Abigail...

Not sure who you are wanting a spanking from ... your post says "from my OH".

I believe you are wanting an over the knee (OTK) type of spanking. (or maybe more...) but depending on your partner ... that is a good place to start. If you can talk about it with your partner and discuss what he/she wants that is a good idea.

Most OTK spankings are done with the hand only. Not to say a paddle or ruler or other type of device can not be used.

Dressed in blouse, bra, skirt, panties, stockings and heels is a very erotic way to start a spanking. Your partner (if sensual and experienced) would most likely begin spankings through your clothing with rubbing in between ...

He/she would most likely lift your skirt up and pull your panties down to your mid-thighs for spanking your ass directly ...

The sky is the limit here ... it all depends on your partner....

Hope this helps.