If you tell her, sooner or later, she'll tell someone. If you try to muddle your way through the first time with her, you might do okay.
tell the truth....it is always easier to remember...
If she doesnt ask you, then your not being dishonest, your just not telling her everything, its different.
If like me you feel like you have to be honest, then you should be able to trust this girl with your secret, if she's the type of girl to go and tell everyone, is she really the person you want to give your virginity to?
I was talking about this very topic with a friend not so long ago. His opinion was if it is someone you are just going to have a bit of fun with/one night stand they why do they need to know. If they say anything just claim lack of experience. But if its someone you want to have a relationship with and have been progressing up to the moment of sleeping together then it may be wise to tell them. However, you can listen and ask for opinions but in the end though the decision is down to you and how you choose to handle things when the time comes.
Depends on the seriousness of your relationship. "Relationship" being the key word. If it's just a quick romp, then just do your best and she'll chalk you up to being a lousy lay. Not the end of the world, because you can get better with practice/time. But if you're in it for long term, then naturally you should be able to trust her with that sort of information. In my opinion, the most trivial thing anyone could lie about is their sexual exploits/adventures. Either you have or you haven't, nothing to be ashamed of either way.
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If she asks, do *not* lie to her. Tell her your situation honestly and as much as needed.
Who knows you, and your honesty, may be just what she needs and wants. Her 'loose reputation" may be just talk or speculation.
Gramps
The quiet and always horny old guy in Sunny Florida USA
Lies only build more lies... it will never be a foundation for an honest open relationship.
wow Smooth Wolf your post shows so much time and effort..im seriously impressed. im sorry if you misunderstood though, i just thought what you said was funny. maybe that didnt come through....my deepest apologies.
littlemissbitch ~ professional face ripper offer, at your service..
Before launching into a public condemnation though, please consider that the person may not have intended to cause offense. It is very easy to misinterpret a post on forums.
LMB seems like he needs to reread this himself Love ya girlie
Invite her to Lush and show her your post and the replies. She will see why the decision is so difficult for you.... :-)
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I have re-connected with a lover from a long time ago with whom I shared the mos mind-blowing sex of my life.I'm happily married to another woman for many years /I want to open private email realtionship with my first lover, and Idon't want share this withanyone else,mostespecially my loving wife. Since I have re-connected with "S" , my erotic life with my wifehas gone through the roof and ceiling. "S" says she wouldlike to get intimate withme again (from 900 miles away) but she thinks I'm being unfaithful. Is this cheating?
If you actually want to be with this girl long term, I wouldn't keep it from her. The definition of sex can stretch quite a bit though. Especially to include oral sex. I think you're worrying too much about it.
Tell the truth... Bullshit will never get you anywhere.
Lies beget lies and those beget more lies. eventually the truth comes out. lose lose. A couple of things to consider however. why do you feel the need to tell her anything about it at this point? Has she asked you about it or has the subject come up? As others here have said, you do not need to tell every little detail, and just saying you have not had much practice is not a lie, yet could explain any shortcomings you may experience. The other thing you could do is read up on some techniques of foreplay and what you can do to extend the time of your lovemaking. If she sees you are at least making an attempt to ensure her pleasure, even if it ends up less than optimal, she should be okay with it.