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Being a good lover. It's more important to me, not to "impress" my partner, but to show the initiative and pleasure that I do have, so that she or he knows my intent.
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I prefer to be a good lover.
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Rank: Active Ink Slinger
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I prefer to be a good lover.
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I would say both
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Location: Wherever I lay my head, United Kingdom
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Being a good lover.
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Joined: 3/8/2012
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Definitely being a good lover. I take more pleasure from giving pleasure and seeing their reactions than I do from receiving. I suppose if they are enjoying what you are doing for them, they are more likely to reciprocate, but it really is the giving that is the most pleasurable for me.
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I think it depends on you and your partner I know I like learning and love teaching but the sex has to be somewhat compatible or else the fun is lost.
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BelleduJour wrote:When you first have sex with someone, is it more important to you that your partner is a 'good' lover or that your partner thinks you are a 'good' lover? Really great question! Without question, it is far more important to me that I am a good lover. I have consistently found that my performance and level of engagement with my partner can dramatically elevate their level, so I place the responsibility completely on me. However, many women I have been with were amazing and I just hope that I was worthy.
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It has to be being a good lover and being in tune with her wants and needs,then all else falls into place.
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I honestly have to say that I think Being a good lover is more important because if you are a good lover then you can totally please her and if she is pleased then you will be pleased in return!!
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Joined: 2/5/2013
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Location: Home, United States
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Being a good lover. I work very hard to please my boyfriend, even if it means that I don't get to finish my self.
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Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,150
Location: Oz, United States
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being an honest and enthusiastic lover is important, too!
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Rank: Rookie Scribe
Joined: 8/6/2012
Posts: 7
Location: Brooklyn Park, United States
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I hope i'm a good lover! But then again i hope she is also.
I know i try my best to be a good lover just by making sure she is satisfied even if i'm not.
Nothing turns me on more than to watch a woman orgasm as she reachs her climax.......
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Joined: 4/30/2012
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Location: northwestern, United States
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By far it is most important to be a good lover. The man owes it to the lady to be slow, sensitive and passionate. The feelings of the lady must be reacted to with the love making she is expecting and deserving. If you do not totally please and satisfy the lady you did not make love. Making love involves all the senses and, yes, men you need to think and be the lover she deserves.
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Joined: 12/7/2012
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Location: Durban, South Africa
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being a good lover is the way n making sure u meet your partners need everytime u r at it.
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Joined: 12/7/2012
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Location: Durban, South Africa
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being a good lover is so enriching
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Joined: 7/15/2012
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Location: Snowboard Nation, United States
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So many of these responses ring true. You have to be a good lover. By being a good lover, you become compatible with each other sexually and learn from one another.
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Joined: 7/25/2011
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Location: New Zealand
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being a attentive lover, and the same caring attention is returned to you, its all about communication makes the best lovers over all.
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Joined: 2/11/2013
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Location: Phoenix, United States
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Being a good lover.
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Joined: 3/7/2009
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Location: Australia
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Be a facilitator. A good lover makes it easier for everyone else!
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Joined: 2/14/2013
Posts: 76
Location: Deep Inside, United States
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Being a good lover should be instinctive. Having a good lover makes you step up your game to become a better lover.
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Joined: 5/31/2012
Posts: 397
Location: Bare Beach USA, United States
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If you do not have part A or can't find part B, does it really matter?
The girl who started early at this game of sexual pleasure, This girl that never seems to get as much as she wants, at least from the right people. But now certainly the woman that will test all the paths of pleasure with you.
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Joined: 4/2/2013
Posts: 75
Location: Right behind you :O, United Kingdom
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If both you and your partner try to be good lovers then sex will improve for both of you. If you're lazy and satisfied with how good your partner is then it's unlikely that it'll ever get any better.
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Joined: 10/5/2012
Posts: 3,613
Location: Where Dreams Come True, United States
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Being a good lover is important, because you hope they are doing the same thus making it perfect between the both of you.
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Joined: 11/30/2006
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i think that both feelings important to me...
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Joined: 10/14/2010
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Location: JUST A CLICK AWAY, United States
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Being a good lover, gets repeat invitations.( something to think about)
Being a poor lover, probably earns one self induced hand jobs.
A Good lover also has the satisfaction of knowing that they have; pleased & satisfied their lover..
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Joined: 2/27/2013
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This is such a good question! I think if its my first time with someone then I want to be a good lover, however when it comes time for him to please me I want it to be good as well. Maybe the best answer is both!
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Joined: 3/27/2013
Posts: 5
Location: Middle of nowhere , United States
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Being a good lover. You will hopefully get back what you put into it.
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Rank: Rookie Scribe
Joined: 3/24/2013
Posts: 5
Location: south eastern, United States
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I think being a good lover because I LOVE to see my wife in ecstasy. That being said I think it is important to remember that good lovers are made not born.
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I prefer to be a good lover and have found that in being a good lover I often get a great lover.
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