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Sirene_Jaune
Posted: Wednesday, June 26, 2013 6:12:53 AM

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I normally come when I masturbate, even when I was in my relationship with my ex I would use masturbation to orgasm during sex.

However I have a fuck buddy and I enjoy it when we have sex and when he touches me. Now here comes the delimma

When I masturbate now it feels nice but I can not get that fantastic climax any more. Not like when I did it when I was with my ex or by myself.

It has been two weeks since I noticed this.

Anyone have any ideas?

I tried using my imagination, watching porn, reading stories on lush, memories of fantastic sex moments. I start to get on the verge of coming but no fireworks. My poor fingers and wrist get tired. So it isn't fun.

There is no problem when it comes to having sex with the fuck buddy however.




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Liz
Posted: Wednesday, June 26, 2013 7:08:28 AM

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Sirene_Jaune wrote:
I normally come when I masturbate, even when I was in my relationship with my ex I would use masturbation to orgasm during sex.

However I have a fuck buddy and I enjoy it when we have sex and when he touches me. Now here comes the delimma

When I masturbate now it feels nice but I can not get that fantastic climax any more. Not like when I did it when I was with my ex or by myself.

It has been two weeks since I noticed this.

Anyone have any ideas?

I tried using my imagination, watching porn, reading stories on lush, memories of fantastic sex moments. I start to get on the verge of coming but no fireworks. My poor fingers and wrist get tired. So it isn't fun.

There is no problem when it comes to having sex with the fuck buddy however.


Have you tried toys?
A really good vibe can work wonders.


matt55
Posted: Wednesday, June 26, 2013 7:52:23 AM

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Now you are probably thinking about it too much. You get right to that point and in the back of your mind you worry if you will be able to finish or not. Take a break from it for as long as you can stand it and when you are really horny try it again. This time just relax and enjoy it with no expectations of the orgasm. Jut let it happen. Easy for me to say.
Poppet
Posted: Wednesday, June 26, 2013 9:29:52 AM

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I tend to have trouble masturbating, and reaching climax after having actual sex. Though you said you could with your ex, so I'm not sure. For me I get better results with a toy, if I've been having sex. Lately though I can just use my fingers. I'd do what Liz suggested, find a toy. There are lots of them out there!

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nil4sin
Posted: Wednesday, June 26, 2013 9:40:16 AM

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bunny Dear Sirene_Jaune , where is d need 2 masturbate when enjoy sex with ur partner. Use his dick instead of ur poor fingers.

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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, July 10, 2013 7:54:40 AM

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well I think the more you stress about it the less likely it will happen you need to relax ans make sure you are in the right mood
Guest
Posted: Thursday, July 11, 2013 7:08:45 AM

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matt55 wrote:
Now you are probably thinking about it too much. You get right to that point and in the back of your mind you worry if you will be able to finish or not. Take a break from it for as long as you can stand it and when you are really horny try it again. This time just relax and enjoy it with no expectations of the orgasm. Jut let it happen. Easy for me to say.


I think this is the most sound advice because if you can get back to where you were to start with (psychologically), it will happen, and even if you get a vibe, it'll be so much better when you use that method.
I would add that I am not sure if this applies to women: there are medications that prevent you from having an orgasm. For men, I know that Effexor/Venlafaxine, very common mild antidepressants, are known to prevent ejaculation. There are a LOT of them, and I surmise they affect women too since they prevent you from getting into the whole realm of deep, powerful experiences by design.
They stop you moods from swinging too far in one direction. Make sense?
People with other problems take medications that prevent the normal functioning of the sex organs.
The list is long of those medications, and the sale of products for guys with ED is no fluke.

So check your medication's side effects Lushies!!!
ricinatl
Posted: Thursday, July 11, 2013 6:46:03 PM

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Maybe try some technique variations.
Try spending time on other body parts ie.. breast, nipples.
Try putting something small in you anus while masturbating or get one of those vibrating foot massagers that you rest your feet on and try masturbating while your feet are massaged.
Try a different place. Go outside on the porch.

Just some ideas.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, July 13, 2013 4:23:20 PM

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It's a bit difficult to do, but quit fretting. I recently had the same problem. Turned out it was because I was too hot. I couldn't relax enough and it took forever of stopping and starting to get there. And then when I did, it was just meh. I'm not saying that's your problem, but it could be something to consider. But keeping calm is the first step, otherwise the not coming/getting frustrated thing just becomes a massively vicious circle. Of course, it could be that your fuck buddy is doing such a great job that you just can't come, even if your head wants it, if your body won't, then it's a little futile to even try. Give it a rest for a few days, see what happens.
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