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A gf and made a sex tape a year back and now she wants to give copies out to her friends. I don't really want her too. How should I explain it to her.
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That is out of order. The next thing you know you'll be a porntube interweb sensation. You should tell her it's private, for your eyes only. Once it's out there, it's out there. Nice outfit. 
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nicola wrote:Nice outfit. You're wicked 
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I am not certain if this GF is your current love interest os a past one,,, but if she is your current ,, then to me it would be out of the question for this to be done.
If she is a past GF and your are not in the tape with her,,then let it happen,, you were already done with each other.
But if she is your present love interest and you are not in the tape,,she is after more than what you have going on.
I really feel like you are on this tape and you don"t want it possibly viewed by everybody and their brother,,,
So for this Missouri Boys Advice,, She needs to destroy the tape or find another man ,,and a place to live.
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nicola wrote:That is out of order. The next thing you know you'll be a porntube interweb sensation. You should tell her it's private, for your eyes only. Once it's out there, it's out there. Nice outfit. Ditto If that does not work, see if there is a way to compromise e.g. editing the tape etc. 
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It sounds like she's still your girlfriend. Explain that since you're both in it, you have a say in where it goes, too. Tell her you'd rather keep it all private. If she wants to tell stories about you two, fine, but you'd rather keep that as a sexy, private reminder of the great sex.
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Burn the tape! HURRY
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Sex tape? Where do you buy that? Is it like faster-Plaster?
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mizzoubaseball wrote:A gf and made a sex tape a year back and now she wants to give copies out to her friends. I don't really want her too. How should I explain it to her. Either she has made some copies already and was hoping you'd say yes, If so she'll be thinking OMG oops. And double oops she's already sent it to the friends. If she's an ex girlfriend I would hunt high and low for any spare copies she might have made. Hope this has a happy ending for you.
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Be honest that you don't want others to see it, hopefully she understand.
I have recently entered a war about sex tapes with an ex. I know I can't get him to delete so I am just asking for copies. So I can use them to threaten him too :)
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If it were me:
Nice me:
1. Why are you even thinking about giving that tape out without ever talking to me from the beginning? Hell no, give me the tape!
2. If you respect the relationship we have, and you respect me, then hand it over.
Evil me:
If you hand the tape out and someone tells me they have seen it and/or it is seen on the net, I will sue your ass. (check your local state statutes on such issues and have them in hand just in case she tries to get cute.)
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eiotis123 wrote:If it were me:
Nice me:
1. Why are you even thinking about giving that tape out without ever talking to me from the beginning? Hell no, give me the tape!
2. If you respect the relationship we have, and you respect me, then hand it over.
Evil me:
If you hand the tape out and someone tells me they have seen it and/or it is seen on the net, I will sue your ass. (check your local state statutes on such issues and have them in hand just in case she tries to get cute.)
 
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This is why I always keep the tape... 
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This is quite an odd scenario. I've never heard of this happening before. usually its the guy that wants to show his friends. I think a firm "no" should suffice though. (Or at least make sure you get final edit before it gets sent out) 
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Bunny12 wrote:Burn the tape! HURRY    You mean "burn, as in DVD? OR........   As in "burn in the fireplace!
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i agree with damon, thats quite a plot twist lol, but understandable, sometimes women are more open about sex than their men. personally, my girl has shown her girlfriends pictures she sent me, or had them take pictures of her for me, but thats a girl time sharing that never includes me. if you don't want that tape to be seen by anyone but you two then you need to remind her that if it was her in your shoes then you would be considerate of her feelings on the subject.
or you could always offer to do a remake and keep your face out of the video lol... just a thought
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be cool man,
just leave her to do what she wanna do.
believe me, all can be better then you thought...
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Tell her to not give that out. It's private and it should stay that way. Next thing you know, Vivid Video would want to make you both into porn stars.
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Did u try finding out why she wants to do it?
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Dancing_Doll wrote:You have to set out the rules before film production commences. A sex-tape is definitely on my "to-do" list... can i volunteer to act in direct film ...damn anything to be there
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An ex-boyfriend filmed himself fucking me and passed it around his friends on facebook. the only saving grace was that I was underage so they were scared to even possess it. Then again, who knows. It's been 5 years and I've never seen it turn up -- and I view a lot of porn. 
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This can be a sticky situation. I've made sex tapes before and I'm always nervous that someone will have a copy out there and one day my boyfriend might see it. Even though it doesn't really matter because technically nobody can prove that its me. Make sure you don't film it with your face in it or if you do make sure you wear a wig and sunglasses or something. Usually I just get the guy to film me from behind because its harder to identify people from just your ass. Another trick is to not sound exactly like yourself when your filming a sex tape compared to when your just having regular sex so try to shout different words and moan in a different way. For me, there is "Sex Tape Cassidy" and then there is just "Regular Sex Cassidy". It's smarter to do this because the last thing you ever want is your sex tapes all over campus or your home town or even worse on Youporn and your not even getting paid for it. Total nightmare.
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u shud really tell that girl to not give it to her friends.ultimately u iwll land into trouble...its better u talkto her and sort out stuff
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...I wouldn't stress it too much, unless you're on there crying during sex or something...if she has it, and has decided to put it up, there's not a lot that you can do about it other than ask her not to...but really...i wouldn't worry about it...no one looks at the guy when they're watching a sex tape, and even if they do, so what...you're on there getting some ass!
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SousChef78 wrote:...I wouldn't stress it too much, unless you're on there crying during sex or something...if she has it, and has decided to put it up, there's not a lot that you can do about it other than ask her not to...but really...i wouldn't worry about it...no one looks at the guy when they're watching a sex tape, and even if they do, so what...you're on there getting some ass! Yes you might be right but regardless we all (boy/girl/straight/gay) need to have dignity. I agree once you do something like this you are at the mercy of our tecno progressive society but lets make sure that we keep respect with what we are dealing with online REAL people.
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if her friends wanna check it out, offer to throw a viewing party.....with party to cum afterward
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see if you can get a hold of the tape and keep it asap -good luck : )
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
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First who has the tape you or her.?... Then if in the beginning of the tape you are kissing keep, it then erase the rest of the tape and re- tape animals fucking on it and then let her have it to show her friends. Or be smart and destroy the tape!!! And gave her a blank one and swear up and down that was the tape. Good Luck 
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