Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

Why do couples like holding hands? Options · View
Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 10:37:43 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
I know it seems a simple question to ask; but why do couples like holding hands?

Why do we do this action when with a loved one?
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 11:06:24 AM

Rank: Alpha Blonde

Joined: 2/17/2010
Posts: 6,302
Location: West Coast

So you don't lose them in a crowd... dontknow

Seriously though, I think it stems back to an aspect of the whole 'pair bonding' ritual. Touching another person makes you feel closer to them. Studies have shown that touching the forearm of someone during an initial conversation makes that person more receptive and open to what you are saying. I think holding hands just signifies to the world that you are "together" and it makes you feel closer or more bonded to the person. It's like a universally acceptable version of PDA.
If it's done too early on, I think it can be really awkward though... I've had first dates where things are not going well, and the guy tries to do this, and I physically recoil.





MrNudiePants
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 12:17:51 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/10/2009
Posts: 2,142
Location: United States
First reply nailed it. It just feels good.
MMonroe
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 12:24:52 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 4/10/2009
Posts: 1,893
Location: United Kingdom
Cos I like touching him :D



*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*



Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 12:30:25 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
It varies from couple to couple. It can be very arrousing, or reassuring, or annoying.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 3:55:08 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
In game, touching the other is called "kino" and it has to be done at the right time. Too early, like DD said, and you just freak the other person out.

Touch is an amazing sense and is a vital part of seduction, romance, love, and sex.
BrindleChase
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 5:29:21 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 5/12/2010
Posts: 132
Location: www.forlorn-hope.net
I've never liked holding hands, from a purely physical perspective. But from an emotional and spiritual aspect, I like the intimacy interwoven into the seemingly innocent touch. When my wife allows it, I hold her hand as a sign of affection. To bond and feel close to her. I suppose if she offered any other affection, I might skip on the hand holding... that's sort where I went wrong to begin with. And so, today, now, I'd do anything to hold her hand.




paranormal • erotic • romance
www.forlorn-hope.net
Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 11:09:15 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
cause its an assurance of you have him/her whatever crowd your have around.
redhotmommacita
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 11:24:23 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 11/9/2009
Posts: 1,124
Location: In my own little world., United States
I can only wish to hold hands with that someone special.



Behind every strong soldier there is even a stronger woman who raised him " Proud Army Mom"


Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 11:31:57 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
to show people that they're yours and you're comfortable with that.
Piquet
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 12:19:53 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 11/12/2009
Posts: 339
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Why do couples hold hands?....Hmmmmmm, I guess because fucking in public is banned in most countries......pity.


http://www.lushstories.com/stories/quickie-sex/claudia-incarnatapart-vii.aspx
Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 2:27:49 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
BrindleChase wrote:
I've never liked holding hands, from a purely physical perspective. But from an emotional and spiritual aspect, I like the intimacy interwoven into the seemingly innocent touch. When my wife allows it, I hold her hand as a sign of affection. To bond and feel close to her. I suppose if she offered any other affection, I might skip on the hand holding... that's sort where I went wrong to begin with. And so, today, now, I'd do anything to hold her hand.



Awe, Brindle crybaby
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 8:40:12 AM

Rank: Alpha Blonde

Joined: 2/17/2010
Posts: 6,302
Location: West Coast
Piquet wrote:
Why do couples hold hands?....Hmmmmmm, I guess because fucking in public is banned in most countries......pity.


That was funny... and so true!

6




BigRod
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 2:32:27 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 12/31/2009
Posts: 363
Location: California
Because it was the first moment of intimacy we all experienced as children.. holding hands is a protective gesture... for most men it means.. 'I have you... you're safe'...
Piquet
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 6:00:24 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 11/12/2009
Posts: 339
Location: Adelaide, Australia
As with many of the rituals of love and courtship there is a long tradition of holding hands in Europe.

The ritual of the promenade in the town square at dusk is one, where couples walk not only hand in hand but 'agazze', that is with the woman's forearm tucked under the man's and their hands entwined. The man walks half a step ahead of the woman and keeps her close.

I remember my grandparents walking like this and when Louise and I travelled back to the old country (in 1996) we often promenaded agazze. Noticing us, one old guy said to me, "Ah, but you are a gentleman of the old school." A compliment indeed !



http://www.lushstories.com/stories/quickie-sex/claudia-incarnatapart-vii.aspx
Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 6:08:12 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
Piquet wrote:
As with many of the rituals of love and courtship there is a long tradition of holding hands in Europe.

The ritual of the promenade in the town square at dusk is one, where couples walk not only hand in hand but 'agazze', that is with the woman's forearm tucked under the man's and their hands entwined. The man walks half a step ahead of the woman and keeps her close.

I remember my grandparents walking like this and when Louise and I travelled back to the old country (in 1996) we often promenaded agazze. Noticing us, one old guy said to me, "Ah, but you are a gentleman of the old school." A compliment indeed !


yes, a compliment indeed!!

Some (not all) men need to learn this. I loved walking "agazze" with a former partner, to be close and protected.

big smile ... very nice indeed!

Van
BrindleChase
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 10:33:59 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 5/12/2010
Posts: 132
Location: www.forlorn-hope.net
HoneyBee000 wrote:
BrindleChase wrote:
I've never liked holding hands, from a purely physical perspective. But from an emotional and spiritual aspect, I like the intimacy interwoven into the seemingly innocent touch. When my wife allows it, I hold her hand as a sign of affection. To bond and feel close to her. I suppose if she offered any other affection, I might skip on the hand holding... that's sort where I went wrong to begin with. And so, today, now, I'd do anything to hold her hand.



Awe, Brindle crybaby


Thanks! I'll live. Got my writing to live vicariously through! *lol*


paranormal • erotic • romance
www.forlorn-hope.net
Guest
Posted: Monday, June 14, 2010 2:17:05 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
Piquet wrote:
As with many of the rituals of love and courtship there is a long tradition of holding hands in Europe.

The ritual of the promenade in the town square at dusk is one, where couples walk not only hand in hand but 'agazze', that is with the woman's forearm tucked under the man's and their hands entwined. The man walks half a step ahead of the woman and keeps her close.

I remember my grandparents walking like this and when Louise and I travelled back to the old country (in 1996) we often promenaded agazze. Noticing us, one old guy said to me, "Ah, but you are a gentleman of the old school." A compliment indeed !


I love all these old traditions, thank you Piquet icon_smile
Moonflower
Posted: Thursday, June 14, 2012 8:13:31 PM

Rank: Advanced Wordsmith

Joined: 4/10/2012
Posts: 75
Location: United States
Makes us feel connected even in the smallest of ways.
littlemissbitch
Posted: Friday, June 15, 2012 5:43:27 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 9/6/2011
Posts: 776
Location: the land of enchantment, United States
my daughter calls it a hand hug...

littlemissbitch ~ professional face ripper offer, at your service..
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 15, 2012 6:05:19 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
littlemissbitch wrote:
my daughter calls it a hand hug...


Aww, that's so cute and true. The reason I do it (or have done in the past) is for closeness and comfort and to show my love and affection, just like hugging, only with hands. I might just have to adopt that saying now.
lafayettemister
Posted: Friday, June 15, 2012 7:56:01 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/4/2010
Posts: 6,376
Location: Alabama, United States
Human touch is vital to healthy living. Human touch is so therapeutic. It makes us feel connected, not just with the person we're holding hands with. But with ourselves. That's why hand holding is still prohibited in some places. It's a level of public intimacy that restrictive societies aren't comfortable with.





When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 15, 2012 10:43:41 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
I used to walk around with my dick in her, bur it was d@mn difficult to do, while walking up stairs. Holding hands is waaay easier clown
Naughtygrl73
Posted: Saturday, June 16, 2012 5:31:36 AM

Rank: Story Verifier

Joined: 5/21/2011
Posts: 1,418
Location: The Naughty Mansion, Australia
Its simple, I feel loved when he holds my hand.
Its knowing that you are always wanted, the confidence I feel in showing that love by slipping my hand into his

I can almost feel my heart swell with love when one of my little ones hands slip into mine. It always brings a smile to my face when I look down and seen them looking up at me



Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 17, 2012 5:37:46 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
I feel deeply connected. I am very protective by nature so it's natural for me to hold on to the one I love.
Sirene_Jaune
Posted: Sunday, June 17, 2012 7:14:36 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 5/6/2011
Posts: 771
Location: In my mind, Australia
An intimate connection that we can do in public. Also as DD said it can show that the couple are together.

I love holding hands with my other half, he has large palms with long fingers and they have cuts, scabs and callious (sp). From working on a farm.

Also I love this line from Jizz in my pants by The lonely Island.

"And when we are holding hands...it's like having sex with me."

lol.

Axl - Take a look at our piercing menu.

Daria - I don't think that's how you spell "uvula."

Axl - That's not "uvula."

From: "Daria" episode "Pierce Me"
Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 17, 2012 7:26:15 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
He hasn't held my hand in a very long time...but I think its a sweet expression of intimacy.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 17, 2012 7:29:04 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,966
it is a sense of security
LauraLee_sugah
Posted: Tuesday, June 19, 2012 7:12:27 PM

Rank: Purveyor of Sweetness

Joined: 9/10/2011
Posts: 2,345
Location: the sweet, sunny south, United States
it is a socially acceptable public intimacy.... and it is so very intimate...

DLizze
Posted: Tuesday, June 19, 2012 8:23:33 PM

Rank: Story Verifier

Joined: 4/23/2011
Posts: 2,552
Miss sugah hit the nail on the head with her comment.

"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.