Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic What's the most unusual thing you've used in your pussy?
Posted 10 Jun 2014 09:49

Nothing overly unusual... a lollipop, popsicles/ice-cubes, banana (in a condom), handle of a hair-brush.

Topic Would you share your man?
Posted 10 Jun 2014 09:44

It really depends on the relationship and the guy in question. I have in the past (as Dirty_D said, with mixed results). In my current relationship I'm thinking it would be 80% leaning to 'no', but never say never. Having said all this, I am very particular and have rules when it comes to these scenarios so it's never been 'anything goes.' When physical monogamy is too fluid, it can lead to issues - as I've witnessed with friends of mine that were unable to re-establish boundaries and the relationship devolved into murky 'cheating/no-trust' situations.

Topic Doing the splits?
Posted 08 Jun 2014 07:42

Yep, I'm a bendy girl as well - some natural (I have loose joints and ligaments), but much through training. It's fantastic when you want to get into some creative positions for sex, and also fun moves to pull out as a party trick when drunk (esp in my college days) - watch the guys drop their jaws and suddenly become 110% more interested in you. There are negatives though too - you're much more prone to injury, wear/tear and it's wise to do strength training to compensate for hypermobility. Of course, this is more of a vocational hazard than a sex one - well, most of the time, anyway. :p

Topic Chop my hair?
Posted 08 Jun 2014 07:21

My hair has been mid to lower back for as long as I can remember. I have wanted to go short on several occasions (esp this summer!) but two different BFs have begged me not to... so yes, I think guys definitely prefer long hair.

There are pros and cons, I guess. You can definitely do more with long hair. Have you tried one of those under pin-and-tuck styles that make long hair look shorter? You can always put some longish layers in the front and then try something like this.
http://www.abeautifulmess.com/2012/01/how-to-style-long-hair-short.html

I wear my hair up a lot but yeah... I'll admit there's something inherently sexy about long hair when naked or going out at night in a sexy outfit. Having said that, you can technically always cut it short(er) and then just use clip-in extensions to get a longer look. I have a friend that does that because she needs to wear her hair shoulder-length for professional reasons. She had her stylist custom-colour the extensions and when she wears them, it's totally seamless - you would swear she has long beautiful hair.

Anyway, I don't know how long your hair is now, but maybe you're just looking for a change in general. Take off 2 inches and chop some long layers in... maybe go for long and sleek with full bangs. Put some highlights or low-lights in or try a different colour altogether. That might be enough to feel like you've changed up your look but without any drastic commitments. I'm the same way in spring/fall... I'm always looking for a bit of a change.

Topic What was your first sexual act
Posted 07 Jun 2014 11:50

Blow job.

Topic Obligatory Makeup Thread
Posted 06 Jun 2014 18:17



I love the look of the suedeberry, looks like I have something new to go buy Embarassed

I have the Red Velvet and let me say... wowww, does it last forever! It goes on liquid (super opaque in one swipe and a little goes a long way - no pencil required and no bleeding or feathering) and then dries matte. The Red Velvet looks exactly like red rose petals. Once it's dry (30 seconds or so), this does not move or smudge. Like... at all. You can kiss an envelope, press white tissue into your lips, drink coffee, eat, shower - I think you could probably swim underwater and it wouldn't come off. I went out and had dinner, drinks, danced and came home, without any touch-ups and I still had perfect red lips. Totally bizarre product. The only way I could remove it was with face-cleanser and some scrubbing. I can see why it always sells out. The Velvetines are the line that all the bloggers rave about as being totally unique in their make-up collections - even though I think I'm more partial to the lipsticks just because they're more versatile (ie. you can wear them full strength opaque or make them more sheer with gloss and layer and play around with them more). But if you like opaque perfect lips - the Velvetines are pretty amazing and very unique. I'm totally happy with Red Velvet.

I also like that they're a cruelty-free brand. I'm trying to phase out anything that isn't - which isn't as easy as you'd think. Little known fact - if a company sells in China, they are not cruelty-free. Unfortunately the laws there *require* animal testing to go to market and it's a big revenue opportunity so a lot of big-name 'cruelty-free' companies have reverted back... basically any drugstore, luxury or department store brand... even MAC. :( And... in the nailpolish world - Essie tests on animals, and I think OPI is 'iffy' - their stance seems to go back and forth. The smaller companies and indie brands seem the way to go with nearly everything from household products to beauty... at least until China gets their act together.

Topic First Time Fuck
Posted 06 Jun 2014 04:58

It really depends on the guy. With some, it's had a more sexual vibe right from the beginning and especially if I know the attraction is mainly physical/sexual, I've gone in as a total dirty cum-slut and the sex has been off the hook right from the beginning. If there's already been sexting or sex talk before hooking up and we both have a feel for what each other wants, there's really no need to take things slow.

In other cases, it's been more of a slow-burn and getting to know the person in a non-sexual way, so when things turn physical, I probably do hold back a bit at first. The first time can be exploratory too... but shifts in energy and intensity and reciprocated dirty talk can turn things up fast... I am somewhat sexually aggressive, so I do tend to push things to a certain degree pretty early on but at the same time, I've been with certain guys where I've always held back somewhat - mainly because when I tried to make things dirtier and get the dirty talk going, I basically hit a brick wall. Not everyone is going to be an ideal 'sexual match'...

Topic Contour Your Boobies
Posted 04 Jun 2014 09:12



Cum gloss, how did you learn of my favorite lip secret?



We all do it, don't we, Coco?

Right after we have our jizz omelettes and protein shakes in the morning. clown

http://upload.lushstories.com/1736032424-Lipgloss.jpg

Topic Contour Your Boobies
Posted 04 Jun 2014 07:44



Don't think anyone wants to end up with make-up, bronzer and highlighter on their tongue and lips.

Maybe not on the tongue but you could end up with a nice nude/bronze lip after a BJ. Put on a little cum-gloss and you're good to go! :)

Topic Pearly Papules and Fordyce Spots
Posted 04 Jun 2014 06:45

I learned something new today. I've never seen pearly papules before. If I saw that on a dick, to be honest - I would probably be taken aback or wonder if it was an STD etc. It's not the most attractive thing obviously, but as long as I knew what it was, it's not a deal breaker. I've been with a guy with hypospadias before, (two holes streaming cum during a blowjob did require some minor adjustments on my part), but things like that and other little cosmetic blips like spots and veining isn't an issue as long as the guy is healthy.

Topic Flat stomach
Posted 04 Jun 2014 06:33

I think good core strength is definitely a positive (if there is muscle tone - not just a flat stomach because the guy is naturally skinny etc). But... I actually haven't been with a bigger guy so I can't really do a fair comparison. They weren't all six-pack types, but there was always a certain level of athleticism/fitness, and they weren't the type to carry any extra weight around the middle.

There are a lot of other things that factor into good sex - everyone has a different interpretation of it - whether you like it slow and sensual or hard and rough - on a bed or more acrobatics etc. In certain cases, a more fit guy with abdominal strength may have an advantage. Same goes for a female actually. Fitness doesn't just mean having abs though, so you have to look at the bigger picture.

Topic a guy painting your toe nails and foot rubs
Posted 04 Jun 2014 06:15

Foot and leg rubs, yes. Nail polish, no.

Topic Contour Your Boobies
Posted 04 Jun 2014 05:27

I wonder if a guy can contour his dick to look bigger.

Topic Contour Your Boobies
Posted 04 Jun 2014 05:12

i want to contour my vagina drunken

I think you should go with Sparkle-Pussy instead. Or maybe Glitter-Clit? :)

Topic Obligatory Makeup Thread
Posted 04 Jun 2014 05:10

Last weekend I had a friend who is a make-up artist play around with my face for fun before going out. She has the best make-up collection ever. Anyway she got me to try a stronger lip. My default has always been neutral gloss with emphasis on my eyes. But - I loved what she did with some of the fun/bold lip colours with lipsticks she had by Lime Crime (a popular indie brand out of L.A. that a lot of the celeb set like Katy Perry and Adele have been picking up on).

They have some really 'out there' colours which I am definitely not going to be brave enough for anytime soon, but they have some very wearable lipstick shades that really do last forever on the lip and go on really nice. I bought Coquette and Geradium (which she used on me) and I absolutely love them. Coquette is nude (ok, fine, I went for a safe bet) but Geradium is like a borderline neon pink/coral shade. I've even used this over gloss when I just want a more sheer pop of colour but when I used it full strength going out at night, I didn't even have to reapply it, which I thought was pretty cool.

This week I'm recovering from a minor car accident and got into some online shopping yesterday (I blame the drugs!), so I picked up a few other colours - especially their reds - because I don't even own *any* red lipstick! And my make-up artist friend did a red lip and nude eye and I really liked how it looked for a change.

Something like this: http://rodeo.net/killercolours/2012/06/04/glamour-101/

http://upload.lushstories.com/202103412-Glam101.jpg

Anyway, their Velvetine collection is raved about online and always sold out (goes on liquid, dries matte, with a true velvet texture), so I'm trying Red Velvet and also Retrofuturist (pin-up red) and Glamour101 (hollywood starlet red). I also love that they leave a lip-stain so you have that popsicle-lip look after removal - throw gloss on top of that and you get another way to wear the colours.

Rachel (Sprite) is trying them too - I was chatting with her yesterday. They have a real fantasy concept with their brand - I'm sure some of the styles/colours would really appeal to the cosplay, fantasy, doll-philes of the world. But for the rest of us, there are quality colours that are fun but still day-to-day wearable. And they are vegan and cruelty-free.

So... yeah - interesting brand. They've been around since '08, so they might not be new to most people but just incase. There's tons of swatches online for those that want to check into specific colours and their Facebook page is a good starting point.

Here's some of the lippies and general spirit of the brand:

http://upload.lushstories.com/1514409260-limes.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/1663176507-Lipsssss1.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/1734816453-Geradium1.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/1804859451-OriginalVelvetines.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/285817809-PinkVelvet.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/1688753491-Snowsicle.jpg

http://upload.lushstories.com/1348862859-Kelly1.jpg

Topic Contour Your Boobies
Posted 04 Jun 2014 04:20

This is an interesting concept for photography. In real life, depending on the lighting... I'll bet it's a little more tricky to not make it look 'off'. I'm more of a highlight than contour girl - it's way more forgiving. Sometimes I'll dust a bit of Bobbi Brown Body Shimmer Brick along my collar bone, shoulders and back of my calves.

I've seen contouring abs (with a spray-tan gun)... that's pretty popular too.


http://upload.lushstories.com/458604119-SprayTan.jpg

Topic Debate: Is it cheating if...
Posted 03 Jun 2014 08:10

In my last relationship, I used to think that girls didn't count either, especially if it was just playing around. I didn't go out of my way to hide it from my then boyfriend, assuming he wouldn't mind since when we were together (and he was part of it), he encouraged it. It all exploded on me one day when he finally got pissed off enough about it to say that it wasn't ok with him when he wasn't around and that I needed to stop immediately.... which I did... except for maybe a few instances of kissing girls at the bar, toward the end of the relationship when I knew things were on the decline.

Anyway - everyone defines cheating differently. I've heard people say same-sex doesn't count, oral doesn't count, phone sex/sexting doesn't count, sex outside of one's own city doesn't count. vacation or business-trip sex doesn't count. I guess it really depends on the couple. As others have said, it all boils down to whether you think your significant other would be upset with your actions if they knew about it - if the answer is yes, then it's cheating. Pretty simple, actually.

Topic Happy Birthday to Asleep (Rick)
Posted 03 Jun 2014 04:30

Happy Birthday, Rick! xx

http://upload.lushstories.com/572567794-BirthdayCandle2.jpg

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 09:50

Just a random thought... (not directed at anyone specifically).

Imagine there was an endless rash (and new trend) of spree-killings that had been going on for the last two decades of strong females with guns and ammo, doing cross-country Thelma and Louise style killings of guys coming out of bars or hanging out at their frat houses or just studying on their college campuses. Maybe they're even beating them to within an inch of their lives (think Zoe Saldana types in Columbiana) and then you see their youtube vids and the girls are saying "yeah, this is what men get for fucking with us, raping us, hitting us, cheating on us, and treating us like sex toys with zero respect." and others saying "Yeah, damnit, my boyfriend dicked me around and now my child-bearing years are gone, so I'm gonna take down every smarmy alpha male or hot guy that I see!" Let's say this is what's constantly in the news.

And then you see all this inexplicable social media support from other girls saying how these women are heroes, and they're laughing about the violence, saying they wish they could do the exact same thing and that these men got what was coming to them - not for anything they did - but just for being part of the wrong gender.

And someone makes a thread on Lush about how awful this violence is and what women need to do to take down this sense of revenge, resentment and animosity towards men. That violence begets violence and it doesn't make it right or acceptable. But almost nobody actually says this.

People talk about guns instead - and how guys need to figure out how to protect themselves and sure, violence against men is bad, but that's just the way it is now - nothing we can really do to change that - so guys need to suck it up and get more ammo if they want to stay alive. Or better yet stop drinking, doing drugs, having wild sex-lives or being commitment phobes, cause you never know if the next girl you piss off is going to put a bullet in your head.

And then you see females posting things like "well... the fact that those guys coming out of the bar were drunk when they were gunned down... it's kind of like they were partly at fault for putting themselves in that situation in the first place," and "hey, the fact that men watch UFC, play video games and watch action movies - it kind of sends the wrong message to young impressionable women that they enjoy and accept violence, so really - it's like they're contributing to their own murder rate." *shrugs* "You guys need to make some real changes, cause this is the new normal, baby!"

It sounds insensitive and wrong to focus on the victims, doesn't it?

That's why women are disturbed by the sentiments in the media, youtube channels, twitter commentary, and thread posts when the Elliot Rodgers of the world happen. Because in this world, we tend to be natural conformists - we tend to be influenced by our peers, social media and our culture. The whole basis and theory of advertising and marketing is hinged on this ingrained trait! Do what you can do to stop promoting a culture of gender-violence and it can start in little ways - within your own social circles, your peer groups, your social media, the incidences of violence and intimidation you see everyday on the streets, at schools, in locker-rooms and in bars. The list I posted earlier hits on just a few ways 'guys' can make a difference - it's about what you project yourself and what you refuse to stand for. I would do the same if trends of gender-violence was reversed.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 08:39



DD I well understand what you're saying, and I do NOT disagree. You seem to have misunderstood; partly due to the twisted versions presented by Felix with his well known agenda; what I've said. Glorification of the drug and alcohol culture isn't restricted to women nor is glorifying public figures who perpetrate acts that we as a society should NOT tolerate from them. I sited a particular example and stated that those who did so were women but at no time did I restrict my comments to women alone. I've also stated that there are NO fool proof answers. You can still die in a fire even if you own a fire extinguisher and are trained in it's use. The odds of it however ARE lessened, by dint of said ownership and training. The same thing applies to firearm ownership and training.

No - it had nothing to do with 'misunderstanding'. Actually when I read your post, I had to walk away from the computer because I couldn't believe what I was reading. I've had to do that many times in this thread.

You said: "All I can say is that when the likes of Tiger Woods are defended publicly by WOMEN, it sends the WRONG message to young males. All too much of our entertainment is just as corruptive, Add in drug and alcohol glorification (EVEN HERE! much of it by? WOMEN) and use and this IS the result!"

This is putting the blame on women - and you even did it in ALL-CAPS - for EMPHASIS. You could have said "When Tiger Woods cheats on his wife, and males decide this is ok, it contributes to the problem" instead of saying we're the ones sending the wrong message to guys and therefore we need to own up to our own blame in the game. We made them do it! And then we glorify drugs and alcohol and hey - Elliot Rodgers is the result.

You're taking the onus of blame off men and saying "look how women are fucking things up for themselves." And that was my point. In this whole thread, before my post, I did not see any suggestions of what men can do to take responsibility for their actions and the downslide in rape culture. Instead, you focused on obscure ways why women are at fault and what we need to do to change.

Don't you think guys are bigger influences on other guys? Why do you keep focusing on the victims? It's not all that different than what actual perpetrators do, nor what Elliot Rodgers did in his final youtube videos. That's what upsets a lot of people in this thread. I can see the underlying pinnings of what Rodgers thinking was like in some of the posts in this very thread. It's scary.

Topic Dick Pics - Do women actually like them?
Posted 30 May 2014 07:45

If I see a gallery (or wallpaper) of a dozen dick pics from different angles with close-ups that are so extreme that I can examine a guy's nutsack wrinkles and pube follicles, I don't deem him a 'bad guy' - I just see him as a guy that came on Lush to cyber, masturbate and yeah... that's pretty much it. Nothing wrong with that, obviously - but since that's not my thing, I'm unlikely to interact with him on any level. I'd say the same about female profiles featuring just a series of splayed pussy lips and spreadable ass-cheeks. I just assume their overriding goal here is sex.

A nude (full or half-body) or semi-nude, along with other clothed or lifestyle pics and a somewhat filled out profile (with words) is probably the way to go if you want to hook people on your hotness and invite a bit of sex-talk, while acknowledging that there's more to yourself than genitals. There's an option to create private galleries (for certain friends only) that you can add/delete from that you can do the exhibitionist thing in that makes more sense to me... Like you chat with someone, she's into it, you add her to your private gallery just before you cyber and voila - she's got all the visuals on hand.

Random close-up dick pics don't do much for me as far as being aroused or wanting to know more about someone. In a way, it really just limits the way I see them. Half-clothed shots that show more body and less dick, on the other hand.... they're far more universally appealing.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 07:23



Are you sure you can handle the truth?

http://i.imgur.com/PRJk5Ql.png

This is pretty awesome. I'm a believer. evil4

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 06:19



Only with you honey.... you took an hour of fact and just dismissed it because it didn't meet your view point. Wild! Yet very typical. Still facts though....



I get that Stefan Molyneux is your god, you buy into his cult without any real critical thinking of your own, and you get all your life's philosophies and facts from his youtube vidoes, but have you ever heard of a concept called 'cooking the books'?? You have seen his 47% stat proven as wrong, as the FBI puts it at 2-8%, so how can you believe any other stat that comes off this guy's paypal-donation fuelled rhetoric. You can't point to his powerpoint chart and say "look - those are facts - they are correct"... show me your sources, show me the studies that are backed up by real statistical significance.

Moreover, this is the guy whose other 'informative youtube' vids explain how "feminism is socialism with panties" and women are "estrogen based parasites #killallmen", has espoused advice like "stop making yourself look like fucking sex clowns to milk money out of mens dicks." He gets worked up over "generational male exploitation, not paying for sex, hypergamy games, the demonization of male sexuality." And according to him, feminists are state-serving “creatures” and “Frankensteins,” whose primary agenda is receiving preferential treatment from the government and society. And - oh look - he just put out a vid bashing Maya Angelou too, while she's not even cold in her grave yet.

In his youtube vid "No Excuses for Female Evil", he says: "The evil that women are capable of and the evil that women do — not all women — but the evil that women do is generally invisible to society which is why there’s so much violence in society" and then he says "See, men have moral responsibility but we have to build these little shimmering cathedrals around the sensitivities of these little dandelions called women who just float around without any responsibility just being pushed and buffeted around by hormones and society and patriarchy and oh my God."

I'm guessing you were a fan of Elliot Rodger's youtube channel too. Enjoy your kool-aid.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 10:05

What I find most fucked up in this thread is that there are so many sentiments about what women are doing wrong and what they need to change.

We need to:

- not drink or do drugs or 'glorify' these things because it sends the wrong message to guys
- we need to not condone pro-athletes like Tiger Woods cheating on his wife
- we're making the situation worse by not reporting all rapes, despite the aftermath, being a social outcast, and lack of criminal outcome
- we are apparently making false rape accusations nearly 50% of the time according to tinfoil-FBI websites
- we need to buy more guns and ammo because that's supposedly the answer - regardless of the fact that a drive-by shooting while you're standing outside a sorority house is still going to kill you, regardless of whether you're packing

What about what guys can do to better the cause?

* What about not making 'rape' jokes - how many times in the past year have I heard jokes made about the 'rape van' and that girl's dress looks pretty 'rapey' and then having the guy say relax, he was just 'joking around'.

* What about not standing by and condoning locker-room talk that degrades women beyond the pale and promotes a culture of misogyny?

* What about not supporting your buddy when he intimidates women at the bar or grabs/gropes them and not blame it on him just being drunk - or looking the other way when your friend mistreats his girlfriend or wife?

* What about not blaming women when they don't want to date you or have sex with you despite you being a 'really nice guy' and sticking it out in the friend zone? And not taking the approach that if you're persistent enough, eventually she'll come around.

* What about not calling a woman a 'stuck up bitch' when she tells you she's not interested or doesn't respond to your leers and cat-calls on the street?

* Or not judging a woman based on what she's wearing, whether she has breast implants or whether she works in a strip club to make money and not assuming these things means she's open to being a sex-object 24/7 or that you can treat her differently than you would treat the girl next door.

* Or not silently blaming the female when you hear stories of women who stayed with abusive men or girls that went to a party and got wasted and ended up being half-consciously pushed into sex with one or more guys. And if you are actually there - step in and do something instead of being a bystander because it doesn't involve you! And don't whip out your camera to take pics or laugh about the 'slutty drunk girl' the next day with your friends or on Twitter and then have your friends back and defend them and put the blame on the girl for 'making trouble' when she tells people or wants to report it. She was there - drunk or willingly taking drugs - it's her fault if she inadvertently ended up turning all those guys on, right?

* Or how about not ignoring the girl that's being harassed on the subway or the street and clearly needs help because you don't want to get involved and it's not your problem.

* Or maybe not shrugging it off when your friend tells you he dropped some GHB in the drink of the girl he's been dating lately to 'loosen her up'.

* What about not doing a damn thing when you know your friend date-raped a girl and insisting on having his back or ignoring the facts that you are 100% aware of as fact.

* What about not being content to take the stance of "well, rape and assault happen - go get a gun and learn how to use it."

I have seen stuff like this happen around me - every single example I've given comes from personal experience, either involving myself or close friends of mine - and there were plenty of 'good guys' who wouldn't dream of committing any kind of violence against women themselves who just let it happen, made excuses, or listened to the stories from their buddies and laughed or said nothing, or looked the other way because as long as they weren't 'the bad guy' it doesn't matter. And this bystander-effect involved men of all ages, economic backgrounds and status - all the way up to high level CEOs of massive international corporations. And they all did nothing or they covered for their 'buddies' and blamed the girl.

I think there is plenty that 'good guys' can do to help the cause... and it doesn't involve buying more guns.

Topic Obligatory Makeup Thread
Posted 28 May 2014 15:46



This made me cringe, and I didn't even click the link yet. I just can't think of anything that would justify doing that. Lipsticks are small and perfect for travel without being decapitated.

EDIT: I clicked the link. The lipstick thing was ridiculous, and still very unnecessary.

I know - I totally don't see how that would save space or make anything more convenient. Not to mention it would make a mess as they melted down and the container jostled around, upside down in your bag. Blech.

Topic Obligatory Makeup Thread
Posted 28 May 2014 14:21

This article had some interesting ideas on how to store beauty products at home or on-the-go. I like the idea of using a sunglass case to hold make-up brushes if you're traveling (ie. in an overnight bag or in a purse). And the magazine rack to hold hair straighteners/irons was a good idea as well. The only suggestion that made me cringe was when they suggested beheading your lipsticks. Eek!

24 Life-Changing Ways to Store Your Beauty Products

http://www.marieclaire.com/hair-beauty/beauty-products-and-makeup-storage-hacks

Topic Which Is Thee Most Realistic Lesbian Sex Scene In A Movie?
Posted 28 May 2014 09:11

My vote goes to Black Swan as well, but the movie 'Chloe' had a great scene between Amanda Seyfried and Julianne Moore. That whole movie was extremely erotic - from the eye contact to glimpses of exposed skin to the way the storyline developed.

Angelina Jolie had a good one in the movie Gia, but it was more of a montage sequence - still, that scene up against the chain-link fence was memorable.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 27 May 2014 18:58

I hear a lot of people saying "someone should have known he was about to go nuts because of his social media posts and done something". Who is to say that the next Elliot Rodger isn't one of those despicable people posting their support for him on Twitter? Shouldn't they *all* be followed up on and checked out?

Unfortunately the 'god-complex' and extreme narcissism this guy exhibited reminds me a lot of a homicidal stalker I once had to deal with - complete with manifesto and anti-woman 'blame it on the blondes' sentiment - and i am again reminded of how lucky I am that, despite threats, he turned it on himself without taking me with him.

Really this is a matter of mental illness either going unrecognized or ignored - by his family, peers, teachers etc. And yet it's become such an acceptable part of our culture that it just doesn't register with the right level of alarm anymore. All those Twitter comments... we are conditioned to just shake our heads and shrug it off because social media has become an acceptable playground for disturbed people. And yet this guy had all kinds of red flags going on - that his family was aware of - and yet they chose a very passive approach to the whole thing. They tried... but clearly they didn't try hard enough. Maybe we need more education about mental illness in general for our society so that we understand the gravity of the situation when someone like this begins acting out. There should be more provisions to 'force' someone into treatment when they exhibit certain red flags - no more of this 'well we can't force him, it's not ethical' - yes, the law needs to change so that these people *are* forced. This guy was a ticking time bomb. He didn't just wake up one day and go nuts - he'd been planning this for a very long time.

Aside from the cultural education component and more awareness about mental illness (and I'm talking about narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, psychopathy, antisocial behaviour etc), I still think that the gun culture and general availability of guns contributes to this kind of spree killing. I don't want to start another gun debate (I've done that in spades already), and yes I know someone can kill with knives or search out black market weapons 'if they really want to' - but making it so easy for anyone to load up on ammo and guns *does* impact the potential for an unstable person to see this as the ultimate solution and max the damage, thinking they are going out in a blaze of glory as some kind of hero of the underdogs. And - the vile support these people get from other social misfits just makes me absolutely sick and shows just how deep the decay and cultural pathology is growing.

Topic Whats best a quickie or long all night
Posted 23 May 2014 06:07

I like both as well as the nice hard (moderate length) session followed by sleep. It also depends on what else you have going on in your schedule and if it's at night, whether you have an early morning or busy day.

I was with a guy once that liked going alllll night. Like to the point where at times I would wake up and need to pee but would debate bothering to get up because if I did, I knew when I returned to bed, he'd be hard and ready to go again. The first couple of times it was hot and exciting and I didn't mind the bleary-eyed fatigue the next day because I was running on sex-drenaline (often happens with new partners - who needs caffeine?!)... but after a while, it was just too much. I was only getting 2-3 hours of sleep and the non-stop sex nights continued by him following me into the shower - *after* the shower - trying to get out his door. It sounds all hot and intense but I don't want it like that every single time I see the person - especially during weekdays. On a weekend - it's a whole different story.

For me the ideal is to vary it up - sometimes you just want a hot quickie , other times a nice session for a few hours, and on a weekend the all-nighter can be perfect.

Topic What is the longest story you have written?
Posted 22 May 2014 14:30

My 'The Bitches in the Basement' novel was around 55K words. Part of that novel was posted on Lush at one point.

As far as what I currently have on Lush, it would be West Coast Games - which comes in at around 27K. I'm working on the prequel to this using a different character's perspective, and I expect it to roughly be around the same length. Then I plan to publish both as a combined eBook.