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Petals
Posted: Saturday, April 23, 2011 9:54:01 PM

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What do you think?
SexyFreak
Posted: Saturday, April 23, 2011 11:45:06 PM

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I think so because it isn't physical but it's a real person responding.
Rotsen
Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 5:12:36 AM

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Maybe, maybe not, but it sure feels a bit like cheating.
Catnip
Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 6:39:57 AM

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We have very many threads on cheating and a general idea seem to be that if you have to do it behind your partners back, no matter what it is, then it's considered cheating.

If it's the same person that you have sex with over and over again, online, I'd say it's more cheating than if you change the sexual online partner. It doesn't make you as attatched to the person online and will lower the chance of getting emotionally involved with a different person than your partner.

Here are some links that already take up this subject that you might want to read.

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst4058_Is-Cybering-Cheating.aspx
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst14010_Is-Cybersex-cheating.aspx



Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 8:15:01 AM

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I think it's important to share something like this. If you talk about it maybe he/she might like the idea and you could do something like that together.
If you're doing it behind someone's back and being all secretive then it makes it seem like cheating.
Petals
Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 11:09:04 AM

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Thanks...going to read that post..I jsut thought this would be a interesting discussion
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Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 11:41:53 AM

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Really I don't think it IS cheating....

The wording of your post is interesting.... You say "an on-line sex partner..."

It's only cheating if there's a considerable degree of emotional involvement....

Otherwise it's just a like-minded person helping you to have a more interesting wank....

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Guest
Posted: Monday, April 25, 2011 6:39:38 AM

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Haven't had a sex partner online.
I do think that one has to be careful and not let it get to carried away.
I can also see where doing so could become very addictive.
I have a partner who has no desire to ever have sex again,
dont know what menopause did to her?
So I think by being online and having an affair, I would be being more fair to her
than acctually finding someone in real life to have an affair with.
My 2 cents
Just-SJ
Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 7:04:27 AM

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Quite simply, to me YES.

But it will depend on the dynamics in your particular relationship. But if you have to ask....

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Paige42985
Posted: Thursday, May 19, 2011 5:03:08 PM

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I think so because you are spending emotional time with someone other then your spouse and I just wouldn't do it.

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dan17
Posted: Thursday, May 19, 2011 8:31:26 PM

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yes since your married like as your vow to be loyal and bond by love.

if you have online sex partner even though don't do physically but emotional and in you mind your cheating

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ArtMan
Posted: Thursday, June 30, 2011 1:42:53 PM

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If you are married and cybersexing online with someone else it is cheating!

You are invited to read Passionate Danger, Part II, a story collaboration by Kim and ArtMan.
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/passionate-danger-part-ii.aspx

MMonroe
Posted: Thursday, June 30, 2011 1:47:10 PM

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Yes, unless the husband/wife knows about it and is ok with it, but otherwise, yes its cheating



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Sam912
Posted: Wednesday, July 13, 2011 1:01:07 PM

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I'd say it is cheating, although you're not doing anything physical it can still hurt your partner. Better to either not do it, or check with your other half first to see if they're alright with it.
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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 3:48:06 AM

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curiousKen
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 7:21:31 AM

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Well I'm not sure, let me send a email to cliton and see what he says.

lovetochayandplay
Posted: Saturday, July 16, 2011 4:42:14 AM

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we have an agreement lay on line but never go hook up, keeps it interesting
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, July 20, 2011 10:07:13 PM

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Not if you don't get a cyber S.T.D.Whistle

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Posted: Sunday, August 07, 2011 9:53:19 AM

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Ok, so say you are married, and the husband as it turns out is very traditional and beyond vanilla. Also consider that the wife has talked to the husband about certain desires she has, things that really get her going. These things make the husband uncomfortable and he refuses to even try. So wife goes online and finds an outlet for her sexual frustration in the form of cyber sex. Is it still cheating?


Really, sex and laughter do go very well together, and I wondered - and I still do - which is more important.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, August 07, 2011 9:58:47 AM

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In some cases yes and also depends on the situation like if the husband has checked out and in love with drinking and drugs
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Posted: Sunday, August 07, 2011 10:16:39 AM

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This is a tough question because can it be considered in court as infidelity an used as a reason for divorce. I think not so I would say from a legal stand point No. From a moral stand point if you are doing it behind your spouses back and deliberatley lying then Yes

Guest
Posted: Monday, August 08, 2011 5:41:50 AM

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mmmm well difficult one depends on your real partner how they would feel and how often you do it
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Posted: Friday, August 12, 2011 3:40:44 PM

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This is a very tough question to answer...not. But i am a dawg...so online sex is great.
Guest
Posted: Monday, August 15, 2011 9:17:11 PM

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yes its cheating but if you told your partner... its not... easy
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Posted: Monday, August 15, 2011 11:01:00 PM

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i don't think so

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MissyLuvsYa
Posted: Tuesday, August 16, 2011 7:55:53 PM

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Yes it is!!!!
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Posted: Tuesday, August 16, 2011 7:57:00 PM

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Depends what your spouse thinks.
Buz
Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 6:37:52 AM

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I am married so I do not cybersex. I might chat or talk about sex but in a general conversation way. I will not carry on an online sexual relationship. I just wouldn't feel right about that.

Guest
Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 10:08:45 AM

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I think it is cheating.

Like some of the others said, the emotional intimate involvement is there and as we know, sex is mostly in the mind.

I suppose in your own personal circumstance, it might be helpful to think about how you would feel if your partner was cybering with someone either casually, or regularly and think about how that would make you feel.

Would you be happy to think of them being intimate on a regular basis with someone? Things can certainly get very intense, even when there is no actual physical involvement with another. They would still be masturbating and pretending to be with them...

I don't think I would be happy to think of my other half getting it on with someone else. I would feel betrayed and cheated.
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Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 10:52:30 AM

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I totally agree FeelingGood.... chatting can even cross the line if you get intimate with your hopes and dreams, goals and frustrations . sharing with someone other than your spouse those things will end up hurting the relationship causing trust issues and hurt feelings, anger and the ugly green eyed monster to awaken. and that is never a good thing....argue

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