also see why you'd prefer to go with something more symbolic and subtle. Like I said - it's definitely not a bad option so no worries there.
You have a nicely filled out profile, pics, stories, you comment/vote on others stories - I can't see why anyone would not reply to a friend-add, to be honest. As far as I'm concerned, you're doing all the right things in terms of creating a good profile.
As far as getting more story clickers, I think guys in particular benefit from a presence in the forums. As you start posting more and people get a feel for your personality, you can create a bit of intrigue and more people might be curious enough to want to check out your writing chops as well.
Topic What's Your Story Pet Peeve?
02 Apr 2013 07:41
This is more of a stylistic pet peeve, but I hate run-on sentences, over-use of a thesaurus, and excessive adjectives/adverbs. Keep it clean and modern and well-edited. The 'less is more' thing is absolutely true. Otherwise it's like taking a sexy little black dress and then choosing to unnecessarily amp it up with ruffles and bows and piles of jewelry. Big fancy words jammed together in a sentence that runs as long as a paragraph doesn't make a writer sound smarter or the story sound more appealing. It can be very distracting.
Topic Why is girl-girl erotica so hot?!!
02 Apr 2013 07:08
Which is what I think drives the girl/girl thing. Good male porn models are pretty rare. Most porn is made by people who see their male audience as seedy sleazeballs and they hire actors that fit that stereotype. The girl is obviously not turned on by the guy and is faking it. The guy obviously doesn't have the slightest interest in the girl.
There is some good hetero porn out there, but it is pretty rare.
I have to disagree. The seedy sleazeball actors were more the norm 15+ yrs ago. If you look at the male porn stars featured in (for example) any of Elegant Angel's vids - they are usually fit, hot, athletic, dominant guys that really know how to fuck.
Good production studios try to appeal to both men and women. They know women are making up a sizeable demographic for porn consumption these days so they're picking the performers accordingly and upping the production values so it's not oldschool cheeseball porn with bored cliche performers. The sex is enthusiastic and the guys are just as hot as the girls. There's tons of great hetero porn out there.
Topic The Walking Dead
01 Apr 2013 14:48
W I think Carl needs more compassion because he has been too hard for too long and has forgotten how to be human.
I agree. He's getting more and more sketchy as the series continues. I hope they don't end up leading him down the path of becoming like a ruthless little junior governor type and totally abandoning his humanity. I haven't really 'trusted' his character since before he got shot and ended up on the farm.
Funny about Darryl - he's got quite the fanclub. I read that when Andrea accidentally shot him (grazing his ear) back in Season Two, the actress who played her started getting tons of 'death threats' from lunatic fans that obviously can't separate reality from fiction.
Topic Reoccurring Request
01 Apr 2013 13:52
Hmmm.... honestly - I think it's a bad idea. Let's call it the Drama Option. I don't really see any real benefit to this function other than knowing who is creeping on your profile for gossip-sharing, return-stalking (ie. it could be like the new 'poke') or igniting possible feuds.
Are people going to call each other out on it?
PM: "Hi, I noticed you have visited my profile multiple times this week. Why haven't you a) friended me b)read and scored my latest story c)opened a chat with me or d)commented on my new pics because I sent out a mass-PM last week asking everyone to do that, but you haven't yet"...
... or any other number of accusations that would likely escalate with frenemies and drama queens (ie. "that bitch told me she's done with me and yet she's still on my page every day!")
... or jealous master/slaves or cyber-relationshippers ("My slave has informed me that you've been regularly stalking her profile page. How dare you?! Nobody is allowed to look at her page without my express consent and it says so right in our bios!" or "I just wanted you to know that MonsterCock69 is my man and he tells me everything, so you should probably stop creeping on his page, slut!")
I can just see it dissolving into multiple messes between cliques, friends, and Lush-relationshippers.
Having said all that - it could be entertaining too.
Like many other things, I guess it just depends on how it's being used and the maturity levels of those viewing the stats. Looking at the idea in broad strokes, I think it has more pitfalls than benefits but if people are really wanting this perk, you could always roll it out for a trial run and see what happens. :)
Topic Hard Candy
01 Apr 2013 05:12
Topic The Walking Dead
31 Mar 2013 20:03
Did everyone watch the season finale?
Yes... I had to reach for the kleenex box yet again. I know a lot of fans disliked Andrea at one point but I had come back around to really enjoying her character and it was all just so sad at the end. I totally got choked up - also seeing the other character's reactions. She had evolved so much from the early days of season one. Honestly, I wasn't expecting that final scene - I thought she had put down Milton in time (another sad character loss).
The Governor is just sooooo evil! Like every time I think he sinks to a new moral low, he surpasses himself. Where did he and his henchmen go at the end? Surprised they didn't return to Woodbury before Rick and the Gang herded all the old people and children into the bus to bring them back to the prison.
I hate having to wait until the fall to watch things play out from here...
I'm amazed how this series still manages to stay fresh and exciting. I'm still totally hooked!