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Dancing_Doll
Posted: Wednesday, April 20, 2011 1:04:11 PM

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overmykneenow wrote:
MMonroe wrote:
WorkAlone wrote:
They actually said birth control is screwing all this up since women will often pick a life without really ovulating so when they stop taking bc pills, they discover a primal need for a guy that's the total opposite of their husband. They also said, basically, that it's a bad time in history for "manly men" since most women don't ovulate and so don't want them. Any of the women want to comment on that? lol.


Interesting theory but my pill doesnt stop me wanting an alpha male


The pill doesn't stop you ovulating, it stops the egg attaching itself to the womb. That theory seems spurious at best.


Actually, that's wrong. The pill stops you from ovulating by tricking the body into thinking it's already pregnant. The secondary effect is affecting the lining of the uterus to prevent implantation if hormones, non-compliance or something else were to go awry. The primary effect is to stop ovulation.

Here's one of the many info sources that will back that one up.
http://www.womhealth.org.au/healthjourney/pill_myths_misconceptions.htm


lensman
Posted: Wednesday, April 20, 2011 1:50:11 PM

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MindsEye wrote:
swollen wrote:
Men cheat for the same reason as women - excitement and danger.


Agree with the first part swollen, but think it has more to do with the personal need to feel desired, an ego refill if you will, cumming and growing at the same time!


I agree with both of you!
shadowcat
Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 5:40:23 AM

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i'm not sure i can answer why men cheat, but i can tell you why i did.

No lame cliched excuses.
i cheated because i could. I love my partner but we have been together for 10 years and 2 children. He will not marry me as he doesn't feel it is important. This makes me feel unsexy and overlooked. When i go out i feel that i need to flirt. The flirting makes me feel sexy and if he wants more then even better. The sex is just that, sex to make me feel sexy. I could never have an affair.
Hope this helps more people be honest and tell you the truth
lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 7:22:54 AM

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Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.





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shadowcat
Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 8:11:01 AM

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lafayettemister wrote:
Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.


I agree, that it what i was trying to say but you are much better with words. its as if you read my mind and translated!
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Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 8:11:57 AM

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Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 9:08:11 AM

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lafayettemister wrote:
Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.


So its like when you feel sorry about yourself and people go shopping or eat a tub of icecream to feel better for a little bit, cheating is also like that. When guys feel not appreciated or desired, they go dip their dick into something new to get that little rush of ego to feel good again. And then the ones who are really insecure end depressed that they aren't attractive cheat a lot. Hmmmm..... interesting! So cheating = ego/insecurity!
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Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 10:13:21 AM

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lafayettemister wrote:
Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.


That works the other way round too, it's not just men.

lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 11:14:24 AM

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Mistress_of_words wrote:
lafayettemister wrote:
Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.


That works the other way round too, it's not just men.


No doubt that's true. By no means did I mean to imply that only women neglect their mates. Men are just as bad.





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Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 21, 2011 7:00:54 PM

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Pfft. Why do chicks cheat?
shadowcat
Posted: Friday, April 22, 2011 1:28:47 AM

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diaperboy01 wrote:
Pfft. Why do chicks cheat?

read my post!
Terrag
Posted: Friday, April 22, 2011 2:26:55 AM

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People have always wanted what they shouldn't have. if someone says don't touch that, most people want to run over and touch it. It its just a human trait, a terrible trait, but a trait of people never the less. I have never cheated, but like everyone I have been tempted. It is just a personal decision within a person whether to cheat or not.
horneyallthetime
Posted: Wednesday, April 27, 2011 1:19:18 PM

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Just because some of us are horneyallthetime!

... and yes I have been involved in a long term 'clandestine' relationship long ago in past. It was exciting and dangerous as was mentioned previously. Sharon was very adventerous and did stuff with me that my long ago ex wife would not participate in... Sharon was also married as well so I guess that made us feel safe about it in a strange kind of way.

These days I fantasize, but I will not cheat on my girlfriend. It would leave me with a very dirty feeling and I would not know how to deal with that feeling very well. Also, I just have no desire to be that hurtful towards her. It would suck.
nastynate69
Posted: Saturday, June 25, 2011 8:35:32 PM

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cokeheadbarbie wrote:
What is the real reason for it?

Is it because all their best mates do it or is it biological or just to know they can get a hot girl or are they just always horny?

What percent of men do you think cheat?


xx B.


The reason why Men cheat are the same reason why Women cheat
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Posted: Sunday, June 26, 2011 8:00:11 PM

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I'd say a better question is, "Why do PEOPLE cheat?"

Underneath it's the same for men and women. Dissatisfaction with the relationship, the "pasture is greener on the other side" mentality, two people who shouldn't be in the relationship to begin with, personality issues, etc.

People are timid most of the time. They'd rather embrace behavior that is destructive to the relationship itself to signal the end of the relationship than talk about it directly (because talking is somehow more "confrontational").
Restored_1966
Posted: Monday, June 27, 2011 10:59:19 AM

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I agree with _mal_. Been there and it is not good.
Also I would like to add a person with a Passive Aggressive behavior would be more likely to cheat in my opinion. Again I have seen this first hand.
BusterHymen
Posted: Monday, June 27, 2011 1:28:21 PM

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There is old and new. No matter the circumstances some men just want to stick their dicks in new places. dontknow
Buz
Posted: Friday, August 12, 2011 9:24:10 PM

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Why do women cheat? I think it is the individual.

I am not a cheater, was accused before and it did not go well but I didn't.

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Notenough
Posted: Friday, August 12, 2011 10:03:31 PM

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Men and women cheat for all reasons. Some will say they were neglected or they liked the excitement. My husband cheated and had no excuses. I love sex and I carried his meals to him. Treated him good. If I had the answer I would tell you. It took me a while to figure out I done nothing wrong. I was a virgin when we had sex together. He had it all and gave it up for a woman that took him for money. Now he has nothing.
Makavelli
Posted: Friday, October 14, 2011 8:50:08 PM

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Men that cheat are not ready to have commitments and their relationship is lacking excitement.
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Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 7:13:30 PM

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nastynate69 wrote:


The reason why Men cheat are the same reason why Women cheat

That is very much true
Dudealicious
Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 8:43:17 PM

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menarealwaysignorged wrote:

That is very much true


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Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 9:01:31 PM

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Opportunity, temporary or permanent lack of ethics and loyalty, impaired reasoning, opportunity, low moral fiber, wait, did I mention opportunity?
HappyEndings
Posted: Wednesday, August 01, 2012 3:24:53 AM

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I may not be very popular saying this but most men I know that cheat are good looking and sexy and keep their body in great shape along with great grooming.

Men that don't cheat are usually ugly, fat, unclean, etc...

My conclusion? If they have the opportunity and are desired by women they cheat... It's easy to say you don't and wouldn't cheat if you don't have women hitting on you all the time.

I'm not talking about decisions or morals. I'm talking about opportunity and temptation. If you have the temptation and opportunity you'll probably cheat or you're either very afraid of getting caught or truly a saint and male saints are as rare as hen's teeth. LOL

Women, on the other hand, have the opportunity all the time because most of the men around them would jump at the chance if they thought they had a chance and even if they're fat and/or ugly it's a pretty open field for them to get all the sex they could want almost any time they want.

I think I can sum up the frustration of the average horny American male with one picture... It's quite to the point and too painfully true (to us) to be funny....




Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, August 01, 2012 5:43:38 AM

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Dudealicious wrote:


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Ben_C
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 11:37:28 AM

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cokeheadbarbie wrote:
What is the real reason for it?

Is it because all their best mates do it or is it biological or just to know they can get a hot girl or are they just always horny?

What percent of men do you think cheat?


xx B.


Same reasons women do, it's says more about the person than the gender.
keoloke
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 12:52:23 PM

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What's the definition of cheating?

You mean when a man insert his penis inside another woman's vagina?


There was once a person who was loosing hairs every day for years.. till the person remained with one hair.
Every day this person would fix that only hair in a different way. Nice, a different hairdo' every day.

One day the person woke up and found that only hair on the pillow.

The person went to the mirror and screamed, oh my God I'm bold.

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Guest
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 2:28:00 PM

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I personally know woman who have cheated on their boyfriend/husband. So, it works both ways. Why do people cheat, could be to expand their sexual horizons. Is it really cheating if they never intend on leaving their significant other? Is it just another form of cardiovascular exercise with a different partner?
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 2:28:35 PM

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Kimasa wrote:
I think that...

Men cheat because their sex life doesn't suit their needs.

Women cheat because their love life doesn't suit their needs


Yes, that is my observation also.
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Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 2:43:40 PM

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I don't cheat. If you knew what my sex life was like, you would swear that the reason I don't cheat is because I'm too stupid to seek satisfaction elsewhere. I took my vows seriously. Maybe that's the same thing.

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