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cmsouza729
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 5:49:09 AM

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I'm sorry ladies I have to ask this question. I'm not asking for specifics, just basics. I have seen too many guys writing stories about girls having sex for the first time screaming "FUCK ME! FUCK ME!" Guys need to understand that this is not realistic and when put in a story that it takes away from it. So there's the question, how was your first time? Was it enjoyable? Did it hurt? Were you screaming at the top of your lungs "Oh yes FUCK ME!"? Or am I completely wrong? Either way we guys need to know.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 7:41:42 AM

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First time sex is usually bad... I really don't understand everyone's fascination with it.
I would highly doubt there are many girls yelling "fuck me, fuck me" after the initial pain/blood. I think there is still that basic shock that 'omg, I'm actually having sex', and then trying to figure out the rhythm and what you're supposed to be doing underneath the guy to make the sex better. A lot of stuff is going through your mind before the whole idea of "lustful abandon" can set in. At which point, its usually over before you can really start to enjoy it. At least it was for me. I lost mine to a 'minute man'... I blinked a few times, and it was over.


LusciousLola
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 7:55:55 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
First time sex is usually bad... I really don't understand everyone's fascination with it.
I would highly doubt there are many girls yelling "fuck me, fuck me" after the initial pain/blood. I think there is still that basic shock that 'omg, I'm actually having sex', and then trying to figure out the rhythm and what you're supposed to be doing underneath the guy to make the sex better. A lot of stuff is going through your mind before the whole idea of "lustful abandon" can set in. At which point, its usually over before you can really start to enjoy it. At least it was for me. I lost mine to a 'minute man'... I blinked a few times, and it was over.


DD is so right. My first was awful. I wasn't ready. It was painful, dry, absolutely terrible experience. Then he dropped me off at home. I was locked out in the rain, for an hour. To top it all off, he told everyone at school that I was an awful lay. He also got back together with his former girlfriend the same weekend. I was not to sad to move very shortly after that happened. He was a total Jackass! So there was no screaming "fuck me, fuck me harder....".



MMonroe
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 8:03:37 AM

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Mine wasnt terrible, there was a couple of seconds of pain when he first entered me and a very small amount of blood but after that it was fine.

There wasnt any real enjoyment there though, apart from 'Oh my god, I'm actually having sex and its with this guy I'm amazingly in love with'. He didnt even know I was a virgin either, but he was still gentle and asked if I was ok, which made it all ten times better



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LusciousLola
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 8:42:46 AM

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I'm starting to think that maybe all of us women should have had a woman first. Then there would be someone with us to actually care if we were liking it. Also we know what we like, so chances are good, that another woman would know how to make it very pleasurable for us as well.
LadyX
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 8:56:13 AM

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LusciousLola wrote:
I'm starting to think that maybe all of us women should have had a woman first. Then there would be someone with us to actually care if we were liking it. Also we know what we like, so chances are good, that another woman would know how to make it very pleasurable for us as well.


If women had dicks I'd be all for it, baby.

Something about a first time with a strap on doesnt sound real good either, and to me, the first time means the first time I am penetrated.

My first time was fucking terrible. I was too young to be allowed to mention it on this site, the guy was way too big to fit inside me comfortably at the time, even after the blood and pain at first, he was rough, and he couldnt control himself at all, so it was over pretty quick and I had to worry about being pregnant too.

So the good news is that it only gets better from there, lol. But the first time was not like it looks in romance books, thats for damn sure.

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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 2:35:49 PM

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Yes I guess guys should know that for most woman it is not a great experience, even if he is careing and gentle. No FUCK ME, FUCK ME, not even one. The pain, the blood, general discomfort, feeling of inadequancy, the fear of pregnancy. Many first times are unprotected.

At this age,42, and the number of men I have been with, I think how could any woman not like sex. Thinking back I do understand the impact of the first time.
Bunny12
Posted: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 10:02:36 PM

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Read my story "Lost My Virginity With A Grudge Fuck" and you will have you answer it's totally true. I don't get all this blood and pain. I had none of that. The sex wasn't great but it wasn't bad either. Got really good when I started dating guys in their 20's when I was 17. Boy were they better than the high school guys!

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cmsouza729
Posted: Thursday, April 01, 2010 2:17:52 AM

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Thanks ladies. Many male writers on this site need to read this thread! *Hugs for all*
purechaos1
Posted: Thursday, April 01, 2010 3:46:06 AM

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Ya All the girls are right! It was the most uncomfortable thing for me ever! I didn't have sex again for over a year after my first time!
iceman
Posted: Thursday, April 01, 2010 6:45:40 AM

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As a man, I have to agree with the majority of ladies. During my long life, I've had quite a few first time girls. I have always explained, the best I could, what it's going to be like. There was never any of the "FUCK ME" yelling. There was pain for her, blood, and crying.....not always crying but the pain and blood... sometimes a lot, sometimes a little, was explained to them. I'm always as gentle as I can possibly be and do try to be in a relaxing atmosphere. I also try to keep the girl as wet and lubricated as possible, that's important too. I've had to think back a long ways and draw on those memories. Who knows when I'll get a chance to "deflower" a girl again.... hehehehehe
DazzlingLove
Posted: Thursday, April 01, 2010 7:14:33 AM

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MY first time was brutal. The last thing that entered my mind was keep going. The first thing that did was STOP!help But of course at the end after going at it for awhile there was some sort of enjoyment. But I did stay away from sex for a couple of months
MeganC
Posted: Thursday, July 08, 2010 5:16:59 PM

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My first time was awful and I won't even mention it here past that. All this stuff about girls being instant sex mainiacs is just crap.
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Posted: Friday, July 09, 2010 1:08:30 AM

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my first time was wonderful. he was a long time boyfriend and a virgin too. we had a fire in the fireplace and a soft 4 poster bed. it was very romantic and while i didnt scream "Fuck me" i did beg him to "never stop" as i came. its a fond memory of mine and if i could go back i would not change a thing. in fact i still consider him one of my best friends :)
castlequeen
Posted: Friday, July 09, 2010 10:18:59 AM

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Mine was quite pleasant, if a bit awkward...it's on my stories if you want to read the true details....

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LadySharon
Posted: Friday, July 09, 2010 10:36:47 AM

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Mine was awful, despite it being outside in the bushes of someone's backyard for the first time. Needless to say, he wasn't good and like any teenage girl who just lost her virginity, I lied and told him that he was great and I wasn't in pain-I actually lost some blood and was hurting a few days afterwards.

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DazzlingLove
Posted: Friday, July 09, 2010 10:45:44 AM

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I was in total pain. Was sore for about a week between the legs. I mostly whimpered through the whole affair, and me in my optimistic spirit told him that it was the best thing ever. f-hihi
JennyP
Posted: Saturday, July 10, 2010 9:23:55 AM

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Mine was a great experience. I was visiting my HS boyfriend at his college and we had been out drinking- I wanted to do it, but he told me that I was too drunk and he didnt want my first time to be a drunken hazy experience. I argued a bit with him, because I had gotten myself all mentally prepared over the past month and i was READY, dammit! But I passed out and in the morning I remembered what happened, I was more in love with him than ever. That night we kept the drinking to a minimum and he was wonderful. He went down on me and made me cum once and then he took things slow and gentle. A lot of caressing and kissing. There was a bit of pain, but nothing awful, and I remember it felt very good as he went on. I loved my first time.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, November 18, 2010 10:45:08 AM

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Well I was originally planning to save my virginity for my future husband when I was younger. I took care not to give into that kind of temptation because I wanted real sex to be that kind of special thing so pretty much I just kept it to blow jobs and anal. And let me tell you, I had a whole lot of fun with that. It's not just about sex ladies. We can keep our virtue and still enjoy the wonders of physical intimacy. You just have to know your limits and make sure the guys you are playing around with respect it and all. But it's kinda funny, when I lost my virginity it was a bit accidental. I got super drunk with my boyfriend at the time (he was pretty recked too) and we were playing around together and we were doing the anal piledriver position when I lost my balance a bit and he totally slipped and got the wrong hole. LMFAO. Wow that was a shocker at the time! But it went in so fast so the pain was quick and done with which is almost the way it should be anyway, right? I was almost lucky that it happened like that. I hear such horror stories from girls and how awful and painful the first time was. Anyway from then, I figured what was the point. I already wasn't a virgin (technically) so I figured I might as well keep having sex from then on out. Its actually a funny story now that I write it all out. Haha. I haven't thought about that one in a long time.
Nikki703
Posted: Thursday, November 18, 2010 4:33:29 PM

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WOW, so long ago. It was nothing special to be honest. I had already had sex with my bestfriend, a girl, so I knew what it felt like to be entered. But when I finally did it with a boy I was 16 and it was kind of awkward. It was his first time too so he was not very good. All in all it was not very pleasurable, but more of a relief to have done it. And like a few others have already said, I told him it was great. I had sex with him a few more times and it did get better. Seems after the first time, we were more relaxed.
Magical_felix
Posted: Thursday, November 18, 2010 6:01:36 PM

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SweetPenny
Posted: Thursday, November 18, 2010 6:58:25 PM

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My first time was awful too. I was 17 and my boss, who was much older than me, was flirting with me heavily. After a heavy make-out session in the office, we decided to "go for it" that night. I made him use a condom even though he didn't want to. He put on a condom and started trying to get in. He couldn't do it. Kept complaining that I was too tight. Then he started saying that the condom was taking too much space. Finally, after half an hour, he squeezed his way in. It was pretty miserable for both of us. I just kind of lied there, cringing the entire time. And he was whining and grumbling. It's a miracle that I ever had sex again.
thepainter
Posted: Friday, November 19, 2010 11:08:32 AM

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I think The Driver reincarnated as Cassidy. evil4

Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
She
Posted: Friday, November 19, 2010 11:52:05 AM

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thepainter wrote:
I think The Driver reincarnated as Cassidy. evil4


haha I cannot believed!! How did you think of him? You are totally right reincarnation could be posible in this case evil4
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, November 24, 2010 11:18:04 PM

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Well, I haven't had my first time yet... but once that happens I'll let you know... Although I don't see myself shouting fuck me harder... hahahaha
sazraz
Posted: Thursday, November 25, 2010 11:08:26 AM

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it was gentle, romantic and a little bit awkward. no screaming to high heavens to be fucked or anything. A night in at my then boyfriends house when i was 17 with scented candles, our favourite music. ...how cheesy
Guest
Posted: Thursday, November 25, 2010 11:20:05 AM

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All hell. That first time hurt so bad, for real. But by about the third time it was all right. No I did not act like a pornstar in my first time :)
lirri_loo
Posted: Sunday, November 28, 2010 6:49:37 AM

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Ummm... in some bushes laying on some bark. We were a secret item hidden from our over protective parents and used to hook up in our work lunch breaks. ROFL.
There was definitely no fuck me fuck me going on!!! It was a holy fuck, wanna do this? Yeah k... slide on in, cuddle for a while while he pretends to know what he's doing, get uncomfortable, decide to do it another time and stop. I don't think he came once from us having sex.... virgins together is just awkward lol. Or maybe it had more to do with the bushes and the bark....

The next guy i was with was after i was abused and i was so drunk i just lay there and let him do whatever...

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