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Squirthero
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 5:37:30 AM

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Yep....


Squirt is in the eye of the beholder
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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 7:33:11 AM

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yea :(
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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 9:38:48 AM

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yeah i fell for this girl when i was 17 and i was really close to her and then my parents died. so i was spending a lot of time with my sisters and brothers and then when i saw her again she'd started to date my friend. so by then i was 18 and had decided to take 2 gap years travelling all around the world with my best friend. the night before i left i thought about it and then i got really pissed off at her and i'd already had quite a lot to drink so i went round her house and i yelled at her that it should have been me she chose. When i got back i forgot about her and was living in London by then. and the last time i saw her was at her and my friends wedding so i wish i'd told her in a better way but that's the way life goes.
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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 10:17:40 AM

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yes

the married man is not the ideal person to fall in love with

makes for a decidedly messy ending
shima21
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 4:01:15 PM

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yes i have i am still inlove with her now and i am always going to be but she has a high sex life that everyone wants her it hurt so much that i am not able to have her in my life its got to the point that i cry when i no she with someone else i care about her to much i am lost without her and i dont no how to stop this feeling i have
shima21
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 4:07:32 PM

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is it better to fall in love with that one person or spend your life going from relationship to relationship trying to find someone who make you as happy
Frank_Lee
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 7:36:52 PM

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Ok, I really don't mean to sound dense, and I feel you all more than you know, but what's the point of falling in love with someone you can actually have? Honest question. Are we supposed to believe we even have any control over who we fall in love with? A life without heartbreak would be a horrible crime.

Shima, I feel you especially. Hang in there. That feeling inside you is a force of nature, and if you allow it, it can make you stronger. Just take a walk down the street and look around at the zombies who never had such good fortune to feel that alive. I know how much it hurts. Trust me on that. In the long run, it'll either work or it won't, and the next time you meet someone, you're gonna have all that power of love in you enough to her up like a city.





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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 7:42:41 PM

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I have lost love but not love that wasn't mine and it hurt. Sorry for your pain.

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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 8:18:48 PM

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FrankLee090 wrote:
Ok, I really don't mean to sound dense, and I feel you all more than you know, but what's the point of falling in love with someone you can actually have? Honest question. Are we supposed to believe we even have any control over who we fall in love with? A life without heartbreak would be a horrible crime.


sometimes you dont even know it happened until it slaps you in the face and realize that you arent sure how you can possibly live without the other. and then of course it dissolves or blows up or whatever and you spend 7 straight months and counting crying your eyes out.
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Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 10:03:21 PM

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yeah:( but i still have hope anyway, I try to be optimistic about things:)
Frank_Lee
Posted: Friday, July 15, 2011 10:25:48 PM

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LittleMissBitch wrote:
FrankLee090 wrote:
Ok, I really don't mean to sound dense, and I feel you all more than you know, but what's the point of falling in love with someone you can actually have? Honest question. Are we supposed to believe we even have any control over who we fall in love with? A life without heartbreak would be a horrible crime.


sometimes you dont even know it happened until it slaps you in the face and realize that you arent sure how you can possibly live without the other. and then of course it dissolves or blows up or whatever and you spend 7 straight months and counting crying your eyes out.


Did this person have any idea someone loved them that much?

Yeah, sometimes you don't even know it happened. And sometimes it feels like there are more reasons to stay apart than together. I hope you got something good back from all those tears.



shima21
Posted: Saturday, July 16, 2011 4:58:58 PM

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[/quote]Yeah, sometimes you don't even know it happened. And sometimes it feels like there are more reasons to stay apart than together. I hope you got something good back from all those tears.[/quote]

how many time can you cry tho to your give up of ur love, life and dreams
Frank_Lee
Posted: Saturday, July 16, 2011 8:48:19 PM

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shima21 wrote:


Yeah, sometimes you don't even know it happened. And sometimes it feels like there are more reasons to stay apart than together. I hope you got something good back from all those tears.[/quote]

how many time can you cry tho to your give up of ur love, life and dreams [/quote]

I feel sorry for men who don't know how to cry. I hope you don't mind if I venture a guess just from the things you've said here, but you sound like one of the very rare and very lucky ones to have a huge capacity for loving someone. Some people just have all that simmering in them and need to pour it over the right man or woman. Cry your ass off. It's one of the ways your soul has of healing itself. And whatever you're feeling now, however much it hurts, it doesn't change the fact that the future is immense and unpredictable. The one you love may one day get the point before it's too late, but there's someone out there waiting, needing exactly what it is you have to give. Know that what you have to give whoever he or she is is better than anything. And they're going to be totally astonished when they find you.

I used to think love was a big joke. Just something invented by corporations like Disney so they could profit selling fairy tales. The truth was I just didn't want anyone to notice how badly I wanted it.

Here's something that's even worse, loving someone you can't have, knowing they love you back just as much and just as hopelessly.

stay strong and keep it alive



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Posted: Saturday, July 16, 2011 9:27:29 PM

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yes, and it leaves u one day “without saying good-bye"...u learn how to live without her, as such love brings only pain, suffering,
and loss
shima21
Posted: Sunday, July 17, 2011 1:36:28 AM

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FrankLee090 wrote:
shima21 wrote:


Yeah, sometimes you don't even know it happened. And sometimes it feels like there are more reasons to stay apart than together. I hope you got something good back from all those tears.


how many time can you cry tho to your give up of ur love, life and dreams [/quote]

I feel sorry for men who don't know how to cry. I hope you don't mind if I venture a guess just from the things you've said here, but you sound like one of the very rare and very lucky ones to have a huge capacity for loving someone. Some people just have all that simmering in them and need to pour it over the right man or woman. Cry your ass off. It's one of the ways your soul has of healing itself. And whatever you're feeling now, however much it hurts, it doesn't change the fact that the future is immense and unpredictable. The one you love may one day get the point before it's too late, but there's someone out there waiting, needing exactly what it is you have to give. Know that what you have to give whoever he or she is is better than anything. And they're going to be totally astonished when they find you.

I used to think love was a big joke. Just something invented by corporations like Disney so they could profit selling fairy tales. The truth was I just didn't want anyone to notice how badly I wanted it.

Here's something that's even worse, loving someone you can't have, knowing they love you back just as much and just as hopelessly.

stay strong and keep it alive[/quote]

i hear ya man we try not to fall in love but you spend such a long time with someone just as friends then one day its hits you that you always thinking about her always careing about her and then you relise you love her but when u tell her your left heard broken and crying cause she with someone or you know she never have the feeling back then your soul left hurt and broken wondering will it ever be the way you want it but yet even tho your hurt you never give up hope that one day your be together and happy even if it mean waiting a life time
shima21
Posted: Sunday, July 17, 2011 1:36:40 AM

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i hear ya man we try not to fall in love but you spend such a long time with someone just as friends then one day its hits you that you always thinking about her always careing about her and then you relise you love her but when u tell her your left heard broken and crying cause she with someone or you know she never have the feeling back then your soul left hurt and broken wondering will it ever be the way you want it but yet even tho your hurt you never give up hope that one day your be together and happy even if it mean waiting a life time
Nikki703
Posted: Sunday, July 17, 2011 4:10:06 PM

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In Love, Not Really. In Lust...........Oh Yes!!!
sheepdogls
Posted: Monday, July 18, 2011 10:24:57 PM

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Fell in love with a childhood friend when I was young, found her about 10 years later on ICQ (she lives 1500 miles away). Talked to her on the phone everyday until I ran out of minutes and then talked more, that went on for about a year. Kind of drifted apart over the years. See her every couple years and it pains me deeply to never tell her how I really feel. She just graduated from Law school and all I can say about myself is that I didn't get my engineering degree or finishing my nursing degree and I'm still stuck 1500 miles away running the family business. Spoke with the one I can't have last night and all the feelings hit me like a hurricane. Tonight, I just got off the phone with my girlfriend and told her "babe, I love you"....it felt like I was lying....sucks....

Thought I fell out of it, only to realize that I may have only suppressed those feelings.....
Frank_Lee
Posted: Tuesday, July 19, 2011 10:07:38 AM

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Just a suggestion for you, sheepdog...she already knows how you feel. Women are waaaaaaaay smarter than we are.



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Posted: Wednesday, July 20, 2011 12:27:29 AM

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Yes...and not to sound cliche but I think everyone I know can say the same. The tired line of "You can't help who you fall in love wit" is too true on many levels.There are times I have wondered if it was really love or simply the idea of love that i felt, but either way was a lesson I needed to learn to cope with life in my future.

I was the kid next door's imaginary friend.
sheepdogls
Posted: Wednesday, July 20, 2011 12:56:20 AM

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FrankLee090 wrote:
Just a suggestion for you, sheepdog...she already knows how you feel. Women are waaaaaaaay smarter than we are.


Yeah I'm sure she does...crybaby
Frank_Lee
Posted: Wednesday, July 20, 2011 1:25:05 PM

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Ok, sheepdog...you work in a family business? Don't take this the wrong way, ok? But take a fuckin vacation! Get on a goddam airplane and go see this woman and kiss her feet and beg her to forgive you for being as big an idiot as your pal, frank. I've had about 25 more years than you to fuck up my life, and I've really practiced hard so I could hone that to a fine art. Trust me, you don't want to get to be my age and have to wonder "what if". Take it from a guy who chose about an hour ago to rip out his own heart and toss it into rush hour traffic, we're the only ones who can break our own hearts. This ache in my right now feels fuckin impossible, but it's telling me I'm alive. It's telling me how stupid I am, too, but that part I'm used to. I knew that already. But it's telling me I wasn't wasting my time. I know that probably doesn't make much sense to anyone else..but...the older and supposedly wiser I get, the more I'm beginning to think it's the fairy tales that are true and real life is the bullshit.

Sorry for the rant. Just sayin', ya know?



sheepdogls
Posted: Wednesday, July 20, 2011 11:26:05 PM

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yeah I think I know what you mean. I guess what I really fear is, what if she rejects me.....I don't know if I could handle that from her....then again, it'll eat at me every day that I don't find out i guess
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 3:06:56 PM

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yes..you learn what the love pain is
Frank_Lee
Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 10:21:58 PM

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KingOfLove wrote:
yes..you learn what the love pain is


Love pain? Isn't that what you're holding?



Frank_Lee
Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 10:23:48 PM

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Simply_Susan wrote:
Yes...and not to sound cliche but I think everyone I know can say the same. The tired line of "You can't help who you fall in love wit" is too true on many levels.There are times I have wondered if it was really love or simply the idea of love that i felt, but either way was a lesson I needed to learn to cope with life in my future.


Cope? I thought that was a soft drink?



Guest
Posted: Friday, July 29, 2011 3:04:59 PM

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Yes i have, and I honestly still haven't gotten over it.
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Posted: Friday, July 29, 2011 3:18:50 PM

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Yes, twice. Both times just had to suck it up. Downside was that going forward from the second I became more cautious than I needed to be and lost out on something that I should have held on to.

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mare24
Posted: Saturday, August 13, 2011 12:58:47 AM

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FrankLee090 wrote:
Ok, I really don't mean to sound dense, and I feel you all more than you know, but what's the point of falling in love with someone you can actually have? Honest question. Are we supposed to believe we even have any control over who we fall in love with? A life without heartbreak would be a horrible crime.


I completely agree. You cannot control who comes in/out of your life, when they do, or who you fall in love with. I am in love with 2 men right now, one I can have (the boyfriend) and one who I have accepted I can have only on certain terms (the Master). The first is the one who will break my heart one day because he is my relationship, the latter is the one who has already broken me in more ways than one. I wouldn't trade loving these men, or any other person who has been or will be in my life, for anything. It gives life meaning and shapes who we are.
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Yes I have. It was a long time ago. He got married and so did I. To other people. I still love him very much but would never do anything to hurt his family.
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