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Guys, would you tell your partner if she was rubbish during sex, or let her get on with it not wanting to hurt her feelings?
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I would just try to guide to her to do things so I would like them and let her know when she was doing it right.
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Sex. S E X?
I faintly recall that word. Had a faintly nice connotation to it once.....vague memories....
And here I am without a dictionary.
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I've encountered this before. I'd tell her, but in a careful nurturing kind of way - and then slowly introduce new things, that's the way to go. She actually had a psychological problem with a couple of things we managed to work through. Now she knows she's a dirty birdie and deserves to be tied to the bed and taken any way I desire  Opps, I'll get my coat on the way out 
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mrplow wrote:I'd tell her, but in a careful nurturing kind of way - and then slowly introduce new things, that's the way to go. She actually had a psychological problem with a couple of things we managed to work through. Now she knows she's a dirty birdie and deserves to be tied to the bed and taken any way I desire  ...........nice plow....
"Love all, trust a few, and do wrong to none."
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I met a girl who had a rubbish fetish and I wrote her a story... but now I read these posts and I see you are talking about something else.
I definitely would not tell her - do unto others and that stuff. I would go along with Zafia's comment and work through something we both enjoyed, then move to something edgy and perverted when she gets more comfortable. It pays to be versatile and have an open mind too *wink*
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Rubbish fetish Josef? lol.
Welcome to the nut house.
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 ...LOL!
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I would not say anything. I would try and teach her without her knowledge if possible. Tell her what I would like her to do to me. At the same time ask her what she likes.
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I'd zip up and point to the door.
Ha-ha, no I wouldn't. I'd leave her to it and spare her feelings, of course I'd try and get her to improve. Depending what her weak area is depends what I'd do to try and help her improve.
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CuriousJay means that I have a few things, some concerning certain taboos, I am curious about. Not that I am bi-curious.
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Sounds like a wonderful challenge to me. A flower that has not yet bloomed. I'd nuture her and make her sluty.
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Kerrie66 wrote:Guys, would you tell your partner if she was rubbish during sex, or let her get on with it not wanting to hurt her feelings? Even bad sex is better than watching Sportscenter while eating a bowl of cheerios.
 In order to know virtue, you must first become acquainted with vice.
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i would try my hardest not to hurt her feeling, but i would def tell her by suggesting other methods to try. if she is someone that im not interested in spending time in a relationship with i can imagine myself saying " when i said that you suck, I didnt mean that you suck, i meant that you suck at sucking".
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The worst I ever had was wonderful 
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Primal
So true!
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wife used to be good, now married she has got soooo dam prudish but how do you tell your wife?????
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No I wouldn't come out and say it but I woul maybe suggest things to help improve things. I think telling a woman she is rubbish in bed is an awful thing to do, could really give her a bad complex.
Maybe she has a few hang-ups about cetain things, I don't know, maybe her body or how she moves.
Telling her she is rubbish could really hurt her.
Positive encouragement and plenty of compliments I think.
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Whoa!!!!! No way I would tell her something like that! It would be terrible to hurt someone's feelings that way! If you want to give some constructive criticism you should do it in a way that is not even critical. Tell them that you'd think it would be so hot if they did this or that a certain way and make them excited to do that for you. And after tell them how great it was. They will only get better then. Please never devastate someone by being negative and hurting them.
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As most have said, work with her, if she is worth it to you. That includes you doing more of the work, but from my (not so vast) experience, if you give her a great oral orgasm, she will be more likely to return the favour,and then you can coach her along.
It all depends really though as to why she is rubbish - lack of practice (give her that!), tuition (do it gently and bring her slutty side out), inhibitions (work on the easy ones, but you might need help for her, but at least get her to see the need), and don't underestimate the value of a good sex manual, book first an dthen videos, maybe then to real hardcore porn.
Evets, if you can't talk about sex to your wife, then see a counsellor.
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Only a stupid asshole would tell her something like that.
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I would never flat out tell her that just cuts you off from sex basically but Id maybe take control and guide her through it ;)
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