I think so anyway.
In your experience, how do guys "try too hard"?
This question is intended to ultimately help guys who fall into this category.
I think 'trying too hard' is a guy trying to be something he's not, in order to impress a woman or gain her approval.
Some typical examples are:
Name dropping (people, places or things you thinks are 'cool').
Bragging about your profession and how important you are.
Bragging about your wealth, house, or car.
Bragging about how great you are in bed (or how huge, well-curved and ultra satisfying your dick is).
Spending a lot of time insinuating or trying to prove how popular you are with the opposite sex.
Overloading a woman with meaningless compliments (a few well-timed sincere compliments are best).
Telling a woman what you think she wants to hear, but not really meaning any of it.
In terms of guys not getting the hint, as Sweetbitch mentioned, then any of the above combined with clingy behaviour will send a woman running, and start cueing the use of the "stalker" descriptive.
If I LIKE the guy, then I typically really enjoy the attention though! As long as he's being himself, all the little things he can do to put a smile on my face are more than welcomed. I love feeling wanted and special. But you have to get there first, and know you have her interest, before you start dishing this out.
It's just when a guy feels like he has to put on airs or pretend to be something he's not that I start to think... 'yeah, he's trying too hard'.
When a guy starts obsessing over you ~ it isn't just a turn off, but it is damn annoying and gives the impression that one is so desperate and has nothing better in their lives to do than to try and figures yours out completely. Really... who wants to be with a desperate guy, we are worth more than that.
Sometimes its cute when a guy is trying really hard. But I admit it makes them less attractive if they are constantly texting and bugging you. Sometimes when a guy doesn't try much, maybe just a sweet thing here and there, it keeps me interested.
Interesting topic. I think I once tried too hard to impress a girl back when I was a teenager. After my failed attempt I quickly decided to ditch the trying too hard approach. In fact, I kinda stopped making any obvious moves towards women. Thinking back to the women I've been with I kinda let them take the first step.
Even at parties I'm often just goofing off with no intention of impressing any women. But there's always 1 or 2 women who pick up the challenge and we hit it off. Often it doesn't lead to anything, the women are already married/engaged, have a bf or are just not interested in anything more than friendship. But it's good fun when you can goof off mixed with some nice measure of flirting.
Milan Kundera once wrote something like: it's not the consumption of the conquest that we thrive on, it's the success of actually conquering someone. I guess this fits in nicely with me being fine with just finding someone who picks up the challenge of conversing with me and having a great time together, regardless how long it lasts or whether it leads to anything.
It's similar to how things with hornybunny74 started. We chatted and I was my usual painter self (charming/annoying/arrogant/funny/etc.). After the first chat session she said she really liked me which I openly doubted by saying she didn't even know me so how could she already have decided to really like me. Good thing she kept at it and proved repeatedly how much she likes me.
The way I chat with her is similar to how I chat with any other woman really. There's no point in trying too hard or pretending to be something else than yourself so I always find out soon enough whether someone is really interested in me or whether I'm too much to handle.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
just be urself and dont try to impress . i once had a lad hit me with a pool cue as we palyed pool he thought he was flirting . now the pool cue has developed into a whip . god i love my man
just be urself and dont try to impress . i once had a lad hit me with a pool cue as we palyed pool he thought he was flirting . now the pool cue has developed into a whip . god i love my man
just be urself and dont try to impress . i once had a lad hit me with a pool cue as we palyed pool he thought he was flirting . now the pool cue has developed into a whip . god i love my man
Every girl loves compliments, but I hate when a guy gives me too many before he really knows me. To me, that's a sign that he's trying too hard.
This also goes for lushies and cybering.... "wanna chat" from a complete stanger is a BIG turn off for me.
after all, it is your money 
but when accompanied with picking me up and dropping me at work, AND trying to spend every moment with me... well, that crosses the line to being a stalker: Especially when I have made it clear, I only want to remain friends. 
