Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

Display Pic Options · View
dune
Posted: Monday, February 27, 2012 10:49:44 PM

Rank: Active Ink Slinger

Joined: 10/24/2011
Posts: 12
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?
Fugly
Posted: Monday, February 27, 2012 11:05:30 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 9/11/2010
Posts: 1,005
coffee
1Zratedgal
Posted: Monday, February 27, 2012 11:19:02 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 11/1/2011
Posts: 618
Location: Northern California, United States
Honestly,

I look at their profiles and if all they have is pics of their dicks, then I feel they have nothing to offer.

If there is no substance and something interesting besides a pic of their cocks, then I move on.

Kisses!

Steph
perkynipples
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 12:42:53 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 12/13/2011
Posts: 360
Location: Pittsburgh, United States
It really does depend on the message. But in general I like to see who I'm talking to. If they explain why they have no picture I might be more inclined to chat.

Bunker Love
My Dream my latest stopry
icecreamcandy
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 9:32:16 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 3/11/2010
Posts: 108
Location: United States
1Zratedgal wrote:
Honestly,

I look at their profiles and if all they have is pics of their dicks, then I feel they have nothing to offer.

If there is no substance and something interesting besides a pic of their cocks, then I move on.

Kisses!

Steph



So true!

flower




Ice cream + Candy = Yummy
VanGogh
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:56:13 PM

Rank: Sarcastic Coffee Aficionado

Joined: 2/10/2012
Posts: 3,047
Location: Vancouver, Canada
yup .... coffee

A Milf series combined with Office Sex *fans face* .... The Secretary and The Student
starting with The Secretary and The Student - first part

Enjoy!!

For the Anal Lovers .... come enjoy my RR honoured An Alluring Ass

Another Sex in the Office Poem (I know you love those!!) In Your Office

Dancing_Doll
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 6:07:13 PM

Rank: Alpha Blonde

Joined: 2/17/2010
Posts: 6,296
Location: West Coast
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.


Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 6:15:26 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
Yep I wont add people who dont as it's so easy just to upload a avatar having a sort of picture to the person i'm talking with gives them a face that i can familiarize myself with and that in tern gives me a sort of trust bond with that person so if they dont even bother with that then i wont bother with them.
VanGogh
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 7:20:59 PM

Rank: Sarcastic Coffee Aficionado

Joined: 2/10/2012
Posts: 3,047
Location: Vancouver, Canada
actually .... this has happened yet again tonight ... so I am gonna vent.

What is the deal with you guys .... the Guest AV ..... NO other personal info or pics on your profile, YET you wanna know what we look like, how tall, breast size, etc etc

When, I do allow a guy to "view" my personal photos .... they think I am RUDE when I ask, "so .... are you going to share your photos?"

These are some of the FOREVER excuse why they (the guys) don't share:

1) .... I work in an industry that would frown if they found me here (like, what? .... your work suspects you are here and they are gonna go looking at lush to find you????)

2) .... I had someone from work find me here, it was so embarrassing (oh, yeah, what about the person that found you??)

3) .... I am married .... so it's not cool to share my pics

4) .... I am a private person

good lord!! coffee you think you are that important to hide in secrecy??

so ... after my last little chat with the red-silouette .... fck it ... no AV, you are lazy ... not want to share (but ask me to share with you) .... block.

ahhhh .... time for a wine.

3601



A Milf series combined with Office Sex *fans face* .... The Secretary and The Student
starting with The Secretary and The Student - first part

Enjoy!!

For the Anal Lovers .... come enjoy my RR honoured An Alluring Ass

Another Sex in the Office Poem (I know you love those!!) In Your Office

Buz
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 7:37:08 PM

Rank: The Linebacker

Joined: 3/2/2011
Posts: 5,824
Location: Atlanta, United States
I say we lobby Nicola to make this the default avatar. I don't think anyone will get lucky making friends or cybering with this. Or maybe they will.




secretcharm
Posted: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 9:29:58 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 2/26/2012
Posts: 149
Location: In front of my computer
buzz!!

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”
― Oscar Wilde
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 3:32:01 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
It really depends on the message, but a picture helps.
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 3:48:50 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
A picture will get my interest started, but you better tell me why I should be interested.

If you post a picture of your cock, even after I clearly post that you will be deleted. If you do Zippo

Is it than some men can not read or they can not comprehend?
Ruthie
Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 4:32:38 PM

Rank: Story Verifier

Joined: 10/21/2010
Posts: 2,385
Location: United States
dune wrote:
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?


Yes. Yes I am.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 01, 2012 5:59:06 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
PersonalAssistant wrote:
actually .... this has happened yet again tonight ... so I am gonna vent.

What is the deal with you guys .... the Guest AV ..... NO other personal info or pics on your profile, YET you wanna know what we look like, how tall, breast size, etc etc

When, I do allow a guy to "view" my personal photos .... they think I am RUDE when I ask, "so .... are you going to share your photos?"

These are some of the FOREVER excuse why they (the guys) don't share:

1) .... I work in an industry that would frown if they found me here (like, what? .... your work suspects you are here and they are gonna go looking at lush to find you????)

2) .... I had someone from work find me here, it was so embarrassing (oh, yeah, what about the person that found you??)

3) .... I am married .... so it's not cool to share my pics

4) .... I am a private person

good lord!! coffee you think you are that important to hide in secrecy??

so ... after my last little chat with the red-silouette .... fck it ... no AV, you are lazy ... not want to share (but ask me to share with you) .... block.

ahhhh .... time for a wine.

3601



Yeah I agree. I figure you could at least take the time to put a cartoon or a scenic pic or something there. I got excuse #1 the last time I asked a silhouette about it in a chat. I promptly went through my friends list and deleted all silhouettes.
summtibabe
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 9:03:36 AM

Rank: Active Ink Slinger

Joined: 1/18/2012
Posts: 33
Location: United States
I like a picture, but it's not a deal breaker. What is a deal breaker is how he approaches me, whether we meet in a chat room, email, or instant chat. I want to read about him in his profile, find out something about him, so if its blank, I don't respond. And the approach is most important. If it seems as if he wants to get to know me, rather than wham bam, then we can move on.
ILoveRed
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 10:43:52 AM

Rank: Rookie Scribe

Joined: 3/1/2012
Posts: 6
Location: United States
Yes unless his message is interesting. It's not fair you can see me but I can't see you.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 3:25:57 PM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,300
Location: Cakeland, United States
dune wrote:
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?


Do like the women do, man... post a photo of your favorite kitty cat or cuddly doggie. That's old school, Yahoo Personals technique...man.

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
Guest
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 4:27:23 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
Personal assistant put it very well....

And, like DD said, there are hundreds of Lush AVs to choose from, so, why not use one??

I took the time to upload and AV, why can't you? Also, I've just looked at your profile - while you have some info there, it's not much... I like to have some sort of idea of who I'm adding before I do, you know?

Oh, Buzz - that is an AWESOME idea for the standard AV!!! Love it!!
Guest
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 7:19:17 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
I don't like the usual red on white Av, so secretive and if they don't have anything in their information,
well they just made up my mind for me.
Mistress_of_words
Posted: Friday, March 02, 2012 8:26:16 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 2/14/2011
Posts: 591
Location: At my keyboard, writing stories for you
For me it depends on two things:

1) How they approach me and whether it shows any indication that they have, for example, read one of my stories, or looked at my profile.
"Hi, will you be my mistress" tends to come up a lot. That will get you nowhere. "Hi, I read your story and I really liked it," may be more successful. "Hi, I'm so-and-so, I really liked the way you portrayed x-character, what do you think about y-interesting topic of discussion," will get you an express reply.

2) Whether their profile shows them to be interested in... well anything really. Besides sex, we all get that one, I need to know what ELSE.
So if your profile shows cock pics and interests are listed as "tits" and "creampies" then you will be ignored. If they list something real, great. If it lists things I like too, even better. And it helps if it shows that you have posted a comment on a story or on the forum within the activity list's memory.

Ahh, hang on, all of the above applies to people with pictures too. So I guess the short answer to your question is no, not at all.

Although, lack of avatar pic tends to go hand in hand with tossers who want to cam with sluts. It's a stereotype, but an accurate one, unfortunately. Does it really take much effort to run a google image search and pick something?

hartclass
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 4:32:09 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 7/3/2008
Posts: 384
Location: United Kingdom
Dancing_Doll wrote:
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.


As always - Dancing words of wisdom - but also your bio needs to say something about you as well - its not too difficult to do guy's.

Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 9:56:11 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
If you are unwilling to share something about you, why should i share anything about me? No pic, no response.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 11:26:29 AM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,300
Location: Cakeland, United States
dune wrote:
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?




If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
sprite
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 11:53:39 AM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,610
Location: My Tower, United States
Speaking for myself (and probably a large part of the female population here). Take a look at the hits on my page. Now, take a look at the hits on YOUR page. Take a moment to wonder "Wow. Her page has been viewed 1,000 times more than mine. I wonder how many friend requests, messages to view guys cocks, to chat, to join in on password protected private chats, questions about sex, requests to cyber, she gets? Oh, and how many of those little black boxes does she get of the same?

THEN ask yourself, how does she deal with all of those? Does she answer them all?

No. If i did, I wouldn't have any time for myself. I am a story mod, i keep up with my friends, i post on the forums, i write, i have a Mistress here, and i have a life off line.

Here is how it works. Is someone catches my eye, someone i don't know, i will write back. A generic message from a generic guy with a generic avatar ain't gonna do it. take the time (5 minutes or less) to find an avatar! what is so hard about that? it doesn't have to be a picture of you - or even sex related. Let it tell me something about you! if you're into music, post a guitar or a musician you really dig. if you're it sports, post your favorite teams logo. if your into bdsm, post a picture of handcuffs.

And then, take another 15 minutes to fill out a bio telling me about yourself. put up wall paper, make it catch my eye, make yourself sound interesting. thing of it as shopping. if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on? Yeah, i might find one of those 20 that is really comfy, but i'm not going to spend an hour trying them all on.

sell yourself. it's not that hard. a generic avatar screams 'i am not interesting and i don't care enough to make myself interesting'. So why would that appeal to me?

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 11:56:16 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
dune wrote:
Ladies of Lush in all seriousness I ask, if a guys sends you a message are you really going to ignore it simply because he does not have a display pic?


I see that you still haven't had time to get yourself an AV?

Damned shame...

EDIT: - Sprite hit the nail on the head...
Shylass
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 12:10:06 PM

Rank: Gingerbread Lover

Joined: 1/6/2012
Posts: 3,595
Location: Trumpton, United Kingdom
sprite wrote:
if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on?


I HATE shopping, but... I NEEEEEED THOSE SHOES!!! drunken

If I see somebody without an avatar, I reckon they have something to hide (in a bad way), or they're laaaaazy, or pooter illiterate. The latter two are both things that can be solved. The former makes me think they're a politician (Very Bad).


Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.

***
********************************CLICK THE BANNERS TO BUY THESE WILLY-STIFFENING BOOKS!********************************
Warlock
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 12:13:09 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 2/24/2012
Posts: 199
Location: Where I need to be right now, United States
Dancing_Doll wrote:
Yes. It takes about 30 seconds to pick from one of the many uploaded images that Lush offers as avatar choices or you can upload any personalized image you want in even less time. To just have an impersonal generic avatar just seems... I dunno... lazy. No offence. Most people don't use their real pics as their avatars, so picking an image that represents you on some level will differentiate you in the sea of red/white zombies.


Perfect response..
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 12:13:24 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,411
yes, if you don't have time to put up an avatar picture, or have nothing about you on your profile, you are not worth my time. simple as that :p
lafayettemister
Posted: Thursday, March 08, 2012 12:21:23 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/4/2010
Posts: 6,373
Location: Alabama, United States
sprite wrote:
Speaking for myself (and probably a large part of the female population here). Take a look at the hits on my page. Now, take a look at the hits on YOUR page. Take a moment to wonder "Wow. Her page has been viewed 1,000 times more than mine. I wonder how many friend requests, messages to view guys cocks, to chat, to join in on password protected private chats, questions about sex, requests to cyber, she gets? Oh, and how many of those little black boxes does she get of the same?

THEN ask yourself, how does she deal with all of those? Does she answer them all?

No. If i did, I wouldn't have any time for myself. I am a story mod, i keep up with my friends, i post on the forums, i write, i have a Mistress here, and i have a life off line.

Here is how it works. Is someone catches my eye, someone i don't know, i will write back. A generic message from a generic guy with a generic avatar ain't gonna do it. take the time (5 minutes or less) to find an avatar! what is so hard about that? it doesn't have to be a picture of you - or even sex related. Let it tell me something about you! if you're into music, post a guitar or a musician you really dig. if you're it sports, post your favorite teams logo. if your into bdsm, post a picture of handcuffs.

And then, take another 15 minutes to fill out a bio telling me about yourself. put up wall paper, make it catch my eye, make yourself sound interesting. thing of it as shopping. if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on? Yeah, i might find one of those 20 that is really comfy, but i'm not going to spend an hour trying them all on.

sell yourself. it's not that hard. a generic avatar screams 'i am not interesting and i don't care enough to make myself interesting'. So why would that appeal to me?


It's really hard being on Lush and having a vagina. No matter what your profile says, dudes are going to do all that shit you just said. And I admit, when I first joined Lush I was just like that. A kid in a candy store. There were tits and pussy on so many profiles. I just wanted to see them all. Then I realized there were real people behind the avatars and pics. Those tits and pussies were attached to real people. So my attitude and approach changed. My Lushing experince changed, for the better I might add.

There are only a handful of people that I'll send a black box too completely uninvited and out of the blue. I know women get slammed with unwanted and unnecessary boxes and requests and messages. I always feel like an intruder if/when I send to someone. And for people like you, you probably get more stuff in a day than I get in a month. It's times like this i'm glad I have a penis. Haha.





When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.