Topic Is cyber sex cheating?
13 Mar 2014 12:02
If you are committed to another whether married, engaged, or just "going together" and you have any kind of relationship outside of that, it's cheating. Plain and simple. I'm a "dance with the one what brung ya" kinda guy. I have My pet whom I am totally committed to. I have no need nor desire to go outside of our relationship for sex - real or imagined.
Do I fantasize, sure. But most of My fantasies are realized in the one sleeping next to Me.
This hits the nail on the head for me!
Topic Talking about anal
13 Mar 2014 11:57
Talking from experience and the advice I've given friends, if it's her first time receiving anal then let her go on top. Most people I know who have shared their experiences with me, good or bad, have all said they began on all fours. This baffles me! When you're on all fours your muscles are tensed and therefore it will cause pain no matter how much lubrication you use, and since they can't control the movements it'll end with a very sore, and very unhappy girlfriend.
Hopefully you've both already discussed this, so bringing it up won't be an issue. My advice would be; relaxation, lubrication and position. Being worried will make her tense therefore it will hurt, just be reassuring and tell her if it hurts you'll stop and apply more lubrication or go slower. Lubrication is also a massive part of it, without it it'll be painful on both parts (I recommend Vaseline.) And finally position, with her on top she can gauge how much enters her and she can go at her own pace.
This advice all applies to you too, so no special treatment for one and not the other. Be patient, be gentle and be safe.
Topic Why aren't you telling your spouse that you frequent sites like Lush?
13 Mar 2014 11:44
I created my Lush account whilst I was with my fiancé, with him next to me! It started from a dream I had and I just had the inspiration to write and once I read it to him (followed by an unbelievable sex session) he urged me to upload it online so others could enjoy it. If people don't tell their partners about Lush I feel it's a bit sordid and sly, so why not be open about it? Lush is a big part of my life, not just the site but sex in general and if I met a guy and he didn't agree with my sexuality and open minded nature he basically didn't agree with every fibre in me, so I'd tell them to shove it :).
Topic The age gap...
13 Mar 2014 11:37
I'm 19 and engaged, my maturity level is much higher. Do I feel like I'm not exploring my options? No. Do I feel the need to enjoy my youth like every other person I know? No. Do I need to date around to know who is and isn't a prick? NO. I think you get the picture. If you was 16 and your boyfriend was 29 (like my fiancé's sister and her boyfriend) then yes I would say it's pretty taboo and should be kept to the fantasies. Some people get married within 6 months of knowing each other too so why should it be a problem if you're only discussing it? I wish you all the happiness in the world for you and your partner, what's the point in re-living what you know when you can live and look forward to what you love? Your parent's don't understand and probably won't, but what they need to realise is that it is your life and you should be free to live it as you wish. You're young and in love so why should people who are full of pessimism be allowed to break you of that high you feel when your with him?
All the best for you both, and no matter what, live your life for you not those around you.
Topic Coping with partners grieving?
13 Mar 2014 11:22
I'll be speaking as the person who lost a loved one. My nan. She was the most amazing women in the world and when she died I was heartbroken, I found out halfway through an exam and had to be rushed to the hospital to be told she'd already gone. At the time this happened I was already at a very low point in my life so this just piled on to my depression. I seriously wouldn't have coped without my fiancé, he was my rock and yeah, our sex life suffered for a few months, it got to the point where I did it only because I felt guilty.
The last thing on your wife's mind at the moment would be sex, especially if its her mother who has died. Time is our greatest healer, and people deal with grief in different ways. You need to show your wife the good times so she doesn't dwell on the bad. The times when life was good and happy and remind her that you'll always be there for her no matter what. I know this advice is pretty self explanatory but it's all you can do.
I hope I've been of any help, but just give her time and she'll soon be back to herself.
Topic Do people really fall in love on lush?
13 Mar 2014 11:10
I've never experienced it myself, although I have been very fond of people in a friendship way. But I have a very good friend on here who has found love, and I hope it lasts. She is happier than ever and it's mutual on both parts, they're head over heels for each other and it most definitely restores my faith in meeting love online.
Topic Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
13 Mar 2014 11:07
I'll be honest, I didn't think you could. Before the relationship I'm in now started I had broken up with a serious boyfriend and it hurt, a lot. We got back together three times before we finally called it quits and ended it. I think if we ended it the first time there'd of been no love lost and it would of been easier but the fact we went back to each other after it didn't work numerous times made the fact that it didn't work out hurt all the more, giving the impression I still loved them. Now if I fast forward a few months I met my current partner (who is now my fiancé) and I just can't even begin to describe the difference in feeling, it's on a completely different level. Someone on here mentioned it before, but it's most definitely the memory I loved, rather than the person so yes, I fully believe you can stop loving someone.
Topic what kind of seducer are you quiz
12 Mar 2014 17:30
Your Seduction Style: Fantasy Lover
You know that ideal love that each of us dreams of from childhood? That's you!
Not because you possess all of the ideal characteristics, but because you are a savvy shape shifter.
You have the uncanny ability to detect someone's particular fantasy... and make it you.
You inspire each person to be idealistic and passionate, and you make each moment memorable.
Even a simple coffee date with you can be the most romantic moment of someone's life.
By giving your date exactly what he or she desires, you quickly become the ideal lover.
Your abilities to make dreams come true is strong. So strong that you are often the love of many people's lives.
Your ex's (and even people you have simply met or been friends with) long to be yours.
No doubt you are the one others have dreamed of... your biggest challenge is finding *your* dream lover.
Topic Greatest Love or Greatest Sex?
12 Mar 2014 17:26
There is nothing so beautiful as the genuine reciprocation of love and devotion between lovers. What is love without love? I could never walk away from that.
That is beautiful, I don't think anyone could top this reply.
Topic about size
12 Mar 2014 17:23
I have never been too worried about size it is ability to use that is more important
Totally agree, I think I'd go more for girth though if I had to choose.
Topic Warm sunny day outfit's
12 Mar 2014 17:22
A nice flimsy dress, which is easy to move in and be comfortable. I totally agree with the no bra or panties! How much more comfortable is a dress when your commando?!
Topic Older Men
12 Mar 2014 17:19
I think the idea has always intrigued me, but if I was ever in that situation I would defiantly choose No.4. You never know what someone's forte is!
Topic Condoms ??
12 Mar 2014 17:17
I understand the use of condoms in sex when you have mulitple partners, but when you have one sexual partner at a time and know of each others pasts then the whole condom issue really ends up not being an issue. I prefer not to use them as I too feel they restrict and hinder the mood, but I have been with my fiancé for five years and we're monogamous.
Topic Do u get vocal when masturbating alone?
12 Mar 2014 17:12
Haha YES....actually sometimes I'll even encourage my silicone man to "go harder"....a conversation with myself perhaps, but it helps the mood. OMG that was rather embarrassing to admit.
Honesty is the best policy, and it makes other people admit to their experiences. I've done this too, only once mind you but I guess once is enough. I guess I've got a pretty vivid imagination!
Topic Do women like wearing sports bras, regular bras, or no bra?
12 Mar 2014 17:00
I only use my bra to carry things, e.g. lipgloss, bus pass ect. Not really it's intended use I know. I find sports bras a little too restricting as I like to feel natural when I walk, not taped down. My favourite part of the day is coming home and taking my bra off so I would have to say no bra is my favourite.
Topic After your parents split up, would you want them to ever get back together?
16 Jan 2014 14:22
My mum and dad are still together, even after the few times their relationship started to break. They worked through and are now stronger than ever. If the unfortunate happened and they did end up breaking up I think I'd be selfish and hold out hope of them getting back together, yet their happiness would make me happy in the end.
Topic Girls.......does size matter ?
09 Jan 2014 06:31
I think guys should make the most of what they've got. I'd be completely hypocritical if I said size doesn't matter as it does, two experiences of mine have confirmed my views on that. One was so small it felt like his little finger and the other felt as though I was going to be ripped in half. These where the mistakes in my life but I didn't give them the chance to show me what else they could do because they could of been amazing lovers in other ways.
Topic A question for the girls
09 Jan 2014 06:15
The first question is this: Why don't most women like to have their man ejaculate in their mouth? My wife used to give me head but the only time I didn't withdraw in time and she actually tasted it, she was furious. In fact it was one of the last times she would indulge in oral.
The second question is: And this relates to some of the stories published here, when people are describing the taste of semen, they usually describe it as salty, or mildly salty. In my (limited) experience semen unlike pre-cum tends to be mildly sweet not salty.
For those ladies that indulge, what do you taste and do you mind the taste?
To answer the first question I had a real bad experience one time where I didn't expect it and choked. It hasn't put me off completely though, I prefer him not to though. Answering the second question it really does depend on the guy, comparing the two I've had the first was gross, literally had me running to the bathroom, whereas the second (and also my boyfriend, still) wasn't actually that bad even though I still find it salty. I don't really let it stick around for long on my tongue so I swallow it quickly to avoid the taste.
Topic Guys virginity
09 Jan 2014 06:02
I'd be impressed that the guy had the guts to admit to being a virgin. In today's male culture it's almost like a mark of shame.
I'd think more highly of him.
I totally agree, it takes balls to admit it and it's better than being a liar.
Topic Would you meet someone from Lush in person?
09 Jan 2014 06:00
I've met a lot of people on Lush and a handful I consider good friends. There may only be a few left still on Lush but I'd definitely meet them for friendship, I wouldn't for anything more than that.