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spearone
Posted: Sunday, February 12, 2012 2:02:07 PM

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Guest
Posted: Friday, February 17, 2012 6:01:05 PM

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Sorry I am a little late to the party. Pint Drunk lol. Yes I have fallen in love with someone I can't have. She's married. Um we had an affair and that got really messy. Stayed away for a while but kept going back. I still love her and we do flirt some via internet. Its painful but she makes me crazy in a good way.
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Posted: Friday, February 17, 2012 7:49:55 PM

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Everytime I log onto FB she is on and sometimes we talk but when her bf is there we can't. We still talk about what might have been.

Veni, vidi, vici" Julius Caesar 47 BC
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 22, 2012 8:02:40 PM

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Yeah once and It hurts a lot but luckily I've gotten over that person.

There are some feelings That cant be ignored feelings that will always be felt around That person... even though you only want them to be happy even if it's not with you Those feelings will always hurt.

And it would be pointless for me to say "Dont fall in love with a person you cant have" Because you cant help not falling in love.
Naughty_Magician
Posted: Wednesday, February 22, 2012 8:22:59 PM

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vanessahearts wrote:
Yes and It Hurts me everyday every second and every moment She is the perfect Girl But she's in a relationship.... and now i'm even starting to lose her friendship.

There are some feelings That cant be forgotten feelings that will always be Felt around That person... even though you only want them to be happy even if it's not with you Those feelings will always hurt.

It's the worse kind of feeling to see that person love someone and you not being able to have them The moments where you see her talking to the person she loves Those moments will rip you're heart apart and there's nothing you can do about it..

I've tried forgetting The person i love and couldn't it only ended in me Falling in love with her even more. You try to hide you're feelings around the person even if it's obvious that you love her....

But if you dont learn to let go it will only end in you getting hurt by seeing him/her everyday the happiness she's having while you cry knowing that person will never see you more as a friend..

And it would be pointless for me to say "Dont fall in love with a person you cant have" Because you cant help not falling in love.


I feel for you. Hope things get better somehow.

As for the question, no I haven't so far and having read the posts above I'm glad I didn't.

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simplehonesty
Posted: Wednesday, February 22, 2012 9:30:58 PM

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Lifetime of suffering
rushman1uk
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 10:06:42 AM

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Yes, we met online through a mutral friend. We exchanged a few messages online, then telephone numbers so we could talk & text. We met up in May last year & had great sex. We both love each other but we're both married to other people & she has a daughter that has told her she will cut off al ties with her mother if she ever leaves her dad. We're both stuck in loveless marriages, miles apart from each other.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 10:32:28 AM

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Yes :(
simplyjohn
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 11:48:04 AM

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well in the context of Lush .. yes 3 to date !!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 12:00:15 PM

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Nope
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Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 10:06:42 PM

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Fell in love once... I knew he and I could never be because that's just the way it was. He was never interested in me in the first place, so I suppose I set myself up for that fail.
I was deeply infatuated with one other person. We were miles apart and he was in a relationship. We used to talk every day but he said it had to end. I set myself up for that one as well, I suppose. Not intentionally though.
The first one didn't want me and the other one was being kept by another woman, on both occasions I kept my feelings to myself, so maybe that helped stave off some of the pain.
Rejection feels like deeply embedded blade cause it cuts so deep, every twist of it hurts, and the pain never dulls.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 10:21:04 PM

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In general I think that people use the word 'love' too quickly... infatuation, interest, desire, lust - yes these are all things that can hit us like a ton of bricks that can cause the rest of the world to fade into the background during those initial stages of the relationship. Is that "love?"

I just think that real love is a process and you have to get past the novelty of the person in order to find those deeper feelings. But how many relationships do you really get to this level with? Very few.. at least for me.

I don't think that makes me jaded. I just think that I can appreciate the thrill and excitement of infatuation but ultimately I have too much respect for the world 'love' and what it means to attach it to something unless those feelings are really and truly there. Real love is rare, therefore the word means a lot to me.




Nikki703
Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 10:13:59 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
but ultimately I have too much respect for the world 'love' and what it means to attach it to something unless those feelings are really and truly there. Real love is rare, therefore the word means a lot to me.



I feel the same way. I dont use the words Love or Hate lightly.
Guest
Posted: Monday, March 05, 2012 1:10:16 AM

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Yes, but I wouldn't really call it love now, even though it hurt me like a bitch, now when I look back on it, I call it infatuation.
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Posted: Tuesday, March 13, 2012 11:36:54 PM

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*sigh* unfortunately... it sucks out loud =(

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Posted: Saturday, March 24, 2012 6:24:27 AM

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Yes I have. For two years we chatted online or cammed. Always said he loved me. He was in another country then he stopped talking to me. But moved on swore I would never do it again. But ya know what I did and now regretting it all together and sometimes think about giving up the ghost on any type of relationship with me.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 5:44:06 PM

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Yes, once
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Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 6:05:46 PM

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Yes, but never again.
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Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 6:54:48 PM

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I did a long time ago, though he wasn't in the right frame of mind at the time.

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Simone de Beauvoir
buster1959
Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 8:05:19 PM

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Yes sigh :(
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Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 8:17:06 PM

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Unfortunately, Yes crybaby
15 years later, I still can't help but wonder if I should have grabbed the chance when I had it
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 29, 2012 8:20:41 PM

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Oh God Yes!!!! It broke both of our hearts.
Resident
Posted: Friday, March 30, 2012 1:33:33 AM

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Yes. It's painful, really. A deep, resonating longing that's hard to ignore
and impossible to satisfy.

Really, the only thing you can do is deal with it. I believe time has the
power to heal just about anything (maybe not entirely, but enough to
bear), and there's really very little advice to give. So...try not to think
about the person too much, try to enjoy your own company and the
company of your friends, and as time goes on, it'll begin to hurt less.

Are you truly awake?
kissinglover
Posted: Wednesday, April 11, 2012 5:11:54 AM

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i got hurt several times.
it's not possible to stop me from falling for it even though i know i shouldn't be involved...
Dontholien
Posted: Thursday, April 12, 2012 2:21:43 PM

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I havent but my partner did crybaby and the person he couldnt have wasnt me, i was the reason he couldnt have her.............


Anyhoo, verrrrrry long story short, we all ended up hurt, there were lots of tears but somhow out of all that craziness we got a happy ending. Mental when you think about it
dune
Posted: Thursday, April 12, 2012 3:28:44 PM

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yes, my best friend to whom i am just a really good friend... it sucks
camcan
Posted: Thursday, April 12, 2012 3:40:36 PM

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I believe we all did at one time or another after all we are human.
BSlain
Posted: Thursday, April 12, 2012 6:48:30 PM

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I don't believe I've fallen in love, or even know what love is yet, but there's been a time where I felt miserable because I could not be with someone.
Holty0101
Posted: Saturday, April 21, 2012 5:06:50 PM

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I am right now. Its absolutly crap. I hate it becuase we see each other so much and when we see each other were usually hugging, but sometimes not asking out could be good, it could be good having an almost forbidden love. It stll sucks though :P
StillUndecided
Posted: Monday, April 23, 2012 6:48:26 AM

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