Topic 50 Shades of?
06 May 2013 13:05
50 shades of sunburn... ouch!
Topic Alpha Female
04 May 2013 12:57
To me this pretty much implies that to be able to achieve a dominant role amongst women, you have to think like a man, become more of a man than the women surrounding you. Thus it is impossible for a woman with a 100% female mindset to become a leader. If this whole thing is supposed to be some kind of "hail to the strong women" it's pretty much the opposite; it shows that no woman independent of male thought or mindset can be dominant, and thus men are genetically domninant over women and that it's not a social order. In other words; it's not doing feminism any favours.
very interesting take on this
Topic Is Britain riddled with sexual abusers?
04 May 2013 12:37
Some really profound insights on this thread, and as others have commented there really seems to a be a correlation with those in power (or with the power of celebrity) able to get away with abuse for decades due to their status, and the fear and shame they induce in their victims. Also as you say Danielle, there is really a perception difference between generations. I know friends in their 70's and 80's who see abuse as an entirely modern problem, and exclaim that such things simply didn't happen in their day. Given that the most recently accused are men in their 70's and 80's, this idea is turned on its head. Its not that it didn't exist, just that far fewer people were aware.
Topic Do women dislike or resent the use of the slang "Cunt"?
17 Apr 2013 15:53
Although its slang now, the word "cunt" has its origins in Middle English and was also common to Norse, Frisian, Dutch and German at that time as a word for vulva. So far from being insulting, historically speaking its just a word for that part of the anatomy.
Topic How do you do it?
14 Apr 2013 13:57
Everyone's different! But for me, its making exercise part of my daily routine and actually booking in time for that, so it seems natural after a while. Best of luck! :)
Topic favourite poem
07 Apr 2013 15:21
Thank you TXGirl, I was just about to suggest some Donne!
BUSY old fool, unruly Sun,
Why dost thou thus,
Through windows, and through curtains, call on us ?
Must to thy motions lovers' seasons run ?
Saucy pedantic wretch, go chide
Late school-boys and sour prentices,
Go tell court-huntsmen that the king will ride,
Call country ants to harvest offices ;
Love, all alike, no season knows nor clime,
Nor hours, days, months, which are the rags of time.
Thy beams so reverend, and strong
Why shouldst thou think ?
I could eclipse and cloud them with a wink,
But that I would not lose her sight so long.
If her eyes have not blinded thine,
Look, and to-morrow late tell me,
Whether both th' Indias of spice and mine
Be where thou left'st them, or lie here with me.
Ask for those kings whom thou saw'st yesterday,
And thou shalt hear, "All here in one bed lay."
She's all states, and all princes I ;
Nothing else is ;
Princes do but play us ; compared to this,
All honour's mimic, all wealth alchemy.
Thou, Sun, art half as happy as we,
In that the world's contracted thus ;
Thine age asks ease, and since thy duties be
To warm the world, that's done in warming us.
Shine here to us, and thou art everywhere ;
This bed thy center is, these walls thy sphere.
Topic Why do men tell you they love you when they don't have to, or mean it?
05 Apr 2013 15:46
I'm so sorry that you've been hurt Eve, and as others have said, people are on here for many different reasons, but as this is an erotic site, sex is a major motivator. Also. although we all enjoy a safe, anonymous place to enjoy different aspects of or sexuality on Lush, it makes it that bit harder to spot a player for what he/she is. And now you know, you'll use that experience to spot the same signs in a new online friend. Its just the same as in real life, where we just all have much more life experience. If you'd met him in a bar, you'd have had him sussed in 10 minutes...
Topic Why Do You Not Vote/Comment
04 Apr 2013 15:38
I don't vote/comment if a story is simply not to my taste and I don't finish it, or if I would vote it less than a 4, just because its not my cup of tea. If I enjoy a story but there's a problem with structuring or phrasing then I will comment and point that out (very politely and encouragingly). Stories I really enjoy, I vote for and comment on fulsomely because great stories and their writers should be encouraged and supported. And that's what Lush is all about.
Topic What should I do
03 Apr 2013 16:19
Normal? possibly. Wise? No. Sorry to sound prosaic but keeping this anything other than a masturbatory fantasy could have disastrous consequences, unless your wife and her parents are seasoned swingers, which may be unlikely. If your MIL catches you looking at her naked in the shower, slaps your face and tells your wife, that's bad. If your MIL encourages your advances and your wife catches you both in the act, that's double murder. Not pretty either way.
There's nothing weird or strange about a straight guy finding any woman sexy, and for you it may be especially potent in getting a stolen glimpse of more mature, experienced version of your wife. No worries with that. You can fantasise away to your heart's (and cock's) content. Just making it a reality may cause your life to implode...
Topic Movie first - Book Second
03 Apr 2013 15:58
Like a lot of the other posts here, I would tend to go with book first too. My only exception to the rule would be Dickens. Much as I try I am unable to wade through all those endless, endless words, brilliantly entertaining though they may be (in moderation). And some of the film and tv adaptations are superb in themselves.
Topic Do you like to sleep naked
03 Apr 2013 15:43
Lovely in theory. But I get that chilly in the winter that even with my partner its silky jammy bottoms and a strappy top. And on my own? Thick pyjamas, bedsocks and pssibly a fleece. Im SOOOOO sexy... ;)
Topic What turns you off immediatly?
25 Mar 2013 15:56
Arrogance, crudeness, inability to giggle at oneself....and inability to giggle generally...
Topic Can hiding your lush activity from your wife/husband/partner be considered cheating?
25 Mar 2013 15:48
I kind of agree with all of you all, but if enables you live out your inner desires and fantasy's? Why not? In some cases I have been told it actually took undo pressure off a married couple. I mean as bartender I hear both sides. Kind of like being a priest lol.
This is wise advice! We all need inner freedom and self expression in some shape or form. On this site I've found myself a keeper of other people's secrets (or at least privacy) but in my own life my guy knows I'm on here and what I do and don't do (listed publicly on my profile) and if he's ok with that then that's enough for me.
Topic Febfast - Giving up Alcohol for a Month, means...
10 Feb 2013 14:18
10 days is great Nicola! Especially with extensive dental work plus a 40th birthday party!! I'm just working towards a week off the booze here (single figures) so all respect!!!
Topic Elementary - TV Series Recommendation
07 Feb 2013 16:09
Nicola, has "Sherlock" made its way over the pond? Its a slightly earlier model by the BBC on the modern take of Sherlock Holmes, starring Benedict Cumberbatch (War Horse). Worth a look! :)
Topic In desperate need of advice.
07 Feb 2013 15:39
Thank you OldHound for feeling safe enough to bare your soul on this thread, and I hope that was liberating for you, and a start to getting the help and support you need to deal with some overwhelming issues in more than one area of life. The suggestion of medical support and counselling was sound and valuable, and may prove central to your needs. However as several people on this thread have pointed out, this is a community of adults, and therefore one might expect the sharing life experiences and problems, and a wideranging and supportive response to that. I look forward to hearing how you progress, and wish you all the best in your life changes; hopefully for the better in the months and years to come.
Topic What is your favorite color pantie and bra
06 Feb 2013 16:34
All colours...and that's in bras, panties, basques and bodies... I'm a lingerie fanatic!!
One of my friend's says that I'm the only women she knows who matches her tops with her bras, rather than the other way round!!
Topic A suit is to women what lingerie is to men
06 Feb 2013 16:31
erm, not really. I would say that a fitted tailored dress, or an evening gown is to men what a suit is to women....it shapes the body, is sexy because it is formal and hides as much as it reveals. Lingerie is there to conceal very little indeed, and is more of an active turn on than a tease...
so perhaps a guy coming out of the sea/pool in nothing but wet swimming trunks is to women what lingerie (or a wet bikini) is to men.... mmmmmm
Topic Dildo or Your Boyfriend's Cock?
06 Feb 2013 16:25
when b/f is absent, then vibe and dildo. when b/f is present, then vibe and his cock. Simples!
Topic have you ever masturbated a in class?
06 Feb 2013 16:18
Erm, not sure how private things are in your college but we didn't have darkened auditoriums!! Rubbing one off, as such, in a crowded, brightly lit lecture theatre is a more alarming thought than an arousing one!! Let alone in a small tutorial! eeeek!
Topic Sex Buddies
06 Feb 2013 16:13
I've only done this to a limited extent and with guys I would call very good friends. Although the booty-call-with-not-much-else-in-common sounds eminently sensible if not wanting to get involved with a sex partner, I just need to really like someone before being sexually interested in them. It didn't work with one guy, because he wanted to control things and call the shots which I found gradually wearying, and so the sex (and eventually the friendship too) got politely refused. However with another guy, an on/off thang over a few years only deepened our closeness and friendship, and no, we've never become an item, but I'm not sure if we'd have become the lasting friends we are without that sexual element and understanding of each other. I hope things between you and your friend work out and you have a lot of fun together! :)