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I had a discussion with a friend about the subject of Intimacy...I actually mentioned that if she posts this topic before I do, I will tickle her till she wets herself....Now Tickling, just as Cuddling or Sharing a Steamy Tub with a glass of Chardonnay by candle light is some forms of Intimacy. Do you regard Sex as Intimacy or is Intimacy in your perception different, part of, or beyond Sex?
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The degree of intimacy depends on the sex, but I think being intimate with someone is what makes sex so good, being so close to another person that you feel connected mentally and physically, to a certain extent you sort of become one from two halfs. Its also an amazing feeling so give so much pleasure to somebody else, while they give you all that pleasure in return, its one of lifes greatest things. Most people wouldnt trade true intimacy they have with one person, for anything else, because its kind of irriplaceable.
The other different "perception", i would say could be exhibitionism, or porn. Where the people involved are doing it for the benefit of others as well as themselves. I think thats completely different, and shouldnt be compared to having sex with just that one special person. People exhibit themselves because they exciting other people who are watching, so the pleasure in this case is very different, I guess this can be a great thrill too, but ive never tried it myself. There is a big difference between being intimate with one person, for them only, and being intimate in front of other people, both have positive points, but the 1 on 1 intimacy people get together is more special, with more emotion and true feeling involved in my opinion, and like i say, shouldnt be compared to exhibiting in front of people.
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I'm not really sure how to word my response to this.. For the most part, I think that intimacy goes beyond sex. You can have sex with anyone but you can't get intimate with some random person you met at a club. Though, if you're in a relationship with someone, sex is a lot of the intimacy because it actually means something and you and your partner care for each other. I'm not really sure if that makes sense... But yeah.
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sex is just a connection between genital parts...intimacy is a connection between each cells of partners
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I have had sex and I have had intimate sex. They are definitely different. I currently engage in intimate sex. I absolutely believe intimacy goes well beyond sex and is expressed in many other ways.
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I would have to say that sex, for me, at times is just a connection of body parts. I believe kingoflove is right about that, but intimacy goes way beyond the physical. Intimacy is a sharing of the mind and soul. Soulful sex, when everything you have within you is shared during the physical act is intimate sex/lovemaking.
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Intimacy is at a deeper level than just raw sex. Intimacy does not even have to be sex at all. It is an expression that is much more emotional.
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Intimacy is rocket fuel for Fucking.
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To be honest, there can be sex without intimacy. But, I'm at the point where I say why bother. It's empty--mere aerobics. I'm worth more than that. I enjoy having my body not just appreciated but loved. And, there is a big difference in the experience when some one is loving you. It doesn't necessarilly mean you are in love. The intamacy and closeness is on such a higher plain that it could go in that direction if you chose. I'm a sapiosexual so it just takes more than the physical to even catch my attention. Wasn't always that way, I'll admit. I can still get that tingle in my clit when I see a beautiful man. My definition of beautiful has changed though. Doesn't mean I'll fuck him.
I have to add however, sex is so much better now too.
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Sex is when you fuck someone in the ass. Intimacy is when you give them a reach around too. Love is when you get up and make breakfast before they wake up in the morning.
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Sex and intimacy are to different things, when they are combined is the most marvelous thing. You can have sex without intimacy yes, but in my opinion whats the point to it? personally I don't get off on cheap thrills. Being bare to someone like that is more vulnerable then anything else.I am giving my mind,body and soul to this person trusting they wont abuse it. I rather connect to with the person then giving myself away to people that wont cherish it.
Intimacy obviously goes beyond sex, its not just about sex either, its about the love, the closeness and the sheer enjoyment of being with the one you adore. Intimacy can be in anything, only if the people connect. Its special and it shouldn't be abused.
In my opinion I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't connect with, someone I didn't love.
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you can be intimate with someone and never get past kissing, its the knowing of one another the shareing of oneself that makes intimacy
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Naughtygrl73 wrote:you can be intimate with someone and never get past kissing, its the knowing of one another the shareing of oneself that makes intimacy Goodness Gracious Mecious...I Love your statement...!!! Please tell me more right here on this page or you can PM it to me....Please!!
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kittendancer4 wrote:Sex and intimacy are to different things, when they are combined is the most marvelous thing. You can have sex without intimacy yes, but in my opinion whats the point to it? personally I don't get off on cheap thrills. Being bare to someone like that is more vulnerable then anything else.I am giving my mind,body and soul to this person trusting they wont abuse it. I rather connect to with the person then giving myself away to people that wont cherish it.
Intimacy obviously goes beyond sex, its not just about sex either, its about the love, the closeness and the sheer enjoyment of being with the one you adore. Intimacy can be in anything, only if the people connect. Its special and it shouldn't be abused.
In my opinion I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't connect with, someone I didn't love. Thanks Kittendancer4, I appreciate your view!!
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avrgblkgrl wrote:To be honest, there can be sex without intimacy. But, I'm at the point where I say why bother. It's empty--mere aerobics. I'm worth more than that. I enjoy having my body not just appreciated but loved. And, there is a big difference in the experience when some one is loving you. It doesn't necessarilly mean you are in love. The intamacy and closeness is on such a higher plain that it could go in that direction if you chose. I'm a sapiosexual so it just takes more than the physical to even catch my attention. Wasn't always that way, I'll admit. I can still get that tingle in my clit when I see a beautiful man. My definition of beautiful has changed though. Doesn't mean I'll fuck him.
I have to add however, sex is so much better now too. Thanks my Baby, sometime soon you need to explain the term "sapiosexual" to me, my dictionary is a school issue and does not have such "advanced" words ;)
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Sex VS Intimacy : Sex - Well we all know that in our lives we all have had some type of a one night stand or hook-up that happen at the spur of the moment for its just that sex!!! Yes it was good at that place and time and left you with 30 second smile on you, but what about "Intimacy" - Now this is what makes it all worth the emotional roller coaster that drives you nuts about that one person that can rock your world and leave you smiling for years afterwards LOL. this is when you make that connection that you crave that persons look at you that only they can give you, there touch as they hug you and the breath you feel on your neck in that hug, when you wake in the morning and that person is cuddled next you and your at peace in your soul just cause they are there with you. To intimacy while make love (sex) is just a whole other level that can curl your toes and make you scream!!!! Oh yea that is the gold sent from above... So I will leave with this I’ll take Intimacy every time and keep smiling the rest of my life about her. ; )
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I feel that sex in itself is a very intimate thing to do you can't compare it to shaking hands as your genitals are a very intimate part and not something you wander about touching people with indiscriminately. I don't have any moral axe to grind or anything but when you have sex with someone you are sharing a very intimate moment albeit one of common humanity and desire. So I feel although there may be degrees of intimacy you can't just say "it's only sex" it will always have an element of intimacy unless you stick your sex organ in a hole in the wall or something and that's really sad.
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Intimacy by definition refers to closeness...an intimate gathering or an intimate venue are cozy and personal, but not necessarily sexual. Sexual intimacy, to me, is all about the eyes. There is nothing more intimate than getting lost in your lover's eyes while sharing a passionate kiss or while caressing their body in some way. And I wholeheartedly agree with everyone who has already posted that intimacy makes sex so much better!
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Sex is sharing my body.
Communication is sharing my mind.
Intimacy is sharing my soul.
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I have had sex with a man, been made love to, and simply fucked. They're all different with different levels of intimacy and I really think all those levels vary from person to person.
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cathyrohan wrote:I have had sex with a man, been made love to, and simply fucked. They're all different with different levels of intimacy and I really think all those levels vary from person to person. And I know I would enjoy seeing you in every situation described above and a few in my dirty mind as well! Kisses! Steph
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1Zratedgal wrote:
And I know I would enjoy seeing you in every situation described above and a few in my dirty mind as well!
Kisses!
Steph
Honey, you're more than welcome to come and see me in each one of those situations!!!
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intimacy has the power to be wonderful or painful... sex is the momentary feel good... intimacy can make it something better and deeper......something that leaves a mark on the person that you are.
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Intimacy is a private moment between people, usually only two, and would also be part of the experience when making love. Sex can happen in a group, in public or wherever, and does not require any emotional contact. So, no you can not be intimate with sheep.
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I have never experienced sex without intimacy. But I have experienced intimacy without sex.
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Intimacy is all about sharing yourself, with or without sex.
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Mobius_NR wrote:Intimacy is all about sharing yourself, with or without sex. Exactly.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
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