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Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 1:48:22 AM

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I'm of the opinion that you cannot truly have best friendS. Saying that might make you feel better not having to choose between friends or avoid hurting some feelings, but I think the label of "best friend" can only belong to one individual at a time. I know lots of people disagree with me on this but I respectfully ask what is your take on this? Thanks in advance. And please excuse any typos, I am rather tired.
DanielleX
Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 12:57:14 PM

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By definition, you're best friend is one person.

I have one best friend and lots of very close friends, but one in particular will always be the one I can talk to about anything.

I'm not counting my gf in this, as she's more of a soul mate, which is something else.



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Guest
Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 3:12:02 PM

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I completly agree! Yet for some reason I always end up in the minority on this, idk why.
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Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 3:51:14 PM

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So, you actually believe that one of your friends is "better" than all the others, i.e., the "best"?

I see no literary contradiction in saying "best friends"—it simply refers to that group of people who are deemed superior rather than the individual.

Could I single out one of my friends as being the "best"? If I had to, probably. The great thing is, I don't have to. I have lots of friends who are my friends for different reasons. They often represent a particular aspect or period of my life (university, childhood, religion, etc.) and so are actually not comparable, if we're talking about quantifying how "good" a friend someone is.

Save yourself some hassle: be your own best friend.

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Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 9:35:15 PM

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For me, I have friends that are "better" for certain things than other friends. Overall, I have probably 2 really good friends that I could honestly say one of them is my best friend, but I have no reason to do that. I also have friends that are my best from my childhood or from summer camp when I was younger, and I could never forget them. I think you can only have one best friend, but I think they can easily change depending on circumstances. I hope that makes sense!
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Posted: Monday, April 22, 2013 9:45:42 PM

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i refuse to choose. i have several besties, and i love them all equally. my wife is my soul mate, but amongst my friends, i don't have any sort of rating in place - if anyone were to make me commit to something like that, it would be purely for their own ego and insecurity. i certainly would never expect the same.
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Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 2:14:44 AM

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I'm with Clum and Sprite on this one.
Be a friend and always be the best friend you can be. If everyone did the same there would be no such thing as 'best friends'.
A friend is a friend, is a friend.
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DanielleX
Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 11:06:21 AM

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In light of other replies, I think I should qualify what I said in my original reply. I wasn't suggesting that I make value judgments from one friend to another. I love all my friends.

I think my situation is a bit unusual because so many of my friends since college have been lovers to one extent or another.

I suppose I was also drawing attention to a certain semantic anomaly in the question. That was probably my inner geek. I was in a weird mood last night.





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sprite
Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 11:13:08 AM

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DanielleX wrote:
In light of other replies, I think I should qualify what I said in my original reply. I wasn't suggesting that I make value judgments from one friend to another. I love all my friends.

I think my situation is a bit unusual because so many of my friends since college have been lovers to one extent or another.

I suppose I was also drawing attention to a certain semantic anomaly in the question. That was probably my inner geek. I was in a weird mood last night.



too late, Danielle, we've already judged you - let us bask for a moment in our superiority, until you come along with your awesomeness again and steal the show. *giggles and hugs*
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Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 11:24:35 AM

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Hell at the moment I can't keep one much less have more than one that I would consider "best friend"
DanielleX
Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 12:45:28 PM

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sprite wrote:


too late, Danielle, we've already judged you - let us bask for a moment in our superiority, until you come along with your awesomeness again and steal the show. *giggles and hugs*


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Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 2:22:19 PM

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Lets see, GOOD -BETTER- BEST (Webster messed up he should have included )- BESTEST.
I'm blessed in that I have good friends, But among those I feel a lot closer to three, than I do with the others Yet they are all Good friends..

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Posted: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 4:21:00 PM

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I have a handful of close friends who I adore and love.
In saying that, I do have one friend who I just click with. She is the one I know I can always turn to, who will always be there, the one I always think of first when I need to talk. So yes, in my heart of hearts I have a best friend, but that doesn't diminish my other friendships, it just makes me very lucky.

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Posted: Friday, November 22, 2013 9:39:35 PM

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To my mind, saying that you can ONLY have "one best friend at a time" is like saying that it's only possible to LOVE only one man and or woman at a time; and I for one KNOW better (on both accounts) at least for myself. The way I see it, BOTH situations are an individual matter, and NO ONE else can decide what YOU are capable of, only you yourself can make THAT determination. At one and the same time I HAVE been able to LOVE (if not make love to due to THEIR hang ups and needless insecurities) more than one woman at a time AND have had MORE than one friend I felt was like a brother to me, in that either of us would "be there" for the other without being asked!

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Posted: Sunday, January 05, 2014 12:16:49 PM

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I do not know, but my wife has some very good friends. one for 35 years. sex with them is a must.
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Posted: Sunday, January 05, 2014 1:36:08 PM

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I guess the definition of a BFF is a bit vague to me. I have some very good friends that I wouldn't tell some things to. While I have others that I would, but not confide what I told the other. Each friend uniquely my best friend.


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hayley
Posted: Wednesday, January 08, 2014 11:23:52 PM

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I think u have to define the term "best friend".. different people might have different opinions of what exactly constitutes a "best friend"..
for myself .. if u mean someone who u trust implicitly.. who u would confide yr deepest secrets in [and do] and expect.. rather know .. they would be kept.. even though they might seriously disagree with u..
someone who is there for u day in day out.. but not necessarily someone who shares yr bed... someone u go to to discuss problems openly and frankly knowing u won't be judged..
then yes .. I believe it is possible to have more than one..

I have five gfs who would fit such a description.. all of whom have proved themselves so.. and strange as it may seem.. given my sexual preference.. I also have four men I would so describe..
perhaps my definition is too loose...
but I would trust these people with my life..
Icarus32
Posted: Wednesday, January 08, 2014 11:40:25 PM

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The concept of a singular friend who you feel is the best of your friends seems odd to me, I have lots of friends who I like for various reasons, I don't however have a best friend.

Sure a lot of folks may have that one friend who they are way closer with than anyone else, but I don't really think the concept of a BFF applies to everyone.
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Posted: Thursday, January 09, 2014 1:35:58 AM

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Technically no by definition, but you can have two equally best friends though.

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Posted: Friday, January 10, 2014 1:13:38 PM

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I think I have to agree with one person here. I think you have one best friend that you tell your darkest secrets too. But you also have close friends.
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Posted: Friday, January 10, 2014 1:31:11 PM

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Eh. I think so, but It really depends on your definition of the word "best", doesn't it?

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Posted: Friday, January 10, 2014 1:47:59 PM

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I see that you can. I have group I always hang out with. It is a rare when we do anything without everybody together.
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Posted: Friday, January 10, 2014 3:08:18 PM

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Not in High school anymore.... Any friendship should be at its best
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Posted: Tuesday, January 14, 2014 6:07:26 PM

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Yes There has been Times Where I have had more than One... Best Friend... But My Best Friend I have Now... Is Also the One I have had The Longest As My Friend....
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Posted: Friday, January 17, 2014 12:33:03 PM

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Well I have a male best friend whom I've know since grade school who knows everything going on in my life, but also have a female best friend with knowledge of the last 31 years. Granted she is a ex of mine , but has known and kept many secrets of mine. Have made a new friend who knows a great deal of what the other 2 know. So yes I think you can have more than one.
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Posted: Saturday, January 18, 2014 1:39:11 PM

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I don't usually use the term anymore but I have a very close friend from childhood, two friends from adulthood and probably one that I lean on the most. But I can't say one is better than the other because we do different things together, have our own dynamics and I wouldn't be close to them if they weren't incredible people. Then there is another tier of simply friends that we get together or I see them at work but we don't confide in each other. I usually use the term my closest friends or my close friend but not best. I think you can have several close friends at a time.
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Posted: Saturday, January 18, 2014 2:08:39 PM

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Best friends, are two words not taken lightly. I have several good friends that I see on a routine basis and many acquaintances that frequent my bookshop. One knows a best friend when one has one. I do, and he is like a brother to me, because I know him and he knows me.confused5
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Posted: Saturday, January 18, 2014 3:44:49 PM

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Best is subjective to me.
I have 5 friends with benefits. All 5 have their special aspects. Each is best or better at one thing than another, lets say. The girl I share my aprtment and bed with is certainly the one we share the benefits together with most of all but we are not 'best' friends, we all tend to be equal.. The others all visit regularly and sleep over wnen its convenient. There is no preference given when we are together.
We have been friends for over a year and have shared many different aspects of life without fear or favor.
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Posted: Saturday, January 18, 2014 5:26:03 PM

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I believe you can have only one best and then some close friend... My best knows everything about me and my close friends dont.. I just never feel the need to tell then all my secrets, dirt and desires. Where as with Mary, we get to the nitty gritty!


throbbingwetpussy
Posted: Saturday, January 18, 2014 5:26:05 PM

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I believe you can have only one best and then some close friends... My bestie knows everything about me and my close friends dont.. I just never feel the need to tell then all my secrets, dirt and desires. Where as with Mary, we get to the nitty gritty!


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