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MusicLover101
Posted: Wednesday, April 17, 2013 6:00:17 PM

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Any jealousy
BelleduJour
Posted: Thursday, April 18, 2013 12:05:16 PM

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Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.

Dani
Posted: Thursday, April 18, 2013 1:49:36 PM

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As Belle said, it's perfectly natural, whether it's online or not. But there should be that follow-up moment of retrospect where you realize that if you really do have something special going, then there's no need to feel threatened because you have nothing to worry about. Not all jealousy is bad, and there's actually such a thing as "healthy" jealousy. But you also have to make sure you're on the same page. If you haven't had that conversation (you know the one I'm talking about) then you're just acting based on assumptions. If you haven't literally sat down and declared your exclusivity, then he's fair game. No matter how close you think you are. No matter how many private and intimate conversations you've had. No matter how much it's seemingly implied. If a guy is exclusive with you, he'll let you know, and it WON'T be indirectly. So just because you're a guy's favorite and shiniest toy, it doesn't mean you're the only one. If this hasn't been discussed, and if he hasn't made it clear to you that you're the only one he's interested in, then you're probably not. And who knows, maybe you are, but since this is an online community not many people heed the fidelity stipulation because it's all in fun for some. Proceed with caution.



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Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 18, 2013 8:56:54 PM

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Yes, though later I felt really Stupid. :D
juicydrop
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 7:06:39 AM

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Yes I do. But after a while I'm just like whatever.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 1:29:29 PM

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I do and still do on occasion but at the same time you do have to remember where you are. And in my case, remember that outside of here you are in a relationship. Embarassed
pricklypear
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 1:56:44 PM

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with flirting online or irl it isn't a big deal imo. my grandpa would flirt with the cashiers all the time, but he was always loyal to and loved my grandma/his wife. if you can make anothers' day with a comment, i say go for it. when it goes beyond flirting is where i'd draw the line.


edit: hmmm...seems i posted this in the wrong thread. or someone is messing with me. :P

Ravyn
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 2:12:54 PM

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BelleduJour wrote:
Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.


Very well said and I agree. As much as we want to believe the things we are told, they really do need to be taken with a grain of salt and as Belle stated there are always exceptions but in general terms, that is the best way to approach this site or anyone on it.

theupeh
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 3:14:03 PM

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Yes u r right on in one sense but in one way if u get to attached with someone on here without being with them in person that is not a good thing as we all know what u see or read on the internet is not always reality !!
ajm45
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 3:43:03 PM

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Oh, for sure. I've found myself jealous many times, but I try to keep it to myself. But like many have pointed out, you just have to remember where you are and what this site is. There can be exceptions, but they are usually few and far between.

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stang
Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 5:19:52 PM

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True ajm45
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Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 6:44:28 PM

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Yes only because its a human response. do i linger on it?NO.
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Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 6:52:45 PM

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i don't. in fact, i don't get jealous at all - not sure why, but jealousy has never been an issue for me - if someone i like, or love even, is flirting, or into someone else as well, or even having sex with them, as long as they're open and honest about it, i don't have an issue. i don't know, maybe i'm broken

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Posted: Sunday, April 28, 2013 8:03:04 PM

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BelleduJour wrote:
Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.


and:

slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:

"As Belle said, it's perfectly natural, whether it's online or not. But there should be that follow-up moment of retrospect where you realize that if you really do have something special going, then there's no need to feel threatened because you have nothing to worry about. Not all jealousy is bad, and there's actually such a thing as "healthy" jealousy. But you also have to make sure you're on the same page. If you haven't had that conversation (you know the one I'm talking about) then you're just acting based on assumptions. If you haven't literally sat down and declared your exclusivity, then he's fair game. No matter how close you think you are. No matter how many private and intimate conversations you've had. No matter how much it's seemingly implied. If a guy is exclusive with you, he'll let you know, and it WON'T be indirectly. So just because you're a guy's favorite and shiniest toy, it doesn't mean you're the only one. If this hasn't been discussed, and if he hasn't made it clear to you that you're the only one he's interested in, then you're probably not. And who knows, maybe you are, but since this is an online community not many people heed the fidelity stipulation because it's all in fun for some. Proceed with caution."

Read carefully what Belle and Slippery have written and remember that this works BOTH ways...Guys can be hurt also!!


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Guest
Posted: Monday, April 29, 2013 3:41:19 AM

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Yes, I have felt some jealousy once maybe twice. It's silly to feel that way since most of the men I chat with are married but luckily for me it was a short lived emotion.
overmykneenow
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 8:27:07 AM

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Jealousy has a powerful influence on interactions on Lush, from 2-bombing stories to plain old IM bad-mouthing.

How many people here have switched off "comment on friends profile" or "comment on friends picture" from their activity feed because of the grief they get from other people on their friends list? How many others have considered turning off profile comments to stop your wall turning into a pissing contest amongst rival friends? One of my friends has even said to me (tongue firmly placed in cheek, of course) "How dare SHE post on MY wall".

Some people seem to thrive on provoking jealousy in others, many others hate it. As others have said, know where you are. If exclusivity is important for you, this probably isn't the best place to look for it.

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kiera
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 8:53:01 AM

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Cant say i do, its just fun after all isnt it :) altho i have to say its happened to me a few times, gr8 topic btw mwah xoxo
SeaSiren
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 9:30:53 AM

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I do not have time for jealousy...period
freakycactus
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 9:35:04 AM

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I certainly have been jealous in the past but as the others have said, you give yourself a reality check.

I've also had grief from others who have been jealous of my interactions with other men.

Guest
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 9:43:54 AM

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No jealousy, like chatting with a selected few on here that makes me smile.Sad if i don't chat for a few days but then life gets busy!
Bleueyedmale
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 12:07:54 PM

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I am here to enjoy those i meet. I am glad there are others they can chat with since without them there would be no lush.
Ruthie
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 2:32:04 PM

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No. I try to keep my fantasy life separate. If you realize that none of this is real, there's no need for jealousy.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 2:49:04 PM

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i get jelous wiv simplyjon sumtimes but then he thinks im 2 young 4 im haha (but ya know im gettin older john haha)
Milly
Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 3:38:46 PM

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To actually 'have something' real and genuine on Lush is, I believe, incredibly rare.

For the most part this is just one, big, cyber playground. Kinda reminds me of being at school in a way, people show off, make and break friends easily, annoy each other, take the michael, make others feel stupid and inadequate etc.

Unless something's been explicitly expressed - and quite frankly I'd still be pretty sceptical on here - no point getting yourself all upset and jealous.

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Posted: Wednesday, May 01, 2013 12:54:49 AM

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Pennylovesu wrote:
i get jelous wiv simplyjon sumtimes but then he thinks im 2 young 4 im haha (but ya know im gettin older john haha)





I have never said that!!

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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, May 01, 2013 11:13:24 PM

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I have felt jealousy before but it never lasts long and I usually never say anything and keep it to myself.
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Posted: Friday, May 03, 2013 6:47:47 PM

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Although jealousy is a driving force in many folks lives, it is conuterproductive, Do you really think that jealousy will ever change anything? Not really.

Rather than allow others to control you, which is what jealousy is, change things to your benefit by being proactive. In other words, payback is a BITCH!

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Shylass
Posted: Saturday, May 04, 2013 12:49:53 AM

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As daft as this sounds, I take whatever those I care about are willing to give me, and I am grateful for it. I have no expectations of anybody, and I am bemused by any friendship of any kind that people offer me. I don't handle it very well, as it frightens me. But any jealousy I might feel when friends I might like flirt with others is counteracted by being glad they are happy, and being grateful that they bother with me at all. I know what to expect, and I have never been proved wrong by those expectations yet.

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Posted: Sunday, May 05, 2013 3:35:38 PM

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BelleduJour wrote:
Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.


I completely agree with you.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 02, 2013 11:12:40 PM

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I haven't been back long enough, to have a jealous situation but I am the type(warning)... In my personal life with my husband, I've never gotten jealous. If anything I encourage him to flirt and have fun, I like to see him flustered and feeling like he still "has it". With any crushes in my personal life outside of Lush YES!! super jealous.
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