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Guest
Posted: Monday, January 21, 2013 1:32:13 PM

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im afraid
Guest
Posted: Monday, January 21, 2013 3:05:19 PM

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Sure. But it would help if you elaborated more about the situation. Are you married? Is she married? Are you single? Does she have a boyfriend? Is she in a commited relationship? Is she in a position of authority? Are you in a position of authority?
Turbo
Posted: Monday, January 21, 2013 3:12:41 PM

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Hey there is honestly no reason to be afraid, its a natural thing. If you find a coworker attractive whether its in the work place or not then that's just how it is. Its not like you saying you want to leave someone for this person you are just attracted to. Feelings are what they are. No worries.
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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 4:41:05 AM

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What is it that you're afraid of ?
allinabout18times
Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:59:48 AM

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In as many as 80% of marriages, people meet at work, so says some research...

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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:10:17 AM

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Yes it's totally normal, in fact my Fiancee and I used to work at the same company for over 10 years. Thankfully we have now moved to different companies, and the "shit talk" between the rest of the employees has now died down.

The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker

JamieW
Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 6:25:35 AM

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It is 100% normal, we are all human we are attracted to females.... (Most of us) Just be careful because like others before me have said are you married are they married? Just watch your footing and don't do anything stupid.
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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:06:06 AM

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JamieW wrote:
It is 100% normal, we are all human we are attracted to females.... (Most of us) Just be careful because like others before me have said are you married are they married? Just watch your footing and don't do anything stupid.


Also be careful about initiating any relationship and sexual harrassment employment laws. It might sound daft, I know, but a female might take an approach the wrong way and it could mean trouble.

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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:59:55 AM

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angieseroticpen wrote:


Also be careful about initiating any relationship and sexual harrassment employment laws. It might sound daft, I know, but a female might take an approach the wrong way and it could mean trouble.


There's only one really pleasant result and all the other alternatives are unsavory.

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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:45:24 AM

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I met my wife at work, technically, but it was a part-time job while we were both doing degrees in the same faculty, not a serious job. I am attracted to several of my current co-workers (including one long-standing crush) but I and they are married so I just suck it up and live with the fact that nothing's happening. Ever.


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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 12:35:14 PM

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When you asked this question you should have been more detailed in what you were asking. What are you actually afraid of? The fact you’ve not even posted back in this forum makes it seem rather stupid any of are even answering. Did you get the answer you were looking for? Did you not take the advice and do something stupid which lead to you being fired and loss of money losing net having no way of getting on to answer. Why post a question and then not even respond to it?

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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 3:26:44 PM

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Yes it's normal to be attracted to someone from work. Even if at first you dont feel attracted to them at first, the time you spend together and getting to know one another will usually bring you two close enough that you will start finding them more and more attractive. That holds especially true if you aren't sexually involved with anyone else.
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Posted: Thursday, January 24, 2013 4:25:31 PM

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Yes, of course it's normal. That's like asking if it is normal to like vanilla, or fast cars, or sunsets. It's your actions that matter.
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Posted: Saturday, January 26, 2013 3:52:51 PM

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I sure hope its normal, because I've been attracted to girls at every place I've ever worked.
Tashtego
Posted: Tuesday, January 29, 2013 4:50:13 PM

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LiquidMatthew wrote:
I sure hope its normal, because I've been attracted to girls at every place I've ever worked.


Word, brother.
AnythingG0es
Posted: Wednesday, January 30, 2013 8:18:03 AM

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The where does not matter. If they are attractive and have that "something" that turns you on then it is normal. The question is whether you do anything about it?
Milly
Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2013 2:40:12 PM

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Very, very normal.

I don't think there's anything to afraid of unless, as others have questioned, you are married or perhaps in a position of authority and want to persue this attraction.

I don't see the harm in looking/fantasising.
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Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2013 3:56:26 PM

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Work, on the metro, on the beach, at the pub, well ...anywhere.
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Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2013 4:29:47 PM

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Of course it is natural. Why wouldn't be?
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Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2013 4:47:17 PM

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I totally agree with Janet above. There are several women I work with I'm attracted to but they are married and its best kept that way.
ColdOutside
Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2013 4:49:14 PM

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Man that's normal. You just have to be cautious. If things get out of hard or awkward you have to see that person almost every day for a long time.
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Posted: Friday, February 01, 2013 11:13:05 AM

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Hey, it's perfectly normal to be attracted to girls at the workplace. I only say just because you're attracted to doesn't mean you should make a pass at them. Sexual harassment & all.
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Posted: Thursday, February 07, 2013 6:16:25 PM

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dex69 wrote:
Sure. But it would help if you elaborated more about the situation. Are you married? Is she married? Are you single? Does she have a boyfriend? Is she in a commited relationship? Is she in a position of authority? Are you in a position of authority?


I disagree i find elaboration to be pointless here. I do however agree It is perfectly natural to be attracted to girls you work with its a proximity thing, simple as!
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Posted: Thursday, February 07, 2013 7:23:02 PM

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attraction can and will happen at anyplace or anytime. no one has control over what we feel. so yes, i believe its just as normal as breathing.
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Posted: Thursday, February 07, 2013 7:46:18 PM

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Attraction is normal. Place doesn't matter. The body wants what the body wants.

You seem sweet, mind if I lick you to make sure?
suezq
Posted: Thursday, February 07, 2013 7:48:22 PM

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It's only natural. Many people never have much opportunity to meet new people any where else but work. Assuming you wouldn't be asking unless you are both single, it's still something that has to be approached with caution. Are either of you in a position of authority over the other? What are your company's rules about fraternization? And, remember, if it is someone you work closely with, pursuing a relationship that doesn't work out can lead to a lot of awkwardness and drama that would make work very stressful.
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Posted: Tuesday, February 19, 2013 11:54:35 PM

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it's just attraction, you are attracted based on what, the looks, the behavior, the personality? they differ.
Andee
Posted: Saturday, March 09, 2013 2:18:13 PM

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I sure as hell hope so...I work hard at trying to get the guys to notice ;-)

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MrLosAngeles
Posted: Saturday, March 09, 2013 6:09:35 PM

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There are only a few situations where it might not be normal to be attracted to females where you work. For example, if you're a dairy farmer and your co-workers are cows. Or you work at a pet shop, say, and find yourself offering way more birdseed than required to the girl parrots as a way to flirt. We need a few more details to offer the best advice.
EDWolfe
Posted: Tuesday, March 12, 2013 8:37:25 PM

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I've had a number of workplace crushes, but never really acted on any of them. In some cases, they were already in a relationship outside the workplace; in others, I found out that the girl I was crushing on had, to put it lightly, a personality that I would not agree with.

I haven't crushed on any girls in this new job; however, I'm by myself on the road, and in several different sites, usually without other employees around me.
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