I am not saying keep your comments to yourself. What I am getting at is that so often in this forum, people who are not "into the lifestyle", come in and post their their negative comments without thinking first. There is a way to tell someone that your views don't agree with ours. Then there are ways of coming in and being disrespectful. Which is why I asked who has the right to tell someone their way of life or relationships are wrong. I am not telling you to shut up and stay out. I am saying that a little more thought in your choice of words should be considered. I have nothing against someone who is not in the lifestyle coming in and finding information, asking their questions, or stating their thoughts. What I am against is someone coming in just for the purpose of putting someone down because of the way they chose to live. So no, I will not appreciate his criticism and thoughtless disrespect. Like you, I will state my disagreeance.

One could say an uninformed or judgmental way

Exactly. I feel that was judgemental and said without thought.

Being in a BDSM relationship is not subjecting yourself to abuse and torute and is not giving you the free will to beat and hit on someone. This is a topic that will never have an ending. One side of the fence thinks the other is wrong. Who has the right to say that anyone in the BDSM lifestyle is wrong for living that way? You say that my ropes and whips are abuse and I say your rose pedals and candles are lame. Its not right. Being in a relationship that transfers control to someone else is not something that everyone is interested in but that doesn't mean it is a wrong way of life.

I knew there was a reason I began to shy away from the forums. If you are against the lifestyle, why post in the forum? Leave it for those who enjoy it and wish to have a real conversation with out being judged on everything they decide to do in their own relationship. Unless you think its fair for us to tell you that your relationships are lame and weak so add some chains and whips or its not a real relationship.

Now about the topic, my personal opinion is ssc. I'm not much for the "surprise attack" lol

Stick to pretend domination, cuz your take on real sarcasm is FAIL.

Pretend domination huh? Please do share more on that. I was not aware that I pretend at all, that is a very new piece of information about me.

"Is fail"? Is A fail perhaps? Its ok, I won't poke someone with the inability to properly insult me. I will admit, I was wrong to assume you were acting like the other asses who reply to these posts, but then again, I may be wrong on that as well.

Jerseylynn and Ravyn both had GREAT responses. I agree with them completely.

My own opinion on the matter is this:

Many here assume the title Master or Dom because they see how vast the BDSM community is here. They feel it is the best way to "get in close" with the women here as many many of them do state their submissive roles. I hate seeing a guy waltz into a room and command it like they own it but then cant hold a conversation on any aspect of a D/s relationship. I have seen many change completely once they enter the lifestyle and it is sad to see. Just because you choose to submit or Dominate does not mean you have to change who you are as a person. That's the short version of what I wanted to say. The rest has already been said by others :)

WellMadeMale, really? This is NOT the place to advertise.

roses are red
violets are blue
sugar is sweet
and so are you
the roses are wilting
the violets are dead
the sugar bowl's empty
and so is your head

three smiley faces

Gift a telescope for that amazing view.

Do my best to create a city of sand castles. Full sized castles. I mean its not like I won't have the time to!

If you're engaging in some bondage play, would you prefer the rough feeling of ropes on your skin or the soft tender brush of silk across your skin?

Dominate :)

Firm, I don't like to sink down into my pillow and get too warm.

Bondage...... ropes or silk scarves? Please add why if you don't mind :p