I have been with one too many men who are too focused on making their woman orgasm... And much too quickly. They need to relax and have fun with it as well. It's hard for the woman to relax when their man is rushing them. Just take it slow, focus on putting your woman in the ultimate state of pleasure. Oh, and god forbid, don't just sit there and focus on one damn area. Just because a woman's clit is generally her most sensitive spot, does not mean it is the only spot you should be licking and sucking... Explore, taste every inch of me, suck and lick on my labia, taste the inner walls of my vagina. I want my man bringing me to the edge of orgasm and then teasing me for a bit, building up the tension, making me feel unbelievable ecstasy and then bringing me over that edge and down from my sexual high. ;)