You mention your mental health. Have you considered that his mental health may be the issue? Sounds like a possible bout of depression to me. I know it will be hard to bring up with him directly in the current state but maybe do reading up on depression in men to see if you can get some ideas of how to broach the subject.

Counselling for you might also open the door to getting him to talk to someone about it. Again, I know men can be pretty resistant to seeing psychologists or other counselling professionals but looking for a way to get a foot in the door to break down that resistance is something the counsellor might be able to help with.

Just a thought based on some personal experiences.

You are so right about depression, we have talked about it, definitely there, things are better now, but for how long? Still feel controlled by his emotional states too deeply, but maybe that is also a reflection of me not being very secure in myself, which is the case.

I don't know all of the situation, but here are some general thought on the matter as a whole.

I feel that if one part of a relationship feels neglected, it should be addressed. Sometimes it is not the case, and that has to be shown as well. But many times it is the case. We see excuses like, work, video games, family problems (outside the relationship or family/pair unit), and other things. For me these are simply not acceptable excuses/reasons for neglecting your partner.

Most everyone have plenty of excuses they could give for neglecting their partner, but I frankly don't buy any of them..... except depression and loss of interest. Depression should be dealt with. And loss of interest, well that all depends on WHY it happened. Sometimes it can be worked on and fixed, and other times it can't be. We see plenty of relationships fizzle out after the initial passion and excitement of a "new thing" wares off. It happens. It SUCKS, but it happens. And it most often leaves one party feeling used and then worthless.

YOUR man on the other hand sounds like he had some significant baggage going into the relationship anyways. You may or may not be able to work through those things. But I never recommend people trying to settle down with people who need "fixing", because in most cases you can NOT fix them. Get them fixed before making any real commitment with them. You may actually find that once they have taken care of their issues, you may not actually LIKE them. Many times people are attracted to the wounded animal, whether they realize it or not. And it almost always ends poorly.

My lover is a man who is pretty closed and guarded, struggling with a lot of stuff in his life, is currently holed up with a video game for several days, says leave him be, is tuning me out, says not to take it personally, has even gotten angry at me for telling him I want to be there for him, need him, woke up in tears because I miss him so much, this angered him too, I am so in love with this man, he tells me he has never experienced love, ever, but is very very fond of me, cares for me ect. I adore this man, this current episode is really hurting me, feel so weak, he thinks I am making this about "me", feels "annoyed" I see it as more closing up, don't know how to act, I told him I loved him, he said "thank you". Should I play distant, but I cannot be something that I am not, I wear my heart on my sleeve, it suits him sometimes, touches him, I feel too much at the mercy of his moods, detrimental to my mental health even. Then he will "come back" tell me he misses me and I will be so happy. Pretty bad?

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