Topic Sound Familiar to You?
03 Nov 2012 11:10
I agree with both of the above statements. It's important to be polite (I think), but if they're rude or ignore what you've said on your profile, then it's okay to either delete without a response, or give them a piece of your mind if they've been to egregious. Just don't go overboard.
Topic Are you a true pussy eater?
18 Oct 2012 19:02
What makes me a "true" pussy eater?
I enjoy it quite a lot, but it's not the only kind of sex I enjoy. I wonder what your definition is. I'll check back, if somebody posts one.
Topic Who does not like pussy?
18 Oct 2012 18:59
Otherwise it seems everybody must... to some extent. Even if it's just their own...
Topic Short skirt when riding bike
13 Oct 2012 11:23
I know many women who wear skirts while biking. Usually short ones, so as not to get tangled in the pedals and chains. The way they solve the problem is to wear tights or leggings. I think it's mostly because it's often cold here, though.
Topic Affair wanted
13 Oct 2012 11:19
You really seem awful, but I'm feeling oddly uncranky today, so I'll make a couple of suggestions.
Try to remember why you married her in the first place. Try to remember why you love her. If you didn't have a good reason, or you don't, or you can't remember, then divorce might be the best option; and if that's the case, you probably should point out to your wife when bringing it up that you're an enormous asshole for putting her through being married to you.
To be fair, we've all responded knowing that you're an asshole, and assuming she's completely lovely. Maybe she's got her own set of personality issues, but you're definitely a jerk. As a side-note, you sound like so much of a jerk, I kind of doubt anybody's going to want to bang you once you are separated from your wife.
Topic who honestly likes to give blow jobs
30 Sep 2012 13:52
Really, guys. Most of us who do it, enjoy it. In my experience, that's most women, and more than a few men. Cheers.
Topic Wife wants a hall pass?
30 Sep 2012 13:50
It sounds like you already have a complicated relationship, sexually speaking.
I'm not saying that's a bad thing at all, quite the contrary. It's just that your reticence regarding giving her this "hall pass" indicates there may already be some stress on the relationship. How does it make you feel that she wants to have sex with somebody without you present? My girlfriend and I play with others but our rule is that we have to both be present and engaged. Without further information, my instinct is that she's got her eye on someone and wants your permission to test the waters. I guess I'd say not to be surprised if she asks for more such passes after the first night, if you give it to her.
Maybe she just has to have it, though, and you won't have any choice. It does sound to me like she's manipulating the situation so that you either have to give her more and more wiggle room, or end your relationship with her, which it seems to me is something she's betting you aren't going to do. There are a lot of assumptions in that scenario, but the three people I know who got ultimatums from their long-term partners about such a free pass wound up in exactly that scenario, and got there via totally different routes.
The gist of my advice is that I think it's a slippery slope, but I acknowledge that I obviously don't have the background knowledge of the situation, you, or your wife. All the best wishes and energies to you.
Now, if you'll all excuse me, I'm going to go mock somebody for posting one of the ultimate repetitive threads.
Topic Your past self
27 Sep 2012 15:03
I'd go back and observe, but not attempt to change a damn thing. Sometimes life is boring, sad, infuriating, or just shitty. Can't do anything about that, so I would just be curious what my behavior back then (when?) and there (where?) looked like to an objective observer. Also, I wouldn't want to alter the trajectory my life has taken, considering it lead me to my perfect girlfriend.
Topic Would you date a man if Autism was involved?
27 Sep 2012 15:00
Well, the autism spectrum is so large that it's hard to say with just that piece of info. One of my best friends is an exceptionally high functioning autistic man currently pursuing a masters in library science- wouldn't date him because we've known each other since third grade and are not that kind of friends. Another guy I know is technically high functioning, but is so completely lost in his own thoughts that he can't make room for anybody else's- I wouldn't date him, because I think he's a jerk; how much that has to do with his autism is up for debate.
I briefly dated an autistic woman in my sophomore year of college, but as you probably know, the social symptoms of autism tend to manifest quite differently when occurring in women. I theorize that this is largely due to the way we train women in society to be timid and quiet- the way a lot of autistic men are- and they rebel. This occurs usually when a social niche is found, like being incredibly nerdy. She was.
All this to say that autism is an enormous spectrum, and it's not a lot of information to go on. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, though. My suggestion is that a social niche of accepting people is helpful, though. Even if you're not super into whatever it is they are- say, theater, or board games. You'll usually find a lot of ways to connect with people, and you'll meet people in small groups which is usually the easiest time to interact with them, especially when they're doing all the work of getting to know you *cough, cough* theater.
Hope that was useful.
Topic Guys only
27 Sep 2012 14:49
Well, yes. But then again, I'm pretty queer, and only sort of a guy.
What's up with this question? Is it just to get your post count up?
Topic Cats crack me up sometimes
26 Sep 2012 15:17
My two critters are pretty adorable. Love the hell out of them, even when they bad.
26 Sep 2012 15:16
Not that important. It's an odd opinion for an actor, but it's honestly what I feel.
Topic What music do you listen to while you exercise?
26 Sep 2012 15:15
Depends on the exercise.
Is it yoga? I might be listening to some Ingrid Michelson, First Aid Kit, or Sarah Jaffe. (Just what I've been doing lately)
Is it martial arts? I don't actually do any martial arts that are really energetic in the training, but it's still a lot of movement. If it's that, though, it's whatever my teacher's in the mood for.
If I'm running, it's probably a mixed playlist of some kind, ranging from Bob Dylan to Everclear.
Topic Can a woman's sordid sexual history prevent her from being "the one"?
22 Sep 2012 22:14
No, I think not.
She would have to have a current sexual interest that I couldn't deal with, and there are few. I only considered the addendum in the first place because you mentioned an incestuous relationship. That would be hard for me to deal with, but since nearly all incestuous relations are scenarios of abuse, I guess it would be a deal-breaker if she were the abuser. If I found out that my partner had a history of sexually abusing anybody though, I'd be tremendously upset and would begin reconsidering things.
With that said, both my partner and I are quite adventurous, and it's great. If we talk about I've had a number of relatively adventurous (and unfortunately traumatic) experiences in my sexual past, but it has yet to be a problem for us. In fact, my ability to be open about it when we were first together indeed strengthened our relationship. Really, before my current girlfriend, I had not that much sex in my life, but what I lacked in quantity, I more than made up for in intensity and unusual circumstance.
In summation ( and a direct answer to your question ) I would have to say that the only "deal-breaker", as you say, would be if somebody were an abuser of any kind, but I think maybe that's not quite what you were talking about.
Topic Blow job
22 Sep 2012 22:02
It's not a problem for my partner and I, but then again, a period isn't a problem for sex either, if we're both in the mood.
Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
22 Sep 2012 15:14
There's a lot we can and do learn.
I think that while you have a point with certain generalizations, it's important to remember two things. The first is that people get pleasure from different things. Some women love anal sex. Some women hate it. Some women enjoy having several orgasms, and some are either not interested or too sensitive. Some men are legitimately capable of having several orgasms. As a bio-male individual, I can say that (at least when not medicated with large amounts of tranquilizers... grr...), I can usually have at least two in a session if my partner is into it, though as a rule, we both try to get ourselves/each other to cum once and just make it a good one.
The second thing to keep in mind is that erotic fiction is fiction. There's a degree of fantasy that's important in all fiction. Pure realism works for some writers, but not many. I've done it with certain projects. Actually my two lush-published erotic stories are near-total realism, but I actually tend toward dark or psychedelic surrealism and absurdism in most of my writing. I have enormous respect for those who do it well, but it's difficult to pull off with any degree of believability; so where do we go? Fantasy. It makes the world of fiction go round. And round. And round and round and round, whereas realism makes it rotate on the same axis, constantly and at a never-changing pace or direction. Realist fiction is great, but there's a lot more to it, and it's not necessarily a writer's job to portray sex in erotic fiction exactly as their experience or academic research indicates it to be. Another minor note is that sometime what we enjoy in a fantasy is different than what we enjoy (or allow ourselves to enjoy) in reality.
Just some of my thoughts on the subject.
22 Sep 2012 15:06
I suppose that's the difference between cuddling and foreplay, innit?