Steal her away and make her as happy as I could

Hi sass :) want a nice cool drink? its been warm in the uk lately :D

couldn't pass now :D

8538 number times ive had to .......... her

8436 - number of times ive nibbled her lips :p

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Its been a while since I've been back to this forum, been a while since I've been to lush in the first place. A thread seeking information came to my attention via an email and I took a read and was puzzled by its objective. It seemed to be seeking information but the way the questions and post were structured screamed, to me at least, a condescending, inflammatory aspect to it but I'll try to attempt to answer at least one of the questions asked properly.

So the question was: When does a Master become a Master.

Like red has already said above me Masters and Mistress' can be trained at dungeons all over the world. These can usually be found within your local BDSM community and are usually welcoming of people willing to expand their sexual horizons with education. That said I want to twist the question slight.

So the revised question is this: What makes a Master/Mistress.

The two questions sounds similar but hold different connotations. With this question I want to focus on some of the different relationship types that can be found in BDSM. Most believe it takes a dominant personality to become a Dom/me but this isnt always the truth when you break down some of the types of relationships that can be found with in the many different realms that come under the, lets face it, very large umbrella that is BDSM. For most BDSM is a kink for them and their partner in bed that quite often involves some form of light bondage role play that rarely leaves the confines of their bedroom/house. In this kind of relationship its not really the act of Dom/me/sub but the feeling of being constricted that is the fetish. Here it is usually the one being tied up/down that is directing the flow of the encounter usually by telling their partner to tie them up.

Another type takes this light bondage a step further and role play the Dom/me and sub roles out with varying degrees of bondage usage from just tying down to the more extreme forms (pain, humiliation etc). This relationship is usually keep this private just like the first but the roles in the bedroom are clearer in their definition but these roles travel no further than that. Then there are those that take the roles out of the bedroom and live them through everyday life. These can range from their home being a fully fledged dungeon where they are geared up at home all the time and the sub is completely subservient in everything they do. Then there is the kind of relationship where there aren't many tools to be used but the sub trusts their Dom/me with all the decisions and lean on them for all of their emotional needs. Both of these relationships have a massive weight in terms of responsibility. They both have to support their sub whole heartedly in terms of emotional support with many providing routine and structure through mental discipline. There are also Sadists and masochists which form a slightly different relationship dynamic in which Sadists usually like to inflict pain to varying degrees, this can be both physical and mental and masochists usually like to be on the receiving end on. This type of relationship has many dynamics in its own right with some masochists only enjoying pain from their Dom/me and others not enjoying pain but enjoy being used by any one.

Now that wall of text is finished with (hope it provided a little insight in to the different types of relationships that BDSM covers) we can try to answer the question. What makes a Master/Mistress? In my opinion from watching all different kinds of relationships going on around me with friends I believe that any one can become dominant in their relationship but to become a Master/Mistress you would need not only the personality to command respect and be dominant in life but depending on where your relationship is you need to be willing to shoulder the responsibility of being solely responsible for your sub as they will look to you for guidance in every aspect in their life be it work, school. family or being able to function on a day to day basis. That is a Master/Mistress' responsibility.
what is the accepted protocol with alpha and beta subs? I am a Dom and have been for 2 years but i haven't considered the possibility of taking on more than one sub until recently when my current told me she is bicurious
Now with regard to this question. You need to be sure that both subs are mentally prepared to not be the sole recipient of your time love and affection. You need to be able to distribute yourself equally between them and they need to be able to understand each other and be happy with each other or it will fall apart and only cause pain to all three of you.
What I am wandering from submissives is how to navigate feeling lost with your Master/Mistress. Since me and this person had a previous relationship where he didn't tell me that he was a Master I now sometimes feel lost...I do love him but I guess sometimes I feel he only loves me as a pet...

I know that these feelings are probably just part of my reluctance but I am wandering if anyone else goes through the same thing where they just feel lost in being a sub and feel detached from themeselves.


anway any advice is appreciated as I am just navigating my way through this whole thing.
Your feelings are yours and yours alone. Never disregard them without confirming them first. My advice is to speak to your Dom/me about these feelings and find out if your fear is founded in reality. This sounds easier than it is I know but you will continue to fret over that fear unless you confront him about it.

G: very outgoing
I: loves to laugh and smile
G: very outgoing
A: hot
N: can kick the shit out of u
T: very good kisser
I: loves to laugh and smile
C: good kisser

T: very good kisser
A: hot
G: very outgoing
E: has gorgeous eyes
R: good boyfriend or girlfriend

That you will find out tomorrow my love ;)

Tie her to the wall ring and have my way with her