Forum posts made by centerline

No.

I get why people think it's uncool not to, but it's just too much of a hazard for me. Been through a bunch of medical training (not a doctor or a nurse, though), and I'm just not comfortable doing things I know are a huge infection risk. Wear a condom for anal, take it off when you want me to suck your dick. Problem solved.

Pretty much what they said, but I'd add that it's important to communicate while the play is happening. Sometimes that can be done through well-placed moans that may or may not be involuntary, but also talk to him. Make it clear that it's something you really want him to do, and explain why just like you did to us. Maybe in more detail. Explain to him how it will reward him.

...hands I think.

That's kind of a complicated question.

Is this virgin really interested in sex? Is she familiar with her own body through extensive self-exploration? Is she self-conscious? I could keep listing questions, but you see my point.

Depending on how you look at it, I either lost my virginity kind of late, or way too early, but I tried not to care that much about it. There's a limited window of opportunity for when you're "supposed" to do so, according to society, and I think that's stupid. I also think that the stereotype of the virgin (for both men and women) is deteriorating more and more, and in the next twenty or thirty years will finally wane out of our collective mind.

Well I'm pretty damn queer, but my experience is that it's awesome. There's a lot to do between two guys, you know.

Not a problem. Ironically, I find more gay men who are turned off by their own than straight guys. Straight guys come into contact with their own all the time, and don't have to worry about another guy's cum. Not sure what's up with gay guys who won't kiss you after they came in your mouth, really, it's just been my experience.

I think it's important to be careful what you're posting, but as long as you aren't being offensive intentionally or through neglecting to think about it, you're pretty much okay. I keep away from the posting all together, but that's neither here nor there, I suppose.

On the subject of the "nude line-up", I would submit that it's not about sex either. It's about the physical appearance of the individual, and not their ability in bed. After all, hasn't about half of this thread been talking about the other things we can do sexually besides inserting a penis into a vagina? All I'm saying is that a line-up is a very narrow view. I'm not saying the analogy is completely flawed, I just wanted to throw that out there.

Another side not on that is as follows. Put me in a room with ten naked men, women, or both and ask me to choose, you know what's going to happen? Nothing sexual. I'm walking out the door. Furthermore, even if I wanted to, I may well not choose just one because I find more than one of them equally attractive according to the things I find attractive.

Hugs to this oddly heated forum.

I doubt I would ever want to meet in person with another lush user.

Much of the reason I'm able to have a Lush account is because of the anonymity. I don't have a facebook or any other networking kind of a site, and it's because I don't like to broadcast who I am to the world, but also because I like to be difficult to nail down. I thrive on solitude a lot of the time, so the people I actually know well tend to sneak in past my defenses somehow and show me how cool they are before I notice.

Once with a guy who went six times, but he had this weird habit of doing so out of nowhere and very abruptly. Also quickly. The whole encounter wasn't more than 45 minutes or an hour, and every time he came we sort of had to reset what we were doing, and I was never able to orgasm that evening. Since he didn't try to help with that once he finally stopped, I didn't feel it was necessary to call him again, so I never got his secret...

Thanks, everybody.

I basically wanted some confirmation that I wasn't crazy for being skeptical of a statistic like that. Many people have told me that it's simply impossible for most women. I knew it was more challenging and less common. From your responses I guess you'd be surprised at how insistent these people were that it's true. Maybe it's one of those conversation pieces that circulates locally and gets entrenched. Thanks again.

Stabbed me, took my car and left me bleeding in the parking lot. Looking back, I'm fine that she got away, but it took about two years before I really accepted that it was for the best. She was definitely "the one that got away" for that period of time.

I appreciate the responses a lot, but maybe I should clarify. I realize it's comparatively difficult to induce a vaginal orgasm, but I was asking if it's outright impossible for some women. Men can utilize other tools besides the penis. Fingers, hands, even arms in some cases, but mostly I meant toys. I realize it's more difficult, and I know few women who even masturbate going after a g-spot orgasm, but I've been told it's a biological impossibility for most women to have an orgasm using any part of the body besides the clitoris, and that's what seemed unlikely to me. Thanks in advance for any further insight.

So it's not just us, then?

Being patient with your technique is important. Just because you try something and it doesn't work doesn't mean it won't work when you try it again later. Having your head a couple of millimeters to one side can be all the difference sometime. At first there's going to be A LOT of trial and error, with a strong emphasis on the error. If your partner is as patient as you are, then you'll be fine.

Nope.

I have an away button, or the capacity to ignore people.

I agree with Dancing_Doll about having such a discussion after sex and not before. It's never a good strategy to try and lower your partner's expectations before hand. If your partner isn't interested in your feelings on the subject, they probably aren't a good choice for you to have sex with again. If he or she is disappointed, but unwilling to give you the chance to improve, then you likely are not well matched at this point in your sexual life.

In terms of premature ejaculation, yes, give yourself an orgasm earlier in the evening, but also give yourself enough time to recover. If you mean putting in work on your partner so that they orgasm while you fuck them, that's a little trickier, and my advice is- you don't have to cum at the same time. Maybe go down on your partner for a while until he or she cums. Make good use of your hands, or other parts if your partner's into it. Make them cum and then fuck them, if it makes you feel better. Some guys just cum quickly; especially early in their sexual lives. Sex is more than fucking- make the most of it.

That is useful. I feel like I have it fairly well, but in my most recent series (the only stories I've posted here) I have characters interacting in present tense, as well as telling each other stories in past tense which include dialogue. Needless to say, it's complicated. The Candlelight and Belts series can be found on my profile. I hate to plug like that, but I'd love any suggestions anybody might have. Chapter two is a ways off, but I can always post a formatting edit. Thanks to anybody who can help.

Start with a lengthy massage, and segue into the foreplay, then into the sex. It doesn't hurt if she has an orgasm first, and the first few times, I'd say don't take too long. If it does hurt her a little, she may not say anything, but you don't want to break her for a week. Have fun!

I wouldn't worry about it at all.

I have friends who have penises much smaller, and some who have nine inch spears. You should feel good about two things immediately.

The first is that you don't have an ego problem, and therefore won't rely on your size to get the job done - something which is stupid anyway; but many men assume that a big dick means they don't have to try. Use your hands, mouth, and whatever other parts of your body you and your partner are both comfortable with and make her cum! Some girls, and guys for that matter are what the world refers to as "size queens", but that's usually to do with an insecurity of their own. They tend to always mock whatever penis they see, and aren't very fun to sleep with anyway, in my experience.

The second thing is, you don't have to worry about hurting your partner with your penis, which is nice. There's nothing that puts a stop to sex faster than the phrase "Ow! My cervix!"

Enjoy your penis.

Yeah, you might be better off with the late sixties through the early eighties in terms of an era of porn where plot is relevant. Ron Jeremy has done some interviews on the subject. He's a surprisingly interesting guy. Anybody else know that his other job is teaching developmentally disabled children? Yep, Ron Jeremy the public school teacher.

First: You are NOT weird or creepy for enjoying anal sex. I know many women who do. I know some who don't, but if I compiled the data I think it would be about 65/35 in favor.

Second: Men are not ALL anything.

Glad to hear it, sir.

Never met a woman who doesn't...

Sometimes. It depends on a lot more than that, though. Plenty of men will walk down the street with a raging boner almost stabbing out of their pants and you never even know it because they aren't walking like they're ashamed of it- hunched over, carrying their case oddly, whatever. Other times, people just have a limp or a strange way of carrying something, so no, I don't assume.

It does cross my mind though.

I agree that there's a lot of options to choose from, and the right one rarely if ever comes to me. My advice to everybody is to avoid the c*** word. It's fine by many, but enough of us find it to be such a turn-off that the story loses it's erotic appeal, either immediately, or slowly as we force ourselves to try and overcome it. The advice was meant as nicely as can be meant.

Really, DirtyMartini? I'm giggling and frowning simultaneously. Bet I look funny.

Right now I'm using a blend of first-person present-tense (pronoun only), and first-person past-tense. This is in my erotica for Lush. I'm planning a story written in an outright second-person perspective just for fun sometime. I've tried it before and had it work okay, but I think it will work great in an erotic context? Anybody else on second person writing?

I love them. Love, love, love, love, love them!

I use them especially when I'm talking, but some of my favorites are "henceforth", "verily", and "forsooth" - which I have started a thing amongst some folk (ooh, "folk") I know converting it to mock gangsta speak "fo sooth!".

I use lots of others also, and I'm sure I'll be back to this thread when I've given it more thought, but right now I'm having a kind of an attention-deficit sort of a night. Cheerio!

I'm sure I have lots, but I'm not sure how much the influence my erotic writing.

I have a lot of respect for many authors and writers throughout history (some of whom are listed on my profile), and many of those influence my writing style and voice, but my erotic voice is still developing. I guess it's mostly related to the rest of my writing, but not really to the external influences of those pieces, if that makes sense.