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jim4pleasure
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 7:02:04 AM

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What do you think about doing this - is it wrong to help a woman cheat if that's what she wants? I have a neighbor couple and the wife keeps chatting me up, flirting and giving me the eye. I don't know the guy too well other than he travels a lot for work and I think his wife may be frustrated that he's gone so much. She's quite a bit younger than him, mid twenties and he's in his mid to late thirties, and he's gotten more overweight in the year they have lived here while she keeps herself in really good shape by jogging and working out every day. She's really nice and I'm thinking of asking her over to my place for a cup of coffee next time I see her to see how she responds.
Jack_42
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10:21 AM

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You want to go for it or you wouldn't be asking so ok go for it.
JohnC
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:28:15 AM

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Jack_42 wrote:
You want to go for it or you wouldn't be asking so ok go for it.

.... and just be prepared for the husband to not think it is so "right" to do.... and have health insurance.

No matter what anyone's thoughts on infidelity are, one thing to consider is the old saying "don't shit where you sleep". That means NO NEIGHBORS, NO FELLOW EMPLOYEES, etc.

But also know that just because a woman may chat you up, flirt with you, or even give you eyes does NOT by default mean she wants to actually FUCK you; nor that she WOULD even if it had crossed her mind. Most people do not act on fantasies and flights of fancy. They realize that some things are just best left in the mind, or alone time.

In short cheating is WRONG. In short, cheating with a married person is WRONG. Now this does not mean people don't do it. And it does not mean that those who do it also don't know full well it is WRONG, they simply choose to do it anyways. That does not make it "right". So let's not fool ourselves... ok? People do things they know are wrong all the time, every one of us do. Some try to limit that, and are more selective than others, but it is what it is.

Browneyes61
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:40:32 AM

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i have done it and there's no hotter fuck than doing a married woman that is horny as hell
flashytone
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 9:18:47 AM

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It is horny as hell..... but ask yourself how happy you'd be when one day in the future you discover that your wife was fucking the next door neighbour.
Guest
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 9:46:27 AM

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just be careful people flirt on a daily basis but mean nothing by it so don't get your signals crossed
janet_haney
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 10:09:16 AM

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How would you feel if it was your wife and you found some young neighbor kid with her, It's pretty obvious you aren't mature enough for a committed relationship yet or you wouldn't ask the question. But I have always felt what ever you do in your life can come back to haunt you.
ManInNewHampshire
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 4:34:00 PM

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As janet_haney said: "But I have always felt what ever you do in your life can come back to haunt you." And much of it probably will. So choose wisely.
Milly
Posted: Monday, May 13, 2013 4:58:07 PM

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jim4pleasure wrote:
What do you think about doing this - is it wrong to help a woman cheat if that's what she wants?


Yes, cheating is wrong. It's wrong and it's damn hurtful. There's no two ways about it. Maybe it seems like it's less wrong if it's supposedly 'what she wants' but there's no varying levels of wrong in this situation - well, I don't think so anyway.

Also, just because her husband MAY be older, overweight and travels alot for work doesn't provide you with a justification for infidelity.

Just as others have said, how would you feel if the same thing happened to you? Why not try putting yourself in his shoes?
BelleduJour
Posted: Tuesday, May 14, 2013 4:45:34 PM

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janet_haney wrote:
How would you feel if it was your wife and you found some young neighbor kid with her, It's pretty obvious you aren't mature enough for a committed relationship yet or you wouldn't ask the question. But I have always felt what ever you do in your life can come back to haunt you.


Lapplause Agreed. Cheating or 'helping' someone cheat is pathetic, selfish not to mention cowardly.

ManInNewHampshire
Posted: Wednesday, May 15, 2013 4:36:41 PM

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BelleduJour wrote:


Lapplause Agreed. Cheating or 'helping' someone cheat is pathetic, selfish not to mention cowardly.


Mere words cannot express how strongly I agree with you.
1Zratedgal
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 5:38:23 PM

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Another factor here is that the "Wife" may desire just a little attention. Not sexually but just enough interest from another man to be sure she still is attractive and "has the goods" to be desirable and sexy! She might just need validation and feels her husband might not be paying attention to her so her ego needs a little boost.

Another thing is that you could be a part in their fantasy. If she can get your attention and maybe let her husband know and possibly see it, it could be just a fantasy of theirs and it is a minor roleplay or fantasy for them.

Finally, it could be a jealousy play for her to use and entice her husband to fuck her more.

But be very careful about going for it!
You might have to move out of the neighborhood if you do get her in yours or her bed!

Kisses!

Steph
WellMadeMale
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 8:29:24 PM

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BelleduJour wrote:
Lapplause Agreed. Cheating or 'helping' someone cheat is pathetic, selfish not to mention cowardly.


ManinNewHampshire wrote:
Mere words cannot express how strongly I agree with you.


You are both wronger than wrong can be. Judgemental - you both have it covered...

Please quit attempting to whitewash this subject. Just because you have been cheated on - is no reason whatsoever to call names!

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
Dani
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 8:54:46 PM

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Do what you feel is necessary. But if the husband is gone a lot, then don't feel special by tricking yourself into thinking you're the only one. This is all a game to her, kind of like a sport. You're probably just another notch on her bedpost. If she's flirting and giving you the eye and doesn't feel the least bit nervous about it, then you're just next on her list. Something to occupy her for the time being, if you will.


If you wanna be added to her collection, go for it. To answer your question, I'm sure her husband will hate it. But I get the feeling she's been doing other men for a while.


If any of the above sounds appealing to you, good luck and happy humping!



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Dani
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 8:58:34 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:



You are both wronger than wrong can be. Judgemental - you both have it covered...

Please quit attempting to whitewash this subject. Just because you have been cheated on - is no reason whatsoever to call names!


Agreed. Yes cheating is bad. I've been cheated on and cheated with, but never was myself a cheater. Not really something I'm gonna go into. But to each his/her own. It happens every day, all the time. Yes, it sucks, and having experienced it myself, I really wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's made me smarter, but not at all judgmental. Not everyone has the ability to learn from others' mistakes. He's a big boy. Let him handle himself as he sees fit. No need to verbally bash him into submission. He'll learn or not learn his lesson in due time. Either way, it's no meat off my nonexistent dick.



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TheDevilsWeakness
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 9:12:31 PM

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1Zratedgal wrote:
Another factor here is that the "Wife" may desire just a little attention. Not sexually but just enough interest from another man to be sure she still is attractive and "has the goods" to be desirable and sexy! She might just need validation and feels her husband might not be paying attention to her so her ego needs a little boost.


This right here.

One other thing, though. Don't read too much into it. She might just be talking.



Guest
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 9:35:45 PM

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JohnC wrote:

.... and just be prepared for the husband to not think it is so "right" to do.... and have health insurance.

No matter what anyone's thoughts on infidelity are, one thing to consider is the old saying "don't shit where you sleep". That means NO NEIGHBORS, NO FELLOW EMPLOYEES, etc.

But also know that just because a woman may chat you up, flirt with you, or even give you eyes does NOT by default mean she wants to actually FUCK you; nor that she WOULD even if it had crossed her mind. Most people do not act on fantasies and flights of fancy. They realize that some things are just best left in the mind, or alone time.

In short cheating is WRONG. In short, cheating with a married person is WRONG. Now this does not mean people don't do it. And it does not mean that those who do it also don't know full well it is WRONG, they simply choose to do it anyways. That does not make it "right". So let's not fool ourselves... ok? People do things they know are wrong all the time, every one of us do. Some try to limit that, and are more selective than others, but it is what it is.


Yes...insurance in this situation would be a requirement.

I don't know that there ever could be a situation where cheating is the right and honorable thing to do.
BelleduJour
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 10:09:27 PM

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I find it ironic not to mention hypocritical that I'm being called 'judgmental' regarding my comment on this thread by two people who have been known to cast their own judgements in past threads.

I wasn't attacking or singling out any one person in particular but making a personal statement which, the last time I checked, I am entitled to do and shouldn't be chastised for it. Maybe I live by a different moral code than some people on here but if you've read any of my past postings, you will see that I am also a woman who believes in the saying 'to each their own'.

You want to cheat on your partner? Knock yourself out but I don't have to agree with it. Don't want an opinion that is not in favor of what you're doing? Then maybe posting it in the forums isn't very wise OR put a disclaimer that only those who are okay with cheating may respond. In either case, forgive me for expressing my opinion on a PUBLIC forum and especially for not celebrating infidelity.

Perhaps someone should consider policing the rest of the threads to ensure that no one else is ever offended again by opposing opinions and/or Lushies who appear to pass judgements. I suspect whoever that lucky person is, will be VERY busy.

And for the record, I have never been cheated on but have known many people and families who have been terribly hurt by it.

trinket
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 11:02:07 PM

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I've been cheated on by only 1 partner that I know of and he happened to be my husband at the time. To say it almost completely broke me is an understatement. In my personal situation, I believe there was no reason whatsoever for him to cheat and have always believed there is no valid reason for anyone to do so. I have never cheated on anyone.

I've learnt some peoples lives aren't always what they seem. Everyone's circumstances are different and none of us know what goes on behind other closed doors. Different things are important to different people.

Sure there are some arseholes out there that just do it because they're arseholes. For some others,it goes much deeper than that.

Buz
Posted: Saturday, May 18, 2013 11:14:16 PM

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It is called cheating for a reason. It involves lying. It is not honest.

Of course that dishonesty, lying and sneaking around is just what turns some people on. Would you want to be married to a person like that?

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WellMadeMale
Posted: Sunday, May 19, 2013 6:15:54 AM

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BelleduJour wrote:
I find it ironic not to mention hypocritical that I'm being called 'judgmental' regarding my comment on this thread by two people who have been known to cast their own judgements in past threads.

I wasn't attacking or singling out any one person in particular but making a personal statement which, the last time I checked, I am entitled to do and shouldn't be chastised for it. Maybe I live by a different moral code than some people on here but if you've read any of my past postings, you will see that I am also a woman who believes in the saying 'to each their own'.

You want to cheat on your partner? Knock yourself out but I don't have to agree with it. Don't want an opinion that is not in favor of what you're doing? Then maybe posting it in the forums isn't very wise OR put a disclaimer that only those who are okay with cheating may respond. In either case, forgive me for expressing my opinion on a PUBLIC forum and especially for not celebrating infidelity.

Perhaps someone should consider policing the rest of the threads to ensure that no one else is ever offended again by opposing opinions and/or Lushies who appear to pass judgements. I suspect whoever that lucky person is, will be VERY busy.

And for the record, I have never been cheated on but have known many people and families who have been terribly hurt by it.


Now I've read everything 6 I thought my level of sarcasm was well established around here already. If not, I'll use you to reestablish such.

I suppose I'm just imagining how you and JohnC carried on for nearly 3 months earlier this year, all over this forum? You weren't willingly cheating (even if only cyber-wise), with a fellow who was claiming all along that he was happily married to someone else?

The way you both were parading around here constantly mimicking each other was enough to make even me - gag on a near daily basis. And now that you've seen the light - you are suddenly elevated up on a pedestal of your own design, to call out all other sinners? Gimme a fucking break already.

Knock it off Belle, hypocrisy doesn't look all that appealing on you.


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Posted: Sunday, May 19, 2013 6:52:29 AM

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I've had major experience with this subject. My next door neighbor is married, and her and her truck-driver husband weren't happy in their marriage, so she started showing interest in me. After a short while, I was going over there often and things started changing. She became very touchy and showing sexual interest. And out of no where, while I'm at her house one day, she whispers in my ear, "you can lick me, stick me and send me on my way. Come fuck me." So I went for it. We started sleeping together for about 3 months and I started feeling guilty so I stopped. It wasn't like a fantasy..it was cheating and wrong. You wouldn't really want some guy fucking your wife while your gone, would you? And if you're into that, you'd at least want to know about it right? Save yourself the guilt and stress, find you a single woman.
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I am not going to give you moral advice; just practical advice in the form of a word of caution:

Have you thought far enough to ahead to how this might end? I don't suppose that you envision her getting a divorce and marrying you - but have you thought far enough ahead about what happens when it's over? Do you go back to being neighbours, friends? What if you get sick of it, but she doesn't? Or vice-versa? And do you like living where you do now? Do you want to move when it's over? Do you want to have a neighbour who hates your guts living next door to you. Do you like to lay away nights worrying about what the bugger will do to your car? Do you care what your neighbours think about you when they find out?

I had an open marriage, and I told him, "Please! Please! Please! Don't fuck the neighbours. If you must, get a girl in another village, because we are not selling the bloody house just because you got randy with the neighbours!"

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My first marriage was open , we swapped & partook in 3 some-s, & like most other that were living that life style . we parted ways.. I fell in love with some one else..

should I again find a SO. i would not want any thing to do with swinging.. "But that is just my thoughts on it.been there done that"
BelleduJour
Posted: Sunday, May 19, 2013 9:31:01 AM

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WellMadeMale wrote:


Now I've read everything 6 I thought my level of sarcasm was well established around here already. If not, I'll use you to reestablish such.

I suppose I'm just imagining how you and JohnC carried on for nearly 3 months earlier this year, all over this forum? You weren't willingly cheating (even if only cyber-wise), with a fellow who was claiming all along that he was happily married to someone else?

The way you both were parading around here constantly mimicking each other was enough to make even me - gag on a near daily basis. And now that you've seen the light - you are suddenly elevated up on a pedestal of your own design, to call out all other sinners? Gimme a fucking break already.

Knock it off Belle, hypocrisy doesn't look all that appealing on you.


I'm not sure why you felt the need to centre ME out as you did given the plethora of sinners on here. If you want to play moral-cop, I suggest you stay consistent and call out EVERY other person who appears to speak out of both sides of their mouths otherwise it just looks like you want my attention.

Once again, my apologies for having offended one of the great offenders - I didn't realize one could go around the forums saying the things you have and get a hall pass simply by cloaking it in 'sarcasm'. Good to know and duley noted. Perhap the Lush powers- that-be might consider creating a new badge for such personalities.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.


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Posted: Sunday, May 19, 2013 10:43:39 AM

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BelleduJour wrote:
Perhap the Lush powers- that-be might consider creating a new badge for such personalities.


They did... They gave him Rank... A long time ago.



He tends to the weeds.

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TheDevilsWeakness wrote:


They did... They gave him Rank... A long time ago.



He tends to the weeds.


laughing3

That's what that means? I just assumed it meant he smoked a lot of...well, you know.



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Posted: Sunday, May 19, 2013 11:40:56 AM

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When I was in my twenties I was hired to help my friends mother around her house. Because my friends father was a truck driver and he was gone all the time. What I soon found out after taking the job was that taking care of her was part of my job. I didn't mind one bit, her husbands loss was my gain...;)
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Shamus wrote:
When I was in my twenties I was hired to help my friends mother around her house. Because my friends father was a truck driver and he was gone all the time. What I soon found out after taking the job was that taking care of her was part of my job. I didn't mind one bit, her husbands loss was my gain...;)


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It was a quick, "NO, cheating is wrong and you'll probably get your ass beat." answer that I had in mind...
but now I'm just confused. What's all this about gardeners and judgements? (so confused)

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