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Not sure if anyone has covered this before, but I was curious what people think. If you are in a relationship, is it cheating to cyber with someone?
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That's a real good question.  I predict some good debate here.
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To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve.
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Sounds right to me SE.
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sweet_escape wrote:To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve. well articulated, and my position exactly.
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I disagree.. Chatting to someone by email/mssenger probably over great
distances is a harmless piece of self entertaiment between 2 people.
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lexylove wrote:sweet_escape wrote:To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve. well articulated, and my position exactly. I agree! 
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I agree Sweet, Lexy and Ali.
If you're hiding - ask your self why.
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I agree! It's definitely cheating if you are keeping it a secret.
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And if it isn't with your partner doesn't that signify that something is missing??? and if that isn't fixed so much as you have to cyber with someone how long would it be before you were cheating for real because the cyber wasn't enough?
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exactly orion.....how long before you cheat for real?
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ain't that the truth, my ex was like that. it started on line and went over into real life.
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jebru, you already know my answer to this ;) I agree with sweet_escape, it's cheating (or at least unfaithful) if you're doing it behind your partner's back.
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I thought most people would anser yes to this, but I'm surprised there aren't more people who think its just a healthy form of fantasy.
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Chatting/email/messenger...all harmless in my mind. But cybering is different in my opinion. If you are having sex with someone, even if it is via computer, it's still sex. If your partner knows, that is one thing, but if they don't, that's cheating. Just my thoughts,
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Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation. I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL 
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I think you're reading the wrong surveys.
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techgoddess wrote:Chatting/email/messenger...all harmless in my mind. But cybering is different in my opinion. If you are having sex with someone, even if it is via computer, it's still sex. If your partner knows, that is one thing, but if they don't, that's cheating. Just my thoughts,
Exactly what Tech said. As long as all people involved know about it and are cool with it then no big deal. It becomes a problem when you have to hide about it
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Yeah, otherwise why hide?
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baker992009 wrote:Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation. I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL *throws a shoe*  So it wouldn't bother you if you found out your partner was regularly cybering with another man and keeping it from you? I'd be pretty annoyed if that happened to me.
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sweet_escape wrote:baker992009 wrote:Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation. I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL *throws a shoe* So it wouldn't bother you if you found out your partner was regularly cybering with another man and keeping it from you? I'd be pretty annoyed if that happened to me. If I caught my hubby cybering with another man I would be more than annoyed! 
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ali2teaseu wrote:If I caught my hubby cybering with another man I would be more than annoyed! Even if he believes he was cybering with a woman, he most likely was cybering with another man.
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CYBERING IS CHEATING if it is kept a secret, whether it is with a man or a woman. If you and your significant other both agree to it then so be it . ------------>throwing a big shoe at baker  LOL
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Throws a big shoe with my good hand!
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Good for you Tech! Glad to see you!
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fystee wrote:CYBERING IS CHEATING if it is kept a secret, whether it is with a man or a woman. If you and your significant other both agree to it then so be it . ------------>throwing a big shoe at baker LOL AMEN!
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fystee wrote:Good for you Tech! Glad to see you! Thanks! 
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unfortunately, I think cheating is defined however your spouse/significant other would define it- at least practically speaking.
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if you are just entertaining yourself and not hurting either of the partners you are with, how can it be cheating. do you tell them every time you fantise while masterbating? is there ready muich of the difference?
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baker992009 wrote:Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation. I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL Damn, straight, buster... 
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