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Posted: Thursday, December 15, 2011 3:51:18 PM

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Oh dear! Is there something wrong with me? I can honestly say I've never fallen in love with anyone I couldn't have. So saying, I've had more than a few unattainable guys in my time ... but that was for sex ... and I always knew they had a wife or partner to go home to which excluded me in no uncertain fashion.

Personally, I believe one allows themselves to fall in love .. and if that is with the unattainable male/female .. then one only has ones self to blame. The only person I've ever been really in love with is the very attainable guy I'm with now. I must be a walking android if the rest of the comments on this topic are a good cross section of opinion.

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Posted: Thursday, December 15, 2011 5:54:04 PM

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No, I mean ever, through the years and such.
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Posted: Thursday, December 15, 2011 7:02:32 PM

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Yes. Eventually had to get over it - it was hard!
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Posted: Thursday, December 15, 2011 7:22:20 PM

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I'm in love with a woman who I've known for about 4 years now. Started out as friends now we've fallen in love with each other. She's in an open relationship. I'm not. It hurts knowing there's nothing short of divorcing my husband to have her. I love my husband and son to much to do that to them.
Kurios1
Posted: Thursday, December 15, 2011 8:23:12 PM

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We were friends for over a year, really close. The usual friendly flirts, so I thought. She made her move first wanting much more. I was hesitant at first, really thought about it and gave in to her. Fell madly in love with her, she said all the right things, me being the idiot I am fell for it all. She was the first girl I've ever loved & I her. She was too afraid to tell her family about us so I got it worse. 2 years into our relationship decides to break up 1 day before our anniversary. I'm still in love with her. FML
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Posted: Saturday, December 17, 2011 8:28:56 AM

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Unfortunately... yes


“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” Anonymous

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Posted: Saturday, December 17, 2011 9:33:45 AM

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Yes!! Millions of times!!!!!
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Posted: Monday, December 19, 2011 3:56:28 PM

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dirtyoldguy wrote:


Have been there too and I like your answer. The time spent was extatic, loved ever second we had together. I would do it all over again too! My regret is the same, would have loved to be able to look into her eyes and tell her exactly how I felt. Big Hugs
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Posted: Monday, December 19, 2011 3:58:50 PM

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yeh ive been there done that, never regretted our time together, just regret letting him go, Love u babe, still miss u lots xxxxxx
Guest
Posted: Friday, January 06, 2012 1:42:45 PM

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Yes. A time or three and it still hurts.
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 2:44:47 AM

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Yes :(
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 3:46:59 AM

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Yes and I still miss her to this day
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 4:46:02 AM

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yes .. she is always in front of me but still can't with her.. :((
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 5:15:09 AM

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yeah i have and wish circumstances were different, i dont think i will ever forget him..we were soulmates :-(..
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 6:52:57 AM

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Yeah, I didn't realise until she stopped talking to me for a month and a half that I missed her a lot, then after that, when I saw her, I felt my heart do weird things.
I've been there for her when this guy messes her about, but I know things will go wrong after telling her.
I can't face the next three years being the most awkward of my life.

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 8:08:47 AM

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Yes. It was not expected, though. We were from different worlds, wherein just one day, our lives happened to intertwined. He can never be mine, but those were one of the happiest days of my life, simply because I have been free to be me with him as if he sees through me. I no longer need to pretend whenever we were together. But, as whirlwind as it was, it was short lived. The pain that I felt then broke and almost shattered me. I thought I can not surpassed it but simply accepting everything and allowing all of it to happen in gradual stage by stage phases brought me where I am now--moved on...

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 9:35:19 AM

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 9:46:00 AM

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yes, yes i have. I fell in love with a guy i didn't know was married, he said he loved me and then all these problems occured. But I'm over his lying ass now XD



Edit: Scratch that, sadly still not over him.
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 9:55:41 AM

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hahah yep been there... best friends boyfriend not a wise move of mine... xx

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 9:59:43 AM

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Yes I have in the past. Idk if celebs count or if the OP meant an average person but yeah.
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 10:04:35 AM

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Hell yes! (and who hasn't?) Probably an inane question...

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 10:53:25 AM

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Beck wrote:
Yes I have in the past. Idk if celebs count or if the OP meant an average person but yeah.


I found this reply very interesting. Is it really that common for people to "fall in love" with a celebrity? Yes, I know the whole delusional stalker thing, but does the average person actually fall in love with a celebrity?

I have had a crush a time or two (John Stamos or Matt Dillon) on a celebrity, but certainly never thought I was in love with one.
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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 10:58:25 AM

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Oh, I could have him... I just couldn't have him all to myself! sad1

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Posted: Monday, January 16, 2012 7:03:16 AM

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Yes and I miss him and think about him everyday.
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Posted: Friday, January 20, 2012 1:34:22 AM

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yeah, she was the girlfriend of another friend. Well, I knew her long before they started going out, same circle of friends. He was a real prick to her too. Used to tease her about her weight. She was not fat at all, just had a bit of an ass, and a fine ass it was. Thankfully, no one (except maybe my sister who was a very close friend of hers) knew about it. Apparently my sister said something to me about her at home one night and I pinned her against the wall and told her to mind her own business. I dont even remember it happening. My mum told me the story a few years ago. Either I came home pissed one night or I blacked it out of my memory. Bit yeah, I had it bad for her but it was purely a look but dont touch situation. It sucked...

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Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 2:06:06 PM

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When I was younger it happened all the time. But since I've been married, no. There have been a few that I have been very fond of, that if situations were different, it would be easy to fall in love with them.
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Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 5:49:18 PM

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Never been that unlucky as to fall in love with someone who didn't love me back.
Now if you were to ask if I had ever fallen in lust with someone I couldn't have, the answer would be completely different. Have lusted after one or two men
that either didn't feel the same or due to circumstances it was a more look but don't touch scenario.

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Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 7:08:04 PM

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thats actually a current problem im having. been single for about a year now, met with someone i havent seen in years not long ago. brought back all kinds of feelings that i had forgotten about. trouble is, shes unhappily married...

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Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 7:54:39 PM

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yup. And unfortunately, I always believe that will change eventually. Whether that's overconfidence, or naivete, I'm not sure. But I'll always believe "if I could just...she'd see..."
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Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 9:29:32 PM

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Yes and she knows and we talk almost everyday. It's unbelievably hard sometimes too.

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