Forum posts made by debs

I know it seems 'unspeakable' and maybe even a secret amongst women but actual chat up lines that might work, only work when the the person speaking to me, is someone I find attractive or interesting! I've had lines spoken to me that would never have made any impact if I didn't think either of these things. I know it seems unamanageable but just ask to buy me a drink. If I say know, it means 'not a chance' if I say yes, it means 'stay and chat', it really is that simple!!!

I know it seems 'unspeakable' and maybe even a secret amongst women but actual chat up lines that might work, only work when the the person speaking to me, is someone I find attractive or interesting! I've had lines spoken to me that would never have made any impact if I didn't think either of these things. I know it seems unamanageable but just ask to buy me a drink. If I say know, it means 'not a chance' if I say yes, it means 'stay and chat', it really is that simple!!!

I'm not married so this is probably easy for me to say, but I was once, and I would say "thank you for being so open and honest with me, it's that trust that will keep us both together for the rest of our lives,"! However, experience tells me that this 'desire' of his MAY lend itself to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity so maybe leave this fantasy in you head?

perfectly normal...

and why would it not be an attractive stranger whom you see everyday...and just have a fantasy about

men have wet dreams women do too..

He's not attractive, not to me anyway!
I've always been aware of men having actual wet dreams, but I've never had one myself, wasn't aware it was a common thing for women.

God only knows - The Beach Boys

The strangest thing happened to me in the night that has never happened before....
I woke in the early hours from an erotic dream to find myself slightly breathless, clearly aroused with hard nipples, extremely moist down below and a vein on my neck that only ever seems to pop up when I've had an orgasm was on display!
To make matters more unusual the man in the dream was a man I see most mornings when I catch the train, but I've not spoken more than a few words to him and have never remotely thought of him sexually.
I'm 99% sure in my dream, I had just experienced an orgasm but I wonder if I was masturbating in my sleep, if that's even possible!
A very odd experience!

I am not a true lesbian so am not really ideal to answer the question but I've never liked any 'pigeon hole' to do with my sexuality. I only chose Bi-sexual on my bio-page because there wasn't the option of 'Pansexual' that I would choose if I really had to.

I've always believed that every one of us is pretty much the same, we're all attracted to people we find interesting or engage with us in some way, regardless of sexuality.

I enjoy sex with men and women for pretty much exactly the same reasons.

I wouldn't be offended by the 'lesbian sex' tag, I just find it all a bit pointless.

This does seem the most common question from men and I'm always surprised by how many men have Lush I.D's like 'BigCockDave' as though that's the most important thing about them! With the exception, I suppose, of a small penis less than maybe four / five inches long, the size becomes unimportant.
I've had sex with men who had huge 8" - 10" cocks and they all thought that alone meant they didn't need to do anything with it and the sex was crap!
Likewise I've had men with average sized (about 6") dicks who were the greatest lovers ever, so size does not always mean a great time.
I would also say that men seem obsessed with length when I've always thought it was the thickness that gave the most pleasure.
Don't obsess about the length of your cock, you've got hands, fingers and a tongue that, if used well, will bring far more pleasure than a 12" cock!

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Hello all. I'm looking for genuine role play ideas, preferably one's that you have tried yourself. I would need to be the submissive, not beaten or throttled or anything like that, but taken charge of and told what to do.

Ideas for MF / FF and MFF would be lovely thank you.

I've wondered this myself, but I think for me, it was just the way I lost my virginity and all my early experiences were with someone more dominant than me so I think I prefer it because it reminds me of that time in my life. It's what I'm used to, it's what turns me on, so I don't think I could be the dominant. I've fucked men and women with a strap-on but I still like them to tell me what to do and some role-play that implies I'm being made to do it!

Ignoring the 'unnatural' remark which did surprise me on such a liberal and beautifully open website such as Lush...I'll try to answer the question from my bisexual point of view. Personally (and I say that to avoid anyone thinking I'm speaking on behalf of all bi-girls) when I'm with another woman, however uninhibited and sordid the sex might be, I always think of it as being more sensual and erotic than with a man. Maybe it's the meeting of two female minds, the obvious fact that we know where to touch, the erogenous zones that often get missed but also (and I'm generalising) with no penetration (mostly anyway) it seems to be less rushed. Now the other side of that coin of course is that sometimes I want a good hard seeing to and only a cock will do and unfortunately woman (mostly anyway) can't cum over me and I couldn't give that up either. Not sure that answers your question but as others have said there is nothing unnatural about straight gay or lesbian sex, assuming it consensual it's all pretty damn lovely!

Absolutely shave them! 100%...no doubt, and if you want any further action down there, keep it shaved.

If you could go back in time to when you were a virgin and live the remainder of your time again, would you make different decisions about any aspects of your sexual history? This question probably comes from me hitting forty in a couple of months and I wonder if I could live the last twenty years again, would I have done things differently and maybe be in a long term relationship right now! Mid-life crisis alert, I know!

That's a good question. For me, romance probably is dead, but I think that say's more about me than it does about romance. I think when you're younger, romance and sex go hand in hand, but as I've got older, more embittered and probably more cynical, the idea of romance seems a sham.

No! It would be entirely wrong to presume that the married man and their other half have the same set of morals as my own. I'd never intentionally hurt anyone's feelings, including the wife of the man, despite perhaps never meeting her.

The same thing I find desirable in anyone...confidence and openness.

I've always thought that anything other than some comfy briefs was worn more for the pleasure of the person looking than the person wearing them. Personally I hate wearing any underwear but obviously this isn't always comfortable or convenient.

1. Think they own me and that I need ask permission to go out.

2. Think that burping and passing wind is somehow acceptable and masculine.

3. Take their socks off after their trousers. No man looks sexy in socks with bare legs, take the socks off before you're trousers, watching you undress can be sexy you fool!

I have done but it's not as sexy as a MMF threesome or a FFM threesome. I don't even know why but with three females there always seems like one person feels left out and more room for envy than when a man is involved, but that's a Bi-Girl talking!

Without a doubt! In the heat of the moment, the last thing I want is any fumbling around, like someone once said "like trying to open a jar of gherkins whilst wearing a boxing glove"....just give it here!

All the time! It's nature's temazepam!

I have no problem whatsoever with the word 'cunt'. I've never really understood how any word (just a collection of letters) can be offensive, surely it's the hatred with which that word is used that can be seen as offensive? You can call my pussy what you like - just not the name of your Mum!

I prefer it over me to in me because I like to see it, but pretty much anywhere but my face. I'm also not keen on taking it in my mouth either, not because of the taste; I'll gladly suck him clean afterwards but watching a man cum over my body is a huge turn on for me.

Does it turn me on to watch a man stroke his hard cock until he shoots hot cum out of it? Of course it bloody does!

If you're in a relationship with the girl that you want to do this with / do, but don't know how to bring it up, then try this....
Ask her to write a sex story involving her sexual fantasies and then you do the same for her, then give them to each other to read. This may the break the ice and you can then discuss the 'stuff' you've both written about. It's worked for me in the past.

I don't understand any reason why this would be embarrassing! What's the problem with wanting me to play with your nipples? Is it supposed to be a gay thing? I have never understood guys having any hang ups about anything like this, it's the same as liking a woman to finger your arsehole when she's sucking you off, how does that make you gay? I'm a woman, not a guy fucking your arse. I love sucking and biting nipples and love it done to me. If it gets you off, just let me know, that's why we're in bed together. It's the biggest turn on in the world to be with someone who would tell you what they like to do and have done, that's what builds the trust. It's the trust that makes it a relationship.

No. I was asked to do so today in a chat room, but all these things come down to trust an how could I trust someone I don't know. My image pics might be explicit but I don't include all of my face so there's an ambiguity to that. Sending someone a pic or posing on a webcam for a stranger is madness!

As rough and perverse as you like but always with respect and trust.

I've had threesomes MMF and FFM, not forgetting FFF but they all shared one thing in common and that's trust. I could never have a threesome with two strangers, it's so different to a one night stand, it can be two against one which can put you in a vulnerable position. You should get three of you together to discuss it if you can but you need to repeat their wishes, witnessing someone you care about being shared is hard for some people to deal with.

But please don't become so obsessed you organise it with two people you don't know or trust x