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kochankatulipan
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 2:20:44 AM

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Sex with a friend. Good or bad?
LadySharon
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 3:24:21 PM

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Bringing sex into a friendship is a way to end the friendship. I know that from experience. A big no to that.

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sprite
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 3:26:00 PM

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actually, what started as friendship sex, turned into a relationship for me, culminating in a marriage, so as you can see, there are two sides to this coin. :)

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positivetension
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 4:27:51 PM

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The friends-with-benefits I have are VERY close friends. We know each other extremely well, have a lot of trust, and already know we would never work as couples. I think it's that high level of mutual affection without curiosity that makes it safe to take that step. When we do fool around it's just comforting and playful, with no pressure or expectations.

But I do agree that it can be dangerous to a friendship if you're not careful. It can really complicate things unless everyone involved is cool about it. But when it works out it's a wonderful bond to have.

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rayofsunshine
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 8:28:23 PM

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i love having sex with my friends. as long as no one gets jelous, its awesome. but ya it can be amazing if it turns into a real relationship.

Guest
Posted: Sunday, June 19, 2011 9:14:04 PM

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I've only messed around with one of my friends (I don't think it can really be called sex) and it was really fun. I don't really think it will ever happen again - it just sort of is what it is and we both enjoyed it but we both know that we would never be in a relationship together :)

I think it can be a good thing as long as everyone knows the boundaries/rules/expectations, etc.
WorkAlone
Posted: Monday, June 20, 2011 8:13:07 AM

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If it's casual and can stay that way, great. Just keep expectations out of it. Friends with benefits works if both know the limitations going in.

If you're trying to cross into a relationship, then it's very hard or impossible to go back. Sprite, of course, didn't go back. Congratulations again Rachel!

Have fun!
Buttermelt
Posted: Monday, June 20, 2011 12:53:03 PM

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A limit to Friends With Benefits, Works very well for me !
Orgasmic
Posted: Tuesday, June 28, 2011 11:36:12 PM

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Positively speaking, sex with friend is good, provided they both have good sex, in fact it's very good to have sex with a friend cause you know your friend very well as compared to new people one meets/dates, one of the finest things about making love with a friend is that there's lots of caring, there's openness and this opens new avenues in the relationships, all for good !
Buz
Posted: Friday, August 12, 2011 9:58:59 PM

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Not if you are married are seriously involved with someone else.

Buz
Posted: Friday, August 12, 2011 10:00:27 PM

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Yes if you are rebounding from a broken relationship. Some great friends-with-benefits-sex can be a life saver!!!!

dirtyoleman
Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 3:45:52 PM

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I do fuck my best friend! She just happens to be my wife also.Lwinking
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Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 3:51:02 PM

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There have been a lot of 'relations' between almost all of the members of my friendship group at university. The situation verges on being completely fucked-up; it's a wonder we're all still such good friends.

Luckily, we are able to laugh about it all (although there are still one or two 'no-go' topics).

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Buz
Posted: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 5:15:49 PM

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Well I have experienced 'friends with benefits sex." And it was great, back in college, before I was married. And might I add that my wife and I are super great friends. Damn I have known her since before we could walk or I can even remember...like 25 years and I am 25 years old.

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Friends With Benefits Begins" http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/friends-with-benefits-begins.aspx

Guest
Posted: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 4:09:00 PM

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Friends with benefits can be great. It can also be a recipe for disaster. I've had a lot of fun with it in the past.
carmend
Posted: Friday, August 26, 2011 7:48:42 AM

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it's not bed. my friend cally was found this adultxdating.com site through friend. he was enjoy sex date with her.
Guest
Posted: Friday, August 26, 2011 8:19:10 AM

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dirtyoleman wrote:
I do fuck my best friend! She just happens to be my wife also.Lwinking


I second this.

If you think there is a chance for a good relationship, go for it.

If you are thinking of just something casual then you have to evaluate the risk vs. reward and that's different in every situation.
Knickerbocker7
Posted: Wednesday, September 14, 2011 9:15:21 PM

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rockstar81 wrote:
Friends with benefits can be great. It can also be a recipe for disaster. I've had a lot of fun with it in the past.


I'm with Rockstar on this, it could be great or it could be a disaster. Everything as to be discussed upfront, the emotions, the feelings, and all the terms.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, September 18, 2011 6:21:26 PM

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as long as you two can remain friends and it does not get awkward or start expecting something from the other half then it is good. but it rarely ever happens.
Simply_Susan
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 2:52:06 AM

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I've had it work both ways, usualy it worked out great and didn't mess up the friendship at all. but then with one friend it ruined it.

I was the kid next door's imaginary friend.
MindsEye
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 9:41:54 AM

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I am comfortable around my friends and I'm comfortable with being naked around them, and that's a beautiful thing, sex need not be intercourse it can be just playtime3some
swollen
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 10:03:06 AM

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MindsEye wrote:
I am comfortable around my friends and I'm comfortable with being naked around them, and that's a beautiful thing, sex need not be intercourse it can be just playtime3some


I totally agree, in which case, move over and let me join you all in the hot-tub ! X
Pelicanbill
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 12:33:23 PM

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If you and friend are adult enough for friendship to survive sex, as opposed to an relationship, go for it!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 12:48:03 PM

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I'm happy being naked around my friends, If it helps then go for it, don't let it ruin your friendship though !
redhot363236
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 1:00:18 PM

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It can be a very good thing
I can think of a couple friends whom I have a much more open/trusting relationships with than I what have with my (very jealous/controlling) husband. I would (and have) feel much more comfortable having a sexual encounter with one of them than with someone my husband might find out about
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 1:57:55 PM

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I've never done it, but I don't think that it would probably kill the friendship
budwilliams
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 4:32:28 PM

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I had an MMF encounter with my buddy's GF once and, if anything, it made us closer ...
We could talk about just about anything after that. We'd seen each other naked, what else did we have to hide?
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 7:00:53 PM

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sex with friends is very good. as long as both parties know that its just a way to get laid. make sure everyone know that you are just friends who just happen to have sex.
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Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 9:10:15 PM

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Can be good, can be bad. Just depends on the individuals involved.

I've done the friends with benefits thing and it was excellent for a while. I was fine with it but the other person got weird about it. I find people who are into it and seek it out, but aren't necessarily good at sustaining it. But, it's also partially my bad for picking those types.

I've dated someone who seemed to view me as more of a friend than a lover-type (had more to do with her views on relationships) but there was a huge compatibility there. So, I suppose that was technically a friends-with-benefits scenario. Not that we have sex now (she lives on a different continent) but we still keep in contact. I suppose it could happen in the future, but it's nothing I'm counting on.

All that was a roundabout way to say that it depends on the people. I don't think there is a hard-and-fast (pun intended) rule to say whether it will work out or not or if it's a good idea or not. It comes down to the personalities involved.
Emimeni
Posted: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 7:15:14 PM

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kochankatulipan wrote:
Sex with a friend. Good or bad?


Depends on you. Depends on the friend.

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