Until she comes, ideally. At least that's my goal, and sometimes I reach it :)

The key is the change - why? So he's looking at porn, and changed his mind about letting you share the watching. And you can't get him to talk about it.

Has your sex life changed as well? doing different things? if so, then he might just be wanting to spice things up a bit more and take the credit.

If not, and if you can't talk about this without fighting, and have really tried hard to get him to explain, keeping your cool, then what future do you have? It might be hard, but I think you have to face this down, unless you want a secretive bloke, one who you know you cannot trust.

Just ban the bloody lot. The US has (2009) 10 deaths from gun related crimes compared to 0.25 (2011) in the UK, per 100,000 of population.

QED?

Don't just ban the sale, but ban the manufacture, the importation.

Its simple, stupid.

What might have been right for the 19th century is NOT right for the 21st.

I don't think that stories need be explicit, at least not always, in fact, maybe only sometimes. For me, a good story is one in which my mind is used by the writer to "fill in the blanks" to an extent. That might be a situation, the weather, the way a building or a bedroom looks, and can also be about exactly how the sex taking place would feel to me, if I were taking part.

So, I don't need instructions, in the way some writers think explicit sex should be. Far better to let me think myself into the scene, so much more erotic.

As for videos, I agree with Debs entirely, and as one who is more dominant than anything else, its not about the cum shot, but about how you get to that point, and when I think of deep throating a lover, then it is she who lets me do that, that is her submission, and the more aggressive aspects so often shown don't need to be there. Why confuse dom-sub with force and agression.

As to where the cum goes, if she wants to have it in her mouth, fine, but otherwise, I far prefer to shoot over her breasts, so much nice to share that way! Or of course, where nature intended it to go, as what I do dislike is the fucking to the point where the guy has to cum, and then he pulls out and shoots it wherever. My lovers have always told me that when the sperm hits them inside, that is what they enjoy, and the way they want it to be.

69 is a great position for arousal, but if it comes to cumming, then you really do have to give your lady all your attention. Anyway, my lady loses all focus on everything except herself when she cums, and it is great to see and share, nothing better than to lose herself in the moment.

Also going back to the original question, is it a turn on?

From my perspective, the act in itself is not a turn on, I don't get any sense of added power, or stimulus, or whatever. But if my partner in sex wants your semen over her body, then who am I to deny her. My wife has never liked cum anywhere else other than in her vagina, but happily my long term lover has rather different feelings, and is happy to have my ejaculate anywhere. When she does, I find myself enjoying it greatly.
I've asked her what it does for her, and she has told me that it signifies something for her, some inner need that she cant exactly verbalise adequately, that she enjoys the feeling of power that she gets whe sees me enjoying doing it.
She's married as well, and says that she hasn't done anytging like this with her husband., and its only with me that she gets these feelings. Maybe we just release each others inhibitions and that itself is the real turn-on.

Interesting set of responses.
Sure, money isn't everything, but look at how almost all the male top soccer players, tennis players, etc.... have great looking gf's. And ageing pop stars have such nubile young gfs or wives.
Is that where all the personality has gone? Hmmm...doubt it.
Now power is another big draw it seems.....if a politician gets divorced it is usually for a much younger model.

Oh no, sorry, I'm just too cynical, it must be true love.

sensually intelligent

My fantasy woman would have large full and very firm breasts, wide shoulders, a slim waist and a perfect round bubble butt, with long tapering legs.
But in reality, I'll go for the fuller figure in preference to the slim (or thin!).

I was delighted when my doctor told me not to run or jog because of knee damage. Non-impact excerise was what he recommended :)
.....and yes, that is on the menu, but I also walk now - usually do 25 miles a week, some short but at least one 12 mile one which over our hills keeps the blood moving.

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