Topic confused single dad question.... how young?
01 Feb 2013 21:35
I don't understand the original post. The way I'm reading it suggests that the mother is going to just give the child to him to take care of and then bail altogether. If that's the case, then you have my sympathies, sir. I wish I could offer you advice, but I don't think I know what's going on here.
Topic Internet girlfriend dies, life has no meaning...
17 Jan 2013 19:40
Knowing nothing about sports, or the individuals or situation in question, I have two things to say:
First, what business is it of yours?
Second, how do you KNOW that they didn't have legitimate feelings for each other.
I guess the gist of what I'm saying is "Make some room or the fuckin' unexpected."
Topic GUYS ONLY! Please help....
17 Jan 2013 16:47
I hope I can be of some help, but who knows. Things to keep in mind about me: I am bio-male, and live much of my life as a man, but am also Pansexual, Transsexual, and Poly. I may have a fairly unique perspective, but that isn't necessarily bad.
At first, I was pretty taken aback by your post, but then I went back and read all your background posts and understand a little better. Ordinarily I would have immediately thought you were kind of crazy for insisting he give you his passwords. In my world (and the world of everybody I know), even the simple act of asking for a password to an active or even former account to e-mail, lush, grinder, etc. would be wildly inappropriate, let alone demanding it. In my world my partner would be able to ask me to show her anything and I her, but we have separate passwords, and I make sure to change mine on a regular basis.
Next things to keep in mind. It sounds like you guys agreed on password sharing and whatnot beforehand. If you did, I'm much more behind you than I was before. If you didn't formally agree on it though, you have not much of a leg to stand on. Maybe a peg-leg, if he really is doing anything inappropriate, but still, not too much. I don't think you have any real right to tell him not to look at porn. Watching porn and masturbating is NOT cheating. Dating sites are sketchier territory, but it does sound like you're choking his personal style a little. I'm not defending that style mind you, but it may not be changeable.
I'm also curious about your username. Not only does it denote a d/s sort of scenario, but you say 'sub in training', which leads me to believe that he's the dom, obviously; and less obviously (especially to the sub, in most circumstances) he might be taking advantage of your lack of experience in the D/S community by insisting that you be okay with his life-choices, while he refuses to make compromises for you. That's not a healthy relationship of any kind, even for a dom and a sub.
Regardless of anything, you have every right to be pissed about him looking for guys to bang- unless you're open, but I assume you'd have mentioned- but maybe that means he needs to be able to explore some male-on-male action in order to be properly sexually fulfilled. It could also just mean he's a jerk, unfortunately. Sometimes they are.
Topic Aristocratic or very posh women
17 Jan 2013 16:28
...? You need to get more specific dude. Right now, nobody knows what you're talking about, and so it's a little creepy. Not horribly so, we just don't know what the hell you're talking about.
Topic Do you enjoy being bitten?
15 Jan 2013 12:53
Anywhere, everywhere. So much of the time.
In terms of my limits, don't draw blood; you're not a vampire, you're an infection risk.
Topic have you ever done or tried shower sex
12 Jan 2013 14:10
Yes. If you have a nice roomy shower like our old place it's fun...
I miss that shower. It was on the second story. It had a window. It was big enough for two people to comfortably get it on. Oh well. Something had to be less awesome about the new place.
Topic Sex in the car...
12 Jan 2013 14:08
Done it, it's fun...
IF the car's moving. It's a little constraining and boring for me if you're just parked somewhere.
If the car's moving and one of the participants is driving it's VERY fun.
If the car's moving and more than one of the participants is driving it, it's maybe too much fun.
Topic what do you find most desirerable about a man?
12 Jan 2013 14:05
Any man? Or a specific man? That seems important information to have.
Any man: As much as I hate to say it, and fall in line, at the moment I have to go with "has a penis"... I do miss other dick. I also like a good nose, neck, shoulders and calves.
A specific man: This is much less about the penis, and much more about the person as a whole.
Topic Improving Sex Skills
07 Dec 2012 00:53
That's such a broad question, it's hard to say. Chances are, you're better at whatever you want to be better at already than you think. There's usually nothing practice won't cure as long as you're open to trying new things. Also, look things up. The internet is a powerful tool, and there's a lot already written on the subject. If you're looking for a more personal touch to the information though, feel free to get a little more specific with your question and I'm sure somebody on lush will give you a helpful answer.
Topic Second Amendment
20 Nov 2012 14:27
Right you are Tazz. Glad somebody else has some sense. I of course think it's more complicated than that, but I think we honestly need another amendment to clarify and modify the original text. Especially when you consider that the National Guard is not the "Army National Guard" and has been absorbed into full military service.
Topic Do you prefer shaved pussies?
20 Nov 2012 14:22
Certainly not exclusively. Sometimes it's nice when I'm going down on a girl though.
Topic How kinky are you? TEST
20 Nov 2012 14:19
I was expecting lower than that. Awesome. I like to think of myself as kinky. I guess some of my friends are just really hardcore... I sometimes think excessively, but I guess they have a good time.
Topic Cock Rings
04 Nov 2012 13:04
This seems like at least two questions.
The cock ring question is easier so I'll start there. The point of a cock-ring as I understand it is to help a guy stay hard once he is hard, thereby providing something for both partners.
The second question is a little silly. Not stupid, and it's great that you care enough to ask, but that question really has to be addressed to the ladies individually.
Topic Faking it... any?
04 Nov 2012 13:00
As someone who's actually been on both sides of this one, I may have some insight.
If a man (or woman) - let's just say your 'partner' is observant they might be able to tell that you're faking, and that doesn't make us feel good at all. I think if explained to most people that for whatever reason, you just aren't going to cum right then (that evening, weekend, whatever), then it's a much better approach, but I understand the urge to please your partner's desired to please you.
I have certainly done it myself from time to time. Those of you who know my posts or profile may be gasping and exclaiming "Surely not!". Yes, For those of you who don't know, I'm MTF trans, but non-operative bio-male, and while I am biologically male, but there are two things to keep in mind here. The first is that orgasms are not necessarily the most important part of sex for me and I don't always cum, in much more the same way women tend not to than anything else. My orgasm is about seventy or eighty percent psychological. The second thing is that men can indeed fake an orgasm. I like to burst that bubble every now and then. Ever had a guy "orgasm" and just not cum that much? It works best in a condom, but it's not the only way.
I mention this because while I think in a relationship it's generally bad news to fake orgasms, sometimes a one night stand goes on too long, and you just know that you aren't the only one who's bored. It's unfortunate but occasionally necessary. My opinion in general is that once a relationship is committed in any way, there should be no more faking. Education is the way to go. That isn't to say I'm judging those who do it (too harshly, at least), it just seems like a waste of everybody's time and energy to me. I'm sure I don't understand it fully, though.
Topic Sound Familiar to You?
03 Nov 2012 11:10
I agree with both of the above statements. It's important to be polite (I think), but if they're rude or ignore what you've said on your profile, then it's okay to either delete without a response, or give them a piece of your mind if they've been to egregious. Just don't go overboard.