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foxjack wrote:Depends what your spouse thinks. that's it in a nutshell, isn't it? My husband considers it inappropriate, i think it is fun. but since he would be hurt, it is cheating.
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If your partner knows about and says that its okay then its fine and shouldnt be considered cheating. However, if they dont know about it or even if they do but dont want you to be doing it, then yes, it is cheating.
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sex isn't all physical, mental stimulation is hugely important.
not sharing online sex with your partner is probably cheating.
i suppose it might depend on the boundaries you have worked out with each other.
that being said, i have cheated physically and via cyber...
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It's only cheating if you keep it a secret from your real world spouse/mate. If you're open and honest with your dealings, then there is nothing to feel guilty over.
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sluttykitty85 wrote:Ok, so say you are married, and the husband as it turns out is very traditional and beyond vanilla. Also consider that the wife has talked to the husband about certain desires she has, things that really get her going. These things make the husband uncomfortable and he refuses to even try. So wife goes online and finds an outlet for her sexual frustration in the form of cyber sex. Is it still cheating?
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well just like reading an erotic storie, or watching a porn movie, and Masturbating, is this all cheating too. Besides you should try it all, because life is short and there are so little things that make us happy.
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I would hope that when I find another partner that she is so irresistible, and the sex is so hot, that I won't want anyone else.
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Yes. Plain and simple. Its an emotional connection.
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I have never considered it cheating. Neither has my wife. We have no secrets. We talk about our cyber sex partners with one another and sometimes even compare notes as to what each one likes in case we trade partners. We never actually meet someone unless the other spouse knows who what when and where. We prefer to swing together , same room etc. if we do an actual meet. but we have gone off alone. It has done nothing but spice up our sex life and make our marriage stronger. We both know where HOME is.
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i think we should ask the partners of the people who say it is NOT cheating and see what they say
however....if you are jonsing for sex....and need a little help..off...it is the perfect safe sex outlet
as i said before....do u choose love or sex....after being together say...over a decade?
Or if your partner no longer wants sex..but loves you....
But if your partner knows..and is 100 percent fine with it...i believe it is way better than going out and "doing" a bunch of people
In the end it is your bedroom...bring what u may to it.
just cause no harm...to others
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my hubby doesn't know I come on this site and I do feel I am cheating.
However if it wasn't for this site easing my frustrations, not sure I would still be with him......
It has also helped me that now I know I am not alone which is absolutely great
can't talk to friends and family about the sort of things that I discuss with some really great friends I have made on here
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Ask your wife.
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
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[quote=honeyx]my hubby doesn't know I come on this site and I do feel I am cheating.
However if it wasn't for this site easing my frustrations, not sure I would still be with him......
It has also helped me that now I know I am not alone which is absolutely great
can't talk to friends and family about the sort of things that I discuss with some really great friends I have made on here
[if it wasn't for this site easing my frustrations, not sure I would still be with him......
]
i have to argee with honeyx, i ve been close to breaking up due to sexual problems at home...
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I guess in essence it is cheating...but like some previous posts, I think if I don't ease tensions online (be it porn, masturbating, cyber, etc) I'm not sure I'd still be with her? It is a dilemma because I don't want to leave her, but sexually we are v different and have grown further apart in that way (over 20 yrs!)... She is ultra conventional, I want to try things (I'm not talking weird things, just oral for starters!) but she has a very narrow 'comfort zone' in terms of sex. She's happy with things as they are... hence online fun and Lush...
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I can see Bill online now: "Watch my fingers: I did not type sex with that woman".
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Online is fantasy. So long as no plans are made to meet up and there is no physical contact then no harm is done. I have never had an opportunity or ever had an online sex partner so if the time ever came to engage is such an act, I would not know how to go about it. Just never really found it to be appealing. One never knows who exactly is at the other end of the keyboard.
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Online is just that.. if you are in a safe and happy relationship and you participate in some online adventure it doesn't "cheat" your partner out of anything.. are you cheating Wal-Mart out of anything because you shopped online at Target? in a perfect world your relationship is the cake and all of this other stuff is merely icing.. if anything it makes the cake better.. there's an old adage that says.. "it doesn't matter where you get your appetite from as long as you come home for supper".. a simplistic view I'm sure.. but online adventures are only relevant if you allow yourself to complicate them..
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No...I have many online lovers, but i would never dream of leaving the woman I love.My wife.
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