umm... *blushes* lack of sex, or lack of good sex, well, lack of great sex, actually, would be a relationship killer for me - yes, i AM that shallow. percentage wise, not even sure the number... it's high, tho.

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Bitches in the Basement on Amazon by our own Dancing Doll

Lack of sex is definitely a bad sign in a relationship. I would say at least 80%

Sex is a huge thing for me in a relationship, the intimacy and the connection you gain through having sex is very unique. I would say I am an extremely high percentage! In fact lack of sex lead to a demise of my previous marriage, hey if you aren't having sex with your partner, aren't you "just friends"?

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The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker

Sex in a 'real' relationship is the physical manifestation of the other aspects of the relationship. It can be extremely connective and we've all had 'make-up sex' that restored things after a bad patch, reminding us of the connection we have. Most of us, well most of us beyond a certain age ;), have also had the opposite...sex with a partner that left us flat, indicating it was over. As a percentage, it's hard to judge since it's really indicative of other factors. Without those other factors, the sex falls apart and so does the relationship, so how much is the sex and how much is the other factors and which is the cause and which is the symptom? I, for one, am not so sure

Anyways,

good relationship <--> good sex

bad relationship <--> bad sex

What's location got to do with this?

Unless you're sitting in a mental ward where sexual contact between patients is not allowed, or you're jammed into the penitentiary where it's definitely frowned upon and generally not desired anyway.

I guess you could be stuck in some shithole and not want to choose a sexual partner from among the local population within a 100 kilometer radius of your home base.

I think it has more to do with timing, as do many things. The older I've grown, the less emphasis I have placed on absolutely needing a female partner who also wants or needs sexual contact at the drop of a hat.

I'd still like to be with a woman who is open to the idea of intimacy which may well include some degree of sexual intercourse or oral give & take. It's not 100% the most important aspect for me anymore. The fact that for a long period of time in my life, this was the factor which was of the highest priority, might explain why...at 50 some odd years of age...I have never married, nor been with a partner for longer than six years.

No regrets allowed.

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The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald

I think he meant that lush was the location and everyone here gets turned on by a gentle breeze so of course we're all gonna say sex is really important. I THINK thats what he meant anyway...

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Yeihhh!!! see i needed another blonde to understand what i was talking about!!! thanks DD for translating my messy mind to human words! *kisses*

I can fully imagine having a sexless relationship, if I had to, as long as there were other kinds of closeness. However, in the long run I want children, so we would at least need reproductive sex.

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I like this post very much. Ms. Hollywood has in a simple paragraph illustrated what it is that we all want from a one-on-one relationship....

Yes, of course, sex is important, (speaking for myself only, I'm a highly sexed individual and I've surprised partners with my appetite, not always, in truth, to their pleasure...) but it really is the intimacy that one craves.... The simple joy in watching a lover enjoy a meal that you've cooked for her; the stupid pleasure, (so much more yours than hers) as you surprise her with an unexpected gift; the beautiful moment when a tender goodnight caress becomes something a little steamier and more involving...

I read WMM's comments earlier and as usual I was both amused and connecting.... I'm in middle age now and still as horny as ever I was but with a certain relaxedness that in truth gives a beautiful graciousness to the whole 'partner' lark... I don't tend to expect sex on a first date anymore, for example... (I most certainly would have in my youth...) and yet that occasionally happens, and always to the surprise and delight of both participants...

I no longer do one-night-stands, or hardly ever at least, I really AM a bit too old for that...

I was out recently with an ex- date, (we just had lunch) who currently lives with another guy and she was bemoaning the fact that his libido isn't quite what she's used to... "I mean," she said, "You used to RUN home from work to fuck me....." (And indeed I did...)

But of course although the sex was incredible and we are still friends the sex ALONE wasn't enough to keep us together..... (And in the way that people on this site will understand I still think about that girl even now.....)

I think sex really is all-important..... Certainly for me... Good sex cements good relationships... But the difficulty of finding a great relationship while enjoying great sex?????

Well I haven't quite figured that one out yet......

xx SF

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"I would do anything for love, including the thing Meatloaf won't do... (In fact, I sometimes insist upon it...)"xx SF

Sex I can do without, still want it but can abstain from for long periods of time. It's intimacy that I can't seem to do without.
Sex 20%
Intimacy 95%

Never had a relationship so I guess 0% atm lol