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I am currently writing a love story about a past lover, eventhough I have recently begun seeing someone else.
My question is, how do you feel about writing about past lovers when you are in a relationship with someone? and do you feel like you can share those stories with your current partners?
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Honestly I've never felt the urge to write about my one other past lover, so it's hard for me to relate. That's less a matter or guilt or awkward feelings because of my current partner and more a matter of not having anything good to write about, lol. The closest I've come is writing a fantasy about a real life friend of mine and I did share that with my partner. Ironically, he was more comfortable with that than reading stories I had written based on chat sessions with friends on Lush. Hypothetically, I think it would depend on how long I'd been seeing the new person, how relaxed and confident I felt about the relationship and how open minded my new lover was. Nothing would ever stop me writing what I wanted to write, but if I thought it would hurt them or make them feel uncomfortable I would hold off on showing them until a more appropriate moment. I think I would show them eventually.
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rxtales wrote:
My question is, how do you feel about writing about past lovers when you are in a relationship with someone? and do you feel like you can share those stories with your current partners?
I would tend to avoid writing about past lovers if I was in a relationship with someone...I would think it strange if someone I was with was writing about past lovers...unless, of course, it was in a real negative way... But, I doubt that's what you have in mind...
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Does that mean it would be bad to be writing about a future lover while in a present relationship??
Surely that's ok, right?? Right??
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TheScottishGal wrote:Does that mean it would be bad to be writing about a future lover while in a present relationship??
Surely that's ok, right?? Right??
;) You writing fantasies about me again? I don't mind, really...go right ahead... 
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When I write stories, I might use past experiences which yes means with a past lover. I turn it into a fantasy and change the person I was with into a new character. Name, description, age etc.
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I'm thinking with tarnished memories I'll stick to the present and forget the past.
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DirtyMartini wrote:TheScottishGal wrote:Does that mean it would be bad to be writing about a future lover while in a present relationship??
Surely that's ok, right?? Right??
;) You writing fantasies about me again? I don't mind, really...go right ahead... Dammit Al - you got me... (stomps off to change the names... AGAIN)
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I'm in a loving relationship now, but have posted a few stories about past lovers. I see it (and my girlfriend agrees) as being real...and there's nothing wrong with being honest/real. 
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Sharing ANYTHING about past lovers, relationships, etc. is a fast way to end the current one; regardless of how long you've been together. Bringing up someone, or something, from the past means you are thinking about it; don't go there, unless you'd rather live in the past; alone.
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I see no problem writing about a past lover.
But as mistress-of-words says to share it with the new lover depends on how long you have been going with him/her.
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