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Do you believe in the code? You know that code that says you cant date or fuck ur bestfriends man? Or is it fair game? I have but i dont think it was betrayal cuz she wasnt my bestfriend and they werent together anymore and it wasnt a relationship we were just fuck buddies.
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CamillaJay19 wrote:Do you believe in the code? You know that code that says you cant date or fuck ur bestfriends man? Or is it fair game? I have but i dont think it was betrayal cuz she wasnt my bestfriend and they werent together anymore and it wasnt a relationship we were just fuck buddies. I always followed the code and man it was not always easy.
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masso66 wrote:CamillaJay19 wrote:Do you believe in the code? You know that code that says you cant date or fuck ur bestfriends man? Or is it fair game? I have but i dont think it was betrayal cuz she wasnt my bestfriend and they werent together anymore and it wasnt a relationship we were just fuck buddies. I always followed the code and man it was not always easy. ah wait - I assume that its not part of the code if your bestfriend knows about it up front right?
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I follow the code for close friends unless they encourage me to go for it (which happened once, but she is an exceptionally non-jealous cool girl and those are rare). For the most part I try to avoid it because of the drama it always has the potential to cause. They need to come up with the female version of the saying 'bros before hoes'... maybe 'chicks before dicks'...?
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Personally I don't entirely agreed with the code. Now...if a girl leaves a buddy of mine she is off limits completely. But...if he leaves her I believe that is fair game. Most of my friends agree with that so we don't usually have a problem.
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I wouldnt ever even think about going after a friend's man ex or not unless she said it was ok, but like DD said that happens very very rarely.
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well my friend dumped the guy so i figured it was fair game
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I am currently getting over a relationship lost in this way. My boyfriend went off with my best friend. She would say it was justified because he had finished with me, but the reason he finished with me was for her and it seems they were spending time together behind my back before this. I will never ever forgive her. She knew what the relationship meant to me. I had ample opportunity to do something similar to her and never took it. Ultimately it's about the pain you are likely to cause. There is no 'fair game' IMHO if you know you will be hurting that friend, and you have no right to call yourself a friend any more if you act on any feelings you may have towards someone they care for.
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Dancing_Doll wrote:I follow the code for close friends unless they encourage me to go for it (which happened once, but she is an exceptionally non-jealous cool girl and those are rare). For the most part I try to avoid it because of the drama it always has the potential to cause. They need to come up with the female version of the saying 'bros before hoes'... maybe 'chicks before dicks'...? Sisters before Misters.
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Some do, Some don't
Love blindsides us all.
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i understand and appreciate your statements, but whats done is done now lol but i know this is the first and the last time i`ll do that again.
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Hey, I'm not judging you, hun - every circumstance is different. As some people above have said - on some occasions if you do find a sensitive way of approaching the friend about it, she might well say 'go ahead', and may well appreciate that you took the time to consider her feelings by asking. Actually, to go out with the guy I'm talking about, his ex was a friend of mine and I did ask her permission, and she did say okay. Lol she did warn me he was an asshole though - I should have listened.
Stock answer to most forum questions:
Some do, Some don't
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