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which do you like the most ?
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The whip... Leaves more of a stink that lasts longer!
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Since I predominantly prefer to spank, I'll change "whip" into either "strap" or "cane." Whips I associate with targets other than the bottom. I prefer sting to thud... welt to bruise... but that said, you can effect a proper punishment in far fewer strokes of a good hardwood paddle, if that's your aim.
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I've never been whipped, but I have been belted and paddled. I found the paddle to be much harsher than the belt. I remember rolling off his lap and sitting on the floor, protecting my bottom, and refusing to go back over his knee :-)
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I prefer to use a paddle on my subs/slaves. The reason is because it covers more surface area and I love that deep red overall coverage. I am also very good at it. Ask any of my slaves they will tell you I am very good at it. They drip when I tell them to bend over.
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I always have felt that whips and paddles were a lot like christmas presents.... Its better to give then recieve. If I had to be on the recieveing end I would go for the old fashioned open hand.... flesh on flesh... to me that would be hotter.
When it comes to giving... what ever seems to get her off more!
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Paddle. In the hands of someone who knows how to wield it properly, it can be so much better than a whip.
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SweetPenny wrote:I've never been whipped, but I have been belted and paddled. I found the paddle to be much harsher than the belt. I remember rolling off his lap and sitting on the floor, protecting my bottom, and refusing to go back over his knee :-) That raises some questions for me. 1. Did you refuse because he had gone past your limits and you were squicked? 2. If the answer to 1 is yes, did you have a safeword? Did you use it? Consent is key to these kinds of activities. Both parties need to feel that they can perform these activities safely. The dom needs to trust that the sub continues to consent, perhaps in the face of behavior (crying, screaming, etc) that would ordinarily be counter-indicative. The dom can only rely on the fact that the sub has *not* called out the safeword, and can really only feel safe to proceed if he feels that the sub *would* call it out if they needed to. At the same time, the sub needs to feel safe to use the word. They must trust that if they use it, that the dom will take them out-of-scene (which includes clearing all restraints) and immediately offer after-care in a context without hierarchy, and further that there will be no future repercussions from using it (with the possible exception that there will be no repeat of whatever caused them to use the safeword to start with).
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Goddess_Lexi wrote:The whip... Leaves more of a stink that lasts longer! I've never called the long lasting stink - a whip nor a paddle. Although -- I bet I could incorporate such in humor piece, with some assistance from Dirty Martini.
 The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald
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Paddle gives such a rosey glow but then a whip used right can leave marks that last much longer so for me either.
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I wish I could choose between the two, but I have no experience when it comes to either. I'm open to the idea and can see myself leaning more towards a paddle rather than a whip. It's the closest thing to being spanked, so it doesn't scare me off. With that said there are many things that entice me about the BDSM lifestyle and one day I would like to explore these fantasies and that could very well include a whip!
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Paddle on my pussy, whip on my ass!
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Paddle <3
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Depends on how far I need to take it. I usually start off with a paddle to get a nice all-over pink, then move to the crop or whip to bring the intensity up to where it needs to be. 
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Awww I have to choose just one? Paddle.. i like the feeling of the full impact on my ass...  
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Paddles have a far too inorganic action for my liking, I find even rulers are too rigid - they will often leave one feeling too disconnected from the subject (I can also appreciate that may be the attraction for some people). You won't get the same response from lightly trailing a paddle over someone's skin as you will with a leather belt. Of course, neither are as effective as an open palm, especially if combined with the other hand firmly holding your subject in place. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Oak_and_the_Reed
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overmykneenow wrote:Paddles have a far too inorganic action for my liking, I find even rulers are too rigid - they will often leave one feeling too disconnected from the subject (I can also appreciate that may be the attraction for some people). You won't get the same response from lightly trailing a paddle over someone's skin as you will with a leather belt. Of course, neither are as effective as an open palm, especially if combined with the other hand firmly holding your subject in place. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Oak_and_the_Reed  tingles
Now with audio!!!!
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overmykneenow wrote:Paddles have a far too inorganic action for my liking, I find even rulers are too rigid - they will often leave one feeling too disconnected from the subject (I can also appreciate that may be the attraction for some people). You won't get the same response from lightly trailing a paddle over someone's skin as you will with a leather belt. Of course, neither are as effective as an open palm, especially if combined with the other hand firmly holding your subject in place. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Oak_and_the_Reed *laughs!*
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overmykneenow wrote:Paddles have a far too inorganic action for my liking, I find even rulers are too rigid - they will often leave one feeling too disconnected from the subject (I can also appreciate that may be the attraction for some people). You won't get the same response from lightly trailing a paddle over someone's skin as you will with a leather belt. Of course, neither are as effective as an open palm, especially if combined with the other hand firmly holding your subject in place. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Oak_and_the_Reed Well... i didn't know we could suggest or choose others. If that's the case, then yeah, open-handed spanking is a hell of a lot better than the others! There's more connection, and no problem with bringing teasing into the equation. With the open hand, you can easily switch from spanking to teasing without switching hands or setting down/picking up implements. You can also caress, rub, massage, feel how wet she is... You can also better measure the intensity of the spanking, from lightly playing, to erotic foreplay, to punishment and letting her know not to do again what she did wrong. The open hand is also best used with OTK (Over The Knee) spankings. But i'm sure the man i quoted knows THAT! 
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Sensei wrote:
That raises some questions for me.
1. Did you refuse because he had gone past your limits and you were squicked?
2. If the answer to 1 is yes, did you have a safeword? Did you use it?
Consent is key to these kinds of activities. Both parties need to feel that they can perform these activities safely. The dom needs to trust that the sub continues to consent, perhaps in the face of behavior (crying, screaming, etc) that would ordinarily be counter-indicative. The dom can only rely on the fact that the sub has *not* called out the safeword, and can really only feel safe to proceed if he feels that the sub *would* call it out if they needed to. At the same time, the sub needs to feel safe to use the word. They must trust that if they use it, that the dom will take them out-of-scene (which includes clearing all restraints) and immediately offer after-care in a context without hierarchy, and further that there will be no future repercussions from using it (with the possible exception that there will be no repeat of whatever caused them to use the safeword to start with).
I missed this. Sorry for not responding sooner. I did not use my safeword. I tend to avoid them as I feel they can really be a mood killer. The man whom I was with did realize that I was having a difficult time and he lightened up after that. It was his first time using a paddle so I think that was the problem.
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Paddle.
You seem sweet, mind if I lick you to make sure?
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I've never had a paddle used on me. But, I love floggers very much.
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SweetPenny wrote:
I missed this. Sorry for not responding sooner.
I did not use my safeword. I tend to avoid them as I feel they can really be a mood killer. The man whom I was with did realize that I was having a difficult time and he lightened up after that. It was his first time using a paddle so I think that was the problem.
I can't help but offer my opinion, at the risk of sticking my nose where it may not belong, but had I been the dom spanking you, and you had refused to get back into position, I might have assumed you were bratting and dragged you back into place and spanked you harder for your insolence. If things are going in the wrong direction, I would rather my girl use her safeword early rather than late so we can stop and regroup. Because we play in scenes where words no longer have true face-value meaning, the safeword is the escape hatch into a space where words have literal meaning. "Please, sir, don't paddle me." will more likely *insure* she gets paddled along with getting a lecture about trying to top from the bottom. But "Mercy!" (her safeword) will allow me to talk with her and ascertain if she wishes to continue, and if so, how. Don't think of a safeword as a mood killer. Rather, think of it as a pause button. It's a tool to avoid misunderstandings that are otherwise way, way too easy and have far too serious consequences given the nature of power exchange play.
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I enjoy both very much
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It depends on the scene. Some scenes aren't suitable for whips. I like floggers. Whips should only be used by those with experience and the proper skill.
I am a whore. Find something else to fight about. - Nell Gwyn (to her coachman, who was fighting a man for calling her a whore)
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A paddle for spanking and a crop/whip for the naughty parts!!!!
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A paddle or whip are both nice, paddle more.
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A paddle or better...a flogger. Small percentage know how to properly use a whip.
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