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I have recently had this LDR relationship( still on-going, but suddenly wondering why tonight!!!) Suddenly certain circumstances on MSN have led me to wonder; would you risk having sex with an ex just because you missed them or was feeling needy.
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Yes, I have, and mine worked out about as well as it possibly could.
I was lucky, and I don't know of my partner/ex can say the same. I can see the serious emotional danger in doing it though.
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No matter how needy I am, I could never go back to having sex with her. No way.
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Hmmm thats a tricky one. Maybe i would but would have to be sure first that things weren't going to get complicated
*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*
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I know I posted this under the wrong thread( me being a woman) , but hearing a man's POV really makes me feel better.
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roccotool wrote:No matter how needy I am, I could never go back to having sex with her. No way. That's cuz I have spoiled you for all other women.... 
~~TechTwo wrongs don't make a right, but three lefts do...
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that is a good sign of a relationship tech. that makes me smile so much knowing that there are such good couples out there. 
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I wouldn't have sex with an ex, I think it would cause too many problems and complicate things. THey are ususally exes for a reason
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I have done this only once and it was about 12 years after he was an ex that we did it.
It actually worked out fine.
Ling
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I slept with an ex BF in college and my then-current BF found out. It was a mess that just wasn't worth one night of great sex.
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HoneyBee000 wrote:that is a good sign of a relationship tech. that makes me smile so much knowing that there are such good couples out there. Thanks! We are so good together. I am a lucky woman.
~~TechTwo wrongs don't make a right, but three lefts do...
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roccotool wrote:No matter how needy I am, I could never go back to having sex with her. No way. Bumps with Rocco....yikes!
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Really depends on the ex. I had one relationship that just didn't work out when we got to the deep emotional stuff, but hanging out, doing stuff and sex was fine. About three months after we broke it off, we bumped into each other and sort of um, became regular for each other with the provision that if either of us met another person that we would quit it immediately. I got another 5 months of steady great sex until I met my next boyfriend. After THAT relationship ended I didn't get the chance to call him because this very sexy artist asked me out...and I've been happily married for nine plus years...
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
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You dumped the artist, too? Poor guy.
Just kidding.
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HoneyBee you have to think about what could happen. If you think everythings gonna go tits up and complicated then dont risk it. If you both jyst want a bit of fun and thats it, then go for it
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I've done this a few times, sometimes it has been just fine and other times a complete disaster!
If you think it's a bad idea, then it is!
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I have and it was tough emotionally for both of us, its so hard to break up and stay friends! I try so hard !
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It was actually the other way around, it was a long distance relationship i was having and the man was still very friendly with his ex partner and as usual my imagination lead me to thinking about this question i posted. I know i would never sleep with an ex, my policy is if its an ex boyfriend it usually is for a good reason.
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Depnds on what ex, but yes there are 2 that I would enjoy having a chance to make love to a few more times.
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I've done it before a few times. It was good sex, but the relationship was no different so it did not proceed. There are a couple of women I have been with that I would never consider a replay romp with even though the sex was excellent. It would bring unnecessary drama into my life.
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lol....I have sex with the ex all of the time! You can't say no to good sex....or at least I can't!
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I can NEVER have sex with my ex-husband after what he did to me! If I did, it would be a trick to cut his balls off!!
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I love your thinking Sexynsweet09 whooooooooo. I used to have great sex with my Husband, but as an Ex NO WAY ah ah i wanna experiance new sexy men in my life from now on 
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Sex with both of my ex husband and ex BF was not that good. So would I risk it now? NO WAY I have a great man and the best sex I ever had. Who needs a ex there must have been a good reason for them becoming a ex. Right? 
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not on a bet
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It's one of those things that CAN work out, but the risks emotionally don't seem to outweigh the benefits of a quick fuck and subduing neediness.
You never know when it can come back to bite you in the ass, and in an unpleasant kind of way. Not the good ass-biting, that's a different story.
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Yeah I agree Maous. The emotional side of sleeping with an ex would complicate things in your head.
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It's bad if you were in love. If it was a fling then why not?
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