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lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 8:47:13 AM

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Lets say you're on a first date. Or just met some guy out one night. What is something that he can say or do that you will know instantly that this is the only date that he'll ever have with you. Nothing like belching or farting or suddenly grabbing a boob or the like... that stuff goes without saying. What are your peeves?

Likewise, what are deal breakers with guys that have gotten past a few dates and things are progressing towards more physical things? I'd assume any guy that wouldn't do oral would earn a quick exit from a relationship. Anything else that is a must on your menu, and what is off your menu? Again, children and animals are a given.





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Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 9:18:48 AM

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If he told me he supported manchester united football club I would have to rethink the date lol.
If the guy was arrogant and rude, I hate that. If he didn't offer to buy the first drink I would never see him again.
sprite
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 9:34:54 AM

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Smokers are a huge turn off for me. Even if he's not lighting up on a date, i can smell it on him, and quite frankly, it makes me a little ill.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 9:36:38 AM

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Let's see I do have a list:
1. If he doesn't know enough to turn off the mobile phone, now occasionally it is possible to something come up but, that is one thing.
2. If he is rude to anyone
3. If he is too quiet or talks too much
4. If he isn't fun to be with
5. If he is oggling every other woman in the place]
6. And this is the worse, do not order my food for me, I am a big girl and can do that myself
Vavavoom
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 9:40:03 AM

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sprite wrote:
Smokers are a huge turn off for me. Even if he's not lighting up on a date, i can smell it on him, and quite frankly, it makes me a little ill.


I'm with ypu babe! GRRROSSSSS!! absolute turn off!
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 9:42:09 AM

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- constantly checking/using his blackberry during the date
- openly checking out other women on the date.
- inability to move past basic level conversation (if he seems dumb, it's game over).
- saying that he enjoys going hunting
- being bad kisser
- him being generally introverted or awkward
- narcissism or vanity where he's trying to prove how 'cool' he is
- dressed like a douchebag (or even worse, if he IS a douchebag)





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Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 10:36:29 AM

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if he is condescending to me or others
if he runs other people down verbally
has an inflated sense of self
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 10:37:46 AM

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omg..double post already. ugh it hates me
Dudealicious
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 12:24:11 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
- constantly checking/using his blackberry during the date
- openly checking out other women on the date.
- inability to move past basic level conversation (if he seems dumb, it's game over).
- saying that he enjoys going hunting
- being bad kisser
- him being generally introverted or awkward
- narcissism or vanity where he's trying to prove how 'cool' he is
- dressed like a douchebag (or even worse, if he IS a douchebag)




What you mean I can't stick that there? I luv you though Ma!

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AngelHeart01
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 1:09:04 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
- constantly checking/using his blackberry during the date
- openly checking out other women on the date.
- inability to move past basic level conversation (if he seems dumb, it's game over).
- saying that he enjoys going hunting
- being bad kisser
- him being generally introverted or awkward
- narcissism or vanity where he's trying to prove how 'cool' he is
- dressed like a douchebag (or even worse, if he IS a douchebag)





I can't imagine ANYONE not paying full attention to you.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 2:01:35 PM

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Guaranty to lock the legs at the knees.

1. Phone is more interesting than me.
2. Talks to me as I am just a piece of ass, I have a brain and opinions too.
3. I do not mind if he checks out other women, who knows he my have a threesome in mind. But I better be the center of attention, or I am moving on quickly.
4. If you remove every I or me from his conversation the room would go silent.
5. Acts like I am easy, well I guess I am a sure thing for the right guy, but I do not want to be treated that way.
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Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 2:14:31 PM

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1. bad hygiene grass on teeth, bad breath, body odor, dirty long fingernails
2. no humor/witt
3. decides for me
4. phone fetish
5. talks about his mom or exes constantly
6. puts the kids question on the table before drinks
7. rude to others especially staff at venue
8. takes life or himself way too serious
Nikki703
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 3:29:27 PM

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These Are Some Things That Turn Me Off

-Arrogance
-Bad Hygiene
-Constantly Checking His Phone
-Thinks My Eyes Are On My Chest
-Too Serious, No Sense Of Humor
-Talks About His Religious And/Or Political Beliefs
-Really Dumb (I Am Not Looking For Einstein, But Must Be Able To Hold An Intelligent Conversation)
-Arrogance ( I Know I Already Said This, But It Is Very Big For Me)
-Boring
-Smoker, Although I May Be Able To Tolerate That If Everything Else Was Great!

These Would Also Go For A Woman Too
lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 3:31:02 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
These Are Some Things That Turn Me Off

-Arrogance
-Bad Hygiene
-Constantly Checking His Phone
-Thinks My Eyes Are On My Chest
-Too Serious, No Sense Of Humor
-Talks About His Religious And/Or Political Beliefs
-Really Dumb (I Am Not Looking For Einstein, But Must Be Able To Hold A Meanigful Conversation)
-Arrogance ( I Know I Already Said This, But It Is Very Big For Me)
-Boring
-Smoker, Although I May Be Able To Tolerate That If Everything Else Was Great!

These Would Also Go For A Woman Too


I just noticed you have eyes! Wow, whoda thunk it!





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TracyAmes
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 3:51:04 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
These Are Some Things That Turn Me Off

-Arrogance
-Bad Hygiene
-Constantly Checking His Phone
-Thinks My Eyes Are On My Chest
-Too Serious, No Sense Of Humor
-Talks About His Religious And/Or Political Beliefs
-Really Dumb (I Am Not Looking For Einstein, But Must Be Able To Hold An Intelligent Conversation)
-Arrogance ( I Know I Already Said This, But It Is Very Big For Me)
-Boring
-Smoker, Although I May Be Able To Tolerate That If Everything Else Was Great!

These Would Also Go For A Woman Too

Yep, that sounds about right! Add sour breath and copious amounts of body hair to the list, and it's spot on. Yuck!

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lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 3:56:12 PM

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Ruh roh Shaggy... I have hairy arms and legs. Ooops. But none on my back and jsut a little on my chest/stomach. I guess I could shave it for the right occassion. lol





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Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 28, 2011 6:53:12 PM

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. ;-) Sword Fight
mare24
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 2:43:38 AM

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These Are Some Things That Turn Me Off

-Arrogance/Condescending
-Bad Hygiene/Breath
-Constantly Checking His Phone/Texting
-Thinks My Eyes Are On My Chest
-Too Serious, No Sense Of Humor
-Talks About His Religious And/Or Political Beliefs and is judgmental of yours
-Really Dumb (I Am Not Looking For Einstein, But Must Be Able To Hold An Intelligent Conversation)
-Arrogance ( I Know I Already Said This, But It Is Very Big For Me)
-Boring
-Smoker
-Constantly checking out other girls/guys
-Crude/Rude

Guest
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 4:56:09 AM

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1) Lack of respect for others

2) Rudeness

3) No since of humour

4) Arrogance

xxericaxx
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 5:32:09 AM

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wheezy breath
xxericaxx
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wheezy breath
jddeloa67
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 6:20:53 AM

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Smoking
smelly people
bad breath
skinny People and I mean stick people skinny
CellarDoor
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 9:12:01 AM

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Some of the biggest turn-offs:

- He talks about how he used to bring his ex to this bar all the time
- He's a health freak. Health conscious is one thing, but I can't handle guys that over analyze every aspect of their eating and workout regime. It's irritating!
- He's ignorant or close minded
- He stinks! (bad breath/has B.O.)
- dirty fingernails (especially if he doesn't work with his hands for a living!)
- He thinks he's hot shit!
- He checks out the waitress/other women in front of me (in an openly obvious fashion)
- doesn't make eye contact
- constantly checking his phone (so irritating!!!!)
- bragging/arrogance

shadowcat
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 9:58:39 AM

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sometimes its good to know you will never see him again! love him and leave him if thats what you want.
lafayettemister
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 9:59:07 AM

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I've noticed checking his phone on many lists here. It's been a while since I've been in the dating scene so I guess that never occured to me. Is this something that happens alot? Apparantly so. At what point is phone checking TOO much? Should he leave it alone until the date is over? Or is checking once or twice during hte night ok? Personally, I'd have mine on silent and wouldn't bother with it until much later.





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Kimasa
Posted: Friday, April 29, 2011 10:04:33 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:
These Are Some Things That Turn Me Off

-Arrogance
-Bad Hygiene
-Constantly Checking His Phone
-Thinks My Eyes Are On My Chest
-Too Serious, No Sense Of Humor
-Talks About His Religious And/Or Political Beliefs
-Really Dumb (I Am Not Looking For Einstein, But Must Be Able To Hold An Intelligent Conversation)
-Arrogance ( I Know I Already Said This, But It Is Very Big For Me)
-Boring
-Smoker, Although I May Be Able To Tolerate That If Everything Else Was Great!

These Would Also Go For A Woman Too




I agree with all of that except the eyes on the chest bit, my chest doesn't get that much attention but when wearing short skirts some men think my eyes are about 6 inches above the knees

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Guest
Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 1:41:12 AM

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Things that go "bump" with a date:

Over-the-top vanity/constantly making sure that everything's still as she last saw it in a mirror
Smokers/bad breath/BO
Unkempt hands/feet
Tatty/unflattering underwear (if I ever got that far)
Dirty hair
Self absorbed
Arrogant or rude to those around her
Lack of humour
Lack of decent conversation
I'm not interested in your last six boyfriends/lovers/husbands
I'm not either interested in what ailments you have (unless it's going to effect me later - LOL)
I HATE women that don't enjoy chivalry - I am old-fashioned in that way and enjoy opening a car door ...allowing women to walk through a door first ...pulling out her chair ...etc ...etc

okay ..with all that in mind; any takers??? - sign3
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