Its a B for me. Just a thank you but no, lets people know. Its easy to be nice

I think R.A. Heinlein said it best, in Time Enough For Love:

Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide the lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untraveled, the naive, the unsophisticated deplore these formalities as "empty," "meaningless," or "dishonest," and scorn to use them. No matter how "pure" their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best.

So, yes, please reply. But a simple "thank you, but no thanks" will suffice.

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"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster

If you don't reply to me, I'll have a little bitch to myself about how rude you are. However, I'm likely to concoct some excuse(s) for you like that you're really busy and/or in high demand. Perhaps it's just my nature but if you don't reply then I'll probably forgive you.

If you send me a little note saying, "Not today, thanks," then it's harder for me to invent excuses for you and I'll just be offended.

If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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but as noted, AndyM59, not all guys are like you and those above who said B. I have also had guys respond with nasty little snippets when I have said "sorry, I am not interested". Now I just ignore or delete.

Interesting to see responses.

I do reply to all of my messages, but I am very upfront with EVERYONE that there will be no cybering ever. If they want to say Hi and shoot the breeze, that's fine. I am always set to "away," so people can't send me chat requests, which solves some of the problem. A few people being rude in return is NOT going to change how I behave. Preemptive rudeness doesn't work for me. If they are rude with their reply I either ignore it, block, or reply with a snarky response. Really depends on how combative I feel.

I did have a very charming Lushie PM me a few weeks ago to tell me that he didn't like my profile and would not be contacting me. I sent him a lovely return PM thanking him for contacting me to tell me that he would not be contacting me. He replied that I was "weard" and said something about "pinitration." He's now blocked to prevent his temptation to not contact me.

It all depends on how its written. alot of times i just delete them if im not interested in what is asked said or what ever. most of the time its men who dont read profile first asking to be friend so they get what they deserve, but then i mean to keep it as exclusive as stated in profile. its always good to be helpful to others so im more then willing to answer questions that are relevant. if one is being friendly ill be glad to talk

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nothing beats a luscious kiss from well painted lips ;) mmmmmmmmm...........

no response is the best. If someone doesn't answer back then i know they are not interested.

i try and reply to all messages and i say why if i have declined..but on my profile i have a lil note about what guys i'm interested in, mostly i only get messages from guys who fit my criteria..perhaps if more people put this on there profiles they would not get unwanted messages..just a thought

How would you respond to this if it comes from someone you have never had any contact with, and then it was followed with a friend request?

hey!!! how are you sexy??? HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
have you had sex in these days? with who?
how long is the biggest you have ever tried? and the smallest cock??
do you want to see my cock?
do you like anal sex?
what do you want to know about me?? make me many questions...


Because I get them all the time as I am sure many other women do too.
Not the best way to get me to want to chat with you but at east this one didnt ask for any naked pics, they usually do.

I do try to respond to all of my messages - sometimes that can take a while, as I do get snowed under...

Some will just be a polite refusal, some will really make me laugh and a bit of banter can happen...

For me, either A or B is OK.

When I'm interested in someone to be friend, I usually send an message to her first, letting her know I'm interested and would like to self-introduce first, asking her to take a minute or two to read my profile to decide if we have common interests to be friend or not. In the message I also let her know that I will send out friend request a day later, assuming she has already read my bio and makes her decision by then. At the end of message I tell her that if I do not receive her reply or acceptance of my friend request in a week, I assume she has already read my bio, but decided not to befriend with me and do not want to talk to a stranger. In that case I respect her decision and will not bother her again.

Some of my friends can confirm they got my emails like this, before I send them friend request.

It just feels to me making friends here is like making friends in real life. If I approach a girl in RL, either she does not answer my question or declines me politely, the answer is the same and a decent guy should respect her decision, politely retreat instead of bothering her.

When I get a nice note, even if not interested, I'll send a short note back. But for the rude and/or offensive clots, they simply get blocked. You do not owe some jerk, who feels he can start questioning details of your personal life, a moments time.

i would prefer a small message saying something along the lines of "hi, i read your message and i'm sorry but i am not interested" ... although a no return message means much the same to me and i will always avoid re-messaging that person (unless it's been some time and i forgot i messaged them in the first place! lol)