50 shades of sunburn... ouch!

ISFJ
Irresistibly Silly F...ing Joke? They got me right! :D

To me this pretty much implies that to be able to achieve a dominant role amongst women, you have to think like a man, become more of a man than the women surrounding you. Thus it is impossible for a woman with a 100% female mindset to become a leader. If this whole thing is supposed to be some kind of "hail to the strong women" it's pretty much the opposite; it shows that no woman independent of male thought or mindset can be dominant, and thus men are genetically domninant over women and that it's not a social order. In other words; it's not doing feminism any favours.

very interesting take on this

Some really profound insights on this thread, and as others have commented there really seems to a be a correlation with those in power (or with the power of celebrity) able to get away with abuse for decades due to their status, and the fear and shame they induce in their victims. Also as you say Danielle, there is really a perception difference between generations. I know friends in their 70's and 80's who see abuse as an entirely modern problem, and exclaim that such things simply didn't happen in their day. Given that the most recently accused are men in their 70's and 80's, this idea is turned on its head. Its not that it didn't exist, just that far fewer people were aware.

Although its slang now, the word "cunt" has its origins in Middle English and was also common to Norse, Frisian, Dutch and German at that time as a word for vulva. So far from being insulting, historically speaking its just a word for that part of the anatomy.

Everyone's different! But for me, its making exercise part of my daily routine and actually booking in time for that, so it seems natural after a while. Best of luck! :)

Thank you TXGirl, I was just about to suggest some Donne!
BUSY old fool, unruly Sun,
Why dost thou thus,
Through windows, and through curtains, call on us ?
Must to thy motions lovers' seasons run ?
Saucy pedantic wretch, go chide
Late school-boys and sour prentices,
Go tell court-huntsmen that the king will ride,
Call country ants to harvest offices ;
Love, all alike, no season knows nor clime,
Nor hours, days, months, which are the rags of time.

Thy beams so reverend, and strong
Why shouldst thou think ?
I could eclipse and cloud them with a wink,
But that I would not lose her sight so long.
If her eyes have not blinded thine,
Look, and to-morrow late tell me,
Whether both th' Indias of spice and mine
Be where thou left'st them, or lie here with me.
Ask for those kings whom thou saw'st yesterday,
And thou shalt hear, "All here in one bed lay."

She's all states, and all princes I ;
Nothing else is ;
Princes do but play us ; compared to this,
All honour's mimic, all wealth alchemy.
Thou, Sun, art half as happy as we,
In that the world's contracted thus ;
Thine age asks ease, and since thy duties be
To warm the world, that's done in warming us.
Shine here to us, and thou art everywhere ;
This bed thy center is, these walls thy sphere.

Mine's MEEEEEE! In a 1950's vintage dress I made, which happens to show off them curves...

I'm so sorry that you've been hurt Eve, and as others have said, people are on here for many different reasons, but as this is an erotic site, sex is a major motivator. Also. although we all enjoy a safe, anonymous place to enjoy different aspects of or sexuality on Lush, it makes it that bit harder to spot a player for what he/she is. And now you know, you'll use that experience to spot the same signs in a new online friend. Its just the same as in real life, where we just all have much more life experience. If you'd met him in a bar, you'd have had him sussed in 10 minutes...

I don't vote/comment if a story is simply not to my taste and I don't finish it, or if I would vote it less than a 4, just because its not my cup of tea. If I enjoy a story but there's a problem with structuring or phrasing then I will comment and point that out (very politely and encouragingly). Stories I really enjoy, I vote for and comment on fulsomely because great stories and their writers should be encouraged and supported. And that's what Lush is all about.