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If a man struggles with ED, should he become a monk or keep trying to have sex, in spite of failures
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keep trying to have sex (unless his plan was to become a monk all along, in which case, he should follow his heart!)

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

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He should try the drugs and keep trying to have sex. Speaking from experience, it's worth it.
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I have ED myself and it's pretty bad. I don't want to become a monk but I don't even think about dating anyone. Recently I tried a Cialis pill and it got hard, but there was no sensation and I couldn't milk it. I don't know if I would be more comfortable in a romantic situation where there actually was a woman who wanted me, but I haven't met her so far.
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Thanks for that answer. Now to "slightly" borrow from this thread..."Would you have patience with a man who had ED difficulties?"

Rick


depends - if it was the love of my life and he was wonderful in every other way, yes - if it was a one night stand, no. *shrugs* i'm shallow like that.

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

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Each man with ED is different sometimes drugs have no effect and they lose interest in trying and make their wife feel undesirable. I've lived with this for 13 years next month and have remained faithful to him even though he never even touches me and makes me feel dirty for masturbating. Sometimes I think there is more going on than just straight ED.

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I deal with sexual dysfunction in my office on a regular basis. The first thing you need to do is find out the cause. Is it your prostate? Medication? Diabetes? High blood pressure? or something else. Once you have found the cause try to treat the cause first. If that does not work I give my patients Levitra. I have had good success with that and it is so much cheaper than the other pills. At WalMart its $9 a pill instaed of almost $30 a pill for the others.

As for your partner any woman who is not willing to work with her man on this issue and be supportive of him and understanding has no buisness being with him and he deserves someone more mature and loving. Don't waste your time with a woman who has a problem with your ED.

If you have any other questions please feel free to ask. I do not know ewverything about the topic but I will find the answers for you if needed.

Good Luck!!

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I agree with most comments but I wouldn't think of it as "trying" to have sex. You can still be having sex you know. Intercourse isn't the only way. Relax and enjoy the other ways.
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I think you should keep trying. Seek the advice of a doctor to check if your prostate is enlarged, anemia, or diabetes. Get your thyroid checked too. If not then try acupuncture. I know...needles but it really works. I have seen to many men do the drugs for helping ED end up with some major complications. I tell people it's your body saying "hey, get me checked out". I'm no doctor, but it can't hurt.

There is a lot of things you and your partner can do that is pleasurable. Give it try, you just might find out its a lot of fun!
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I once overheard a lady say that if her man could no longer get it up, he better go get the viagra. I believe she is right.

A man must please his woman. If she wants fucking, he better find some way of making it happen
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I once overheard a lady say that if her man could no longer get it up, he better go get the viagra. I believe she is right.

A man must please his woman. If she wants fucking, he better find some way of making it happen


That is right hun
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One of my cousins is married to a serviceman - Army - he came back from Afghanistan a few years ago, wounded - some nerves in his lower abdomen torn up by gunfire. I've met him - was at their wedding - and he is a gorgeous hunk of a guy. When he came back, my cousin told me they had to switch their sexlife - he was unable to get hard. She found by playing with him that his dick was still sensitive in places, and that it started to engorge and got almost to the "semi" stage. She was able to convince him to let her play with him like this, and she apparently has developed into a superb cock sucker! She's able to suck on him to the "semi" stage and then, with lots of talk and rubbing and more sucking, she'll have him cum - usually in her mouth, but sometimes a well-lubed handjob or a boob job. She saved his self esteem by being nice and patient, and ready to accept whatever he could do. They've tried inserting him into her pussy, but its usually not had enough, and the stimulation he gets in there is, I guess, not intense enough for him to feel.... but they keep trying. If they move really fast when he's just about to cum, he can get into her vagina just before he cums, and squirt into her ... but they have to really pay attention and it takes some of the fun out of it. But they do this when they can - she loves the feeling of him in there, and the feel of the cum dripping out - and he likes to see the creampie -- makes him feel better about himself, i guess. She also lets him "work" her dildos and sex toys in her -

Talking with her about it (she and I are "confidants" about dating and sex from way before they were married, I 'd go to her house and we'd watch sex videos and webcams and do stuff in her room), I realize how important it is for men to fully participate in sex by ejaculating and pleasing the girl -- I used to think that they just liked to cum, wherever and whenever they could. His urologist talked with her and thanked her for being so patient and "playful" with him, and said that her willingness to do so much oral on him was what started him down the road to good mental health.

I've been with one guy who had a little E.D. -- he is an older guy who needs a lot of stimulation on his cock. He has no problem getting it up, and its awesome when its up - but apparently when he gets inside, the sensations he gets from vaginas is not enough to keep him "going" - then his mind takes over, he starts to try too hard, and a cycle of self-fulfilling failure sets in, and I (and his other girlfriends he's told me) are left with a deflated cock in their vaginas. So, the way I handle that issue with him is simple -- we play, he gets hard, we fuck until he starts to deflate, then I suck on him, put him back in, etc etc etc -- he'd great fun... can't say he's great in bed because we have to constantly work on keeping him hard, but he has a great cock, shoots a nice amount of cum, and w enjoy playing....sometimes we just settle for a nice long blowjob, which is always ok with me.

Apparently, there are guys with various forms of E.D. that can have nice sex lives with their girlfriends or wives (or both! lol), as long as a little patience is used -- the E.D. is not the guys' fault, and he shouldn't be shut out sex because of it....