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Pixie
Posted: Sunday, April 19, 2009 2:34:04 PM

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Ok here is a question for the guys that I am dying to know how you will respond.


Lets say, that you are in a commited relationship. And lets say that there are sexual things that you want your significant other to do and she refuses. Whatever the reason may be, would you consider looking elsewhere for those needs to be filled? And at the same time stay in that relationship and not tell your significant other what you are doing?

♥ Listen, touch, and look around in the air and on the ground. If you watch all nature's things, you might just see a fairy's wings. ♥
runonwords
Posted: Sunday, April 19, 2009 2:57:59 PM

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Hmmmmm
I have and did, back when, when I wasn't so in tune what was important in life.
I am in a relationship that is not as giving as I would enjoy as she has some issues and can't be as sexually expressive or enjoy receiving as I would want. Now I am content to have a caring partner, even if I have to give up a few wants to keep the relationship honest!

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Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 19, 2009 5:31:04 PM

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I didn't really get it at the time, but when I was a young lass I was the "side dish" for an older man who used me for that purpose. In retrospect he was dishonest to both me and his SO.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 19, 2009 7:46:28 PM

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I think it all depends on the guy and how important the "sexual things" are to him. I realize there are things a woman won't do, and I can work around that. For example, if she doesn't swallow, so what? There are other things she can do that are equally or almost as erotic.

But if there is a constant refusal for sex from the significant other, we're talking a whole different ballgame.
Ghost
Posted: Monday, April 20, 2009 1:27:04 PM

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Pixie, can you be more specific -- If she won't have sex that could be a deal breaker but otherwise...it might be ok.
Pixie
Posted: Monday, April 20, 2009 2:34:47 PM

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No its not have sex at all......just some sexual things. Like blowjobs or anal....things like that.

♥ Listen, touch, and look around in the air and on the ground. If you watch all nature's things, you might just see a fairy's wings. ♥
Ghost
Posted: Monday, April 20, 2009 3:16:10 PM

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Pixie wrote:
No its not have sex at all......just some sexual things. Like blowjobs or anal....things like that.


Ok, but each guy is going to be different. No anal wouldn't bother me at all, I'm not into it at all. Now no blowjobs would be much more important to me and I would probably ask you for one if it didn't just "happen." If you said no, you might want to enter the discussion with options. For example,

"I don't like to do blowjobs, but I'm open to titty-fucking or watching you masturbate and cum on my tits."

This is just an example, but you might want to open with some options that you like. I personally love titty-fucking and that would make up for no blowjobs. Some guys love to masturbate with a partner. In general, realize that guys generally want more done with their penis than intercourse...not sure why but it's true.

Hope this helps.
wyocowboy
Posted: Monday, April 20, 2009 11:42:22 PM

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its still cheating and if u cant be content with what u have u shouldnt be there just my opinon

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relaxandrelease
Posted: Tuesday, April 21, 2009 1:49:14 AM

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Absolutly out of the question.

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Monocle
Posted: Tuesday, April 21, 2009 5:57:17 AM

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Definitely not. Even on a landscape with certain forbidden zones, there are infinite places to explore.
Pixie
Posted: Tuesday, April 21, 2009 5:59:47 AM

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Thanks for all the replies guys!

♥ Listen, touch, and look around in the air and on the ground. If you watch all nature's things, you might just see a fairy's wings. ♥
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Posted: Thursday, April 23, 2009 11:28:27 AM

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Perosnally i could never cheat on a woman i am with, because i've had it happen to me and it realy hurts!Brick wall
Zafia
Posted: Thursday, April 23, 2009 4:05:40 PM

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That's the first logical thing I've seen you write Stuart.....giggle

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OrionTat
Posted: Thursday, April 23, 2009 4:51:07 PM

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I am about the biggest freak I know and so far it has never been a problem for me. There are so many different sexual possibilities that how can not getting one thing really be that big of a deal. I find that more women are responsive to you asking them what they would like to try. It generally takes a lot to get them to confess what they have wanted to try but have been afraid to ever ask a partner for ut once you get the to open up with you then discussion can bring about reasons why this is acceptable and that is not.
stuart1975
Posted: Thursday, April 23, 2009 11:09:04 PM

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Zafia wrote:
That's the first logical thing I've seen you write Stuart.....giggle
Well thanxs. If you don't mind me saying so you have a great ass z!
Guest
Posted: Friday, April 24, 2009 7:50:05 PM

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Guest
Posted: Sunday, May 17, 2009 10:03:24 PM

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If I were ever in a committed relationship with a girl that I loved and she didn't want to do something, I wouldn't force her and the thought of going to some other girl for it would never even cross my mind. Get over it and move on!
myles69
Posted: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 1:44:20 AM

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Never....nope, but I'm Irish, Catholic, old and married.
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Posted: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 12:48:59 PM

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You know that is an interesting question. I have been married over 30 years.. and loved giving oral... She also loved recieving it. I was a virgin when we met. I have never had a BJ because she told me she had a bad experience before we met. She wouldn't discuss it further. All the times I gave her oral... I could never convince her to return the favor. Now we are in a sexless marriage... and damm rights... I am out looking to find a relationship that would satisfy my sexual desires
Guest
Posted: Monday, May 25, 2009 6:04:50 PM

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Pixie wrote:
Ok here is a question for the guys that I am dying to know how you will respond.


Lets say, that you are in a commited relationship. And lets say that there are sexual things that you want your significant other to do and she refuses. Whatever the reason may be, would you consider looking elsewhere for those needs to be filled? And at the same time stay in that relationship and not tell your significant other what you are doing?


No problem...there are so many other ways to please each other...and getting hung up on one thing is myopic...variety is the spice of life right?
Guest
Posted: Monday, February 15, 2010 10:45:24 PM

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Interesting Question Pixie.
chrscllngs
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 3:02:06 AM

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been there and done it too many times before, but now? no, with relationships come compromise, you have to take the rough with the smooth! So what if my wife isn't as sexual as I am, she is my wife, the mother of my children, my best friend. Chatting on here without her knowing is one thing, but physically cheating on her, no, I wouldn't do again, my balls look much better attached to my body than on a plinth on the mantle piece!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 5:03:15 AM

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for personal opinion, I won't look for another to satisfy those things she won't do, who cares if she won't do it, all i want is her to enjoy, if i can't force her so be it, i can't make her do what she doesn't want. If I am really in love with that girl, I could give up some wants for her.
nicola
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 5:10:44 AM

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chrscllngs wrote:
Chatting on here without her knowing is one thing, but physically cheating on her, no, I wouldn't do again,


Uh oh, I hope she doesn't check your bookmarks.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 5:54:36 AM

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Hmmmmm.... Pixie, thats pretty easy. If it was just certain sex things like BJ's then no, i wouldnt cheat on my spouse. Now if there are other holes that my relationship leaves vacant then yes. Yes i would.
mercianknight
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 7:45:24 AM

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Necho wrote:
Interesting Question Pixie.


My dearest Necho, I am torn between thinking of re-naming you the Lush Archivist (because of your uncanny ability to find these interesting older posts) or "JC" (because of your ability to resurrect said posts from the dead). binky

Methinks too much free time down under that should be spent studying? lol wave

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Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 12:10:41 PM

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mercianknight wrote:


Methinks too much free time down under that should be spent studying? lol wave


I have decided to kick the family tradition of getting some fancy law degree to become a flight attendant, yes I know, shock shock horror horror. Anyway, it has limited studying requirements, so I get to lounge around a lot while my friends are killing themselves over assessments that are due...kekekegay
toetag
Posted: Wednesday, February 17, 2010 1:34:53 PM

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JUST BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE!!!!

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Gooblaster
Posted: Sunday, January 23, 2011 8:45:15 PM

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I wouldn't get involved with a woman who wasn't willing to fulfill important requests. If i was unfortunate enough to find myself in this position i would not go elsewhere. If my word is crap what the hell good am I?

whysoserious
Posted: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:24:21 AM

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Pixie wrote:
Ok here is a question for the guys that I am dying to know how you will respond.


Lets say, that you are in a commited relationship. And lets say that there are sexual things that you want your significant other to do and she refuses. Whatever the reason may be, would you consider looking elsewhere for those needs to be filled? And at the same time stay in that relationship and not tell your significant other what you are doing?




I have done things with another woman, such as bondage & anal because my wife not interested in that sort of thing. I felt guilty but the feeling was too much to take. I guess I´m just weak.
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