Forum posts made by centerline

...that's a complex question. In my case, unlike many men, It's about eighty or eighty-five percent psychological, so it's quite varied.

I think there is no defined/definable difference, and that it's in the moment. You can be in the middle of "making love", and hear your partner say "Fuck me!". That doesn't invalidate the emotional aspects of the experience, nor does it necessarily mean the experience is non-emotional for your partner. It's ephemeral.

Absolutely.

To be fair, I have a lot of physiological traits and quirks that tend toward female biology. I theorize it's a hormonal thing, considering how trans I am, but as a bio-male, I feel qualified to answer.

I would definitely be able to tell. I know what my mate smells like, and for the most part, I know what all my friends smell like. When I lived in a communal house, I used to be able to identify if somebody had been in my room, how long ago, and who it was. I'm kind of a freak when it comes to my olfactory senses, though.

I'm curious to find out what other guys will say, though. Good question.

Eh. I don't think it has much to do with anything as creepy as reverting to per-pubescence. I think it's just one more style. Like a man shaving his beard entirely. Or for that matter, a man shaving his pubic region.

They just are, to some people.

I think that people get nervous about having a foot fetish because it's the classic. Though the most common of all the sexual fetishes, it's still a fetish, and that makes a lot of men (and women) a little uncomfortable. For those of us who have other fetishes, it's not so hard to admit, but even I took several months to mention it to my partner. To be fair, I wasn't completely aware of it until fairly recently.

It also falls in a different category than fetishes like spanking, hair-pulling, choking, etc. Anything that falls in or near the categories of DS or outright BDSM, is a different thing to admit, for a lot of people.

In my case, I just find feet attractive, and enjoy their touch, but it doesn't go beyond that. I also enjoy spanking and being spanked, as well as restraints, candles and a variety of other things, but (for the moment at least) tend to approach all of those things at the lower levels. I imagine being hugely compelled toward something but never having really experienced it would be a bit frustrating and embarrassing.

Cheers, friends.

Don't we all at some point? Maybe not, but I think those few who don't are lucky, and the rest of us are the status quo. I'm now extremely happy with my partner, though.

Continuing to be sick, damn it.

Mostly at home. Elsewhere occasionally. Camping, of course. On rare occasion, while hiking I'll wander off into the woods and find a nice spot- climb a tree or something.

Yeah, it's important to remember that it doesn't necessarily include the originator of that load. Sometimes it occurs in group sex too. I'm not into it really, but it's not a huge turn-off either. Since I'm here, had to answer.

I think it's a word with a floating definition, but in terms of the "marital status" line on a Lush profile, I think it's a declaration of intent.

What I don't get, is why everybody cares. In my life, I've never understood the obsession with celebrities. Just because I don't think a rich, famous, noble and/or royal individual should get paid as much as they do, does not mean they should lose their rights to privacy. Many rich people (and nobility/royalty) have committed a lot of crimes in order to get that rich, and maybe they should lose some of their rights and freedoms because of that, but in general, I think the right to privacy should be much more resilient.

No.

I do not.

I can't see why I would. I know that some people do, but to me... ick.

That's not to say that I'm against casual sex. I met the love of my existence through what could have been a one-night stand. We've only seen the other dude a couple of times since then, but that's okay. His (slightly creepy) enthusiasm was the catalyst for a relationship, but that was at a party, and not a bar. Also, I knew him a little, though ironically, I hardly knew she who would become my girlfriend at all then.

Cheers to those who find love or enjoyment that way, though.

I say slow down. I'm in an oddly absolutist mood today, though. You've recently met and you're talking about marriage? I assume you've had some sex then. Probably more than a little, so I guess one valid question is: "Do you enjoy it?".

Also, what exactly is the problem with her "body size"? Are you saying that she's a little outside what you look for, or are you saying she's one fried chicken dinner away from coronary arrest? There's also a lot to the difference between being heavy and being overweight. You can be big and simultaneously healthy, so it really shouldn't be a big deal as long as she's healthy. I think that the relationship is only set up for failure if you frame it that way in your mind. She makes you happy, so all you have to do is make her happy.

This question has to be on the top ten repeated "ask the gals" topics. It usually has better grammar, too.

Very cheerful outlook. Very straightforward intro. Delightful.

It's usually all of the above, but sometimes just A and/or B. Other times it's just because I know my partner wants some attention. Occasionally, it's because I want to entertain myself while we're doing something I find less interesting than my partner.

An age old question...

I tend to go with the kiss, if only because it's first. If for some reason it's not, then the fuck is probably either really fantastic, or REALLY not, so my answer (in general) stands.

I actually like your definition quite well. Utilizing that notion I'm quite the romantic. I'm romantically floored by my girlfriend, of course, but I like that your phrasing expands it beyond that. The way a pilot, or somebody who wants to become one might be deeply connected to the romance of flight, I'm attached to the romance of the theater, or the written word.

I'd react the same way if a man did. I'd call the police and charge them with sexual assault, and defend myself as was required. It's distinctly not okay. How do you think the average woman would react if a strange man grabbed and kissed her on the street?

I got so sick of dating, romance, sex and the whole scene that I recused myself, as it were, for about sixteen or seventeen months. I had a couple of ill-advised companionate flings afterward, and then another six months of solitude. After that, my current girlfriend (and love of my life) and I were introduced. It took us about five or six weeks and one complete fluke of a drunk threesome to realize we were perfect for each other, and here we are. If there's somebody for someone as crazy as me, there's definitely somebody for everybody. Just being patient and accepting that the world will put you together eventually seems to be the key.

BelleduJour is right. Be creative.

If you actually want to be with this girl long term, I wouldn't keep it from her. The definition of sex can stretch quite a bit though. Especially to include oral sex. I think you're worrying too much about it.

For anybody who says no they shouldn't, should men be allowed? If so, why the double standard.

Sometimes. Massive neurotransmitter rushes can help with that.

Really? This thread is still living? I still say four hours of continuous fucking is too much for whomever is on either end, but whatever.

Took it again as my other gender and got 83%. I'll call that an averaged 80%.

This is a complex question. In a similar thread Kimasa was telling us about the physiopsychology of sexual hormones. Apparently being "controlled" ups the levels of oxytocin in the body which (in general) increases the sexual experience in women, whereas "controlling" somebody tends to up the testosterone levels, which obviously is more of a male thing. Biologically speaking, I'm kind of an exception to the rule (assuming I'm not in possession of some small intersex organ I'm not aware of - as could any of us be!) in that I like to be controlled.

This seems like a really, really odd question for woman to be asking. Moreover, a 25 year old woman. I don't say that because I'm judging you, but because I'm curious as to how this situation came to be.

It seems like you would know what you do to make yourself cum. He can do that too. If he doesn't know how, you can teach him. If he's into you, he'll definitely pursue that option, unless he's a jerk. Again, if he's not a jerk, he can and should go down on you. You'll know what feels good, and so you'll know how to guide him. To a certain extent, at least.

He should also be able to help guide you in making him "feel good" as you put it...

Now for the big question: You're 25... and don't want to have intercourse? This again is ABSOLUTELY NOT A JUDGMENT , but it is a curiosity to me. I don't quite understand. I do, in as much as I didn't want to have sex for years after it's normal to experiment, but that's primarily because when I lost my virginity - way too young - it was involuntary and needless to say there was some psychological trauma involved. If I've struck too close to home, I apologize, but I'm curious why you don't want to? Also, as a side note, most women don't usually orgasm simply from vaginal intercourse with no other stimulation.

Anyway, I hope that's a little bit useful.

I'm not sure what's up with that. I have a lot of friends from L.A, New York, London, etc. who have moved to my little corner of the world and they collectively nicknamed it "the land of the terminally polite", and even I think the world is made up of jerks. What must it be like outside this little valley?

77%...

Not so inaccurate, really. Not so accurate either. Thanks to whomever posted this one for a few seconds of amusement.